Nobody Likes A Crybaby

Nobody Likes A Crybaby

September 18th, 2007 @ 2:35 pm by Mrs. Penguin

So, I confess: I’m a crybaby. And we’re not talking about tears of mourning, tears of anger, or even tears of joy; we’re talking sobs because “it’s-Thursday-and-when-I-woke-up-this-morning, I-thought-for-a-second-that-it-was-Friday” kind of tears. Some more examples? I cry when I LOOK at “The Notebook” dvd. You heard me, I ACTUALLY cry when I thumb through my movie collection, and come across the box.

So… you know where this one is going… how will I survive my wedding day? When I come down the aisle, instead of looking radiant and in love, will I be blotchy faced and tear stained? How can I prevent this almost certain event from occurring?

Here’s some techniques from around the web:

Close your eyes, and take deep breaths to clear your mind. (Maybe try this one right before walking down the aisle, not so much during)
Tickle the roof of your mouth with your tongue.
Chew a piece of gum. Crying is said to be difficult when you are chewing something.
Finally, I’ve heard that dabbing a couple drops of peppermint oil behind your ears might help.

All great advice (and I’ll definitely try the last two the next time I anticipate a few tears), but here are a few practical tips for embracing your tears:

Tuck some tissue, and maybe even a couple q-tips into your bouquet, and make sure your Maid of Honor has a few extras on hand to swipe under your eyes.
Wear waterproof mascara, or even opt for false lashes with no mascara at all.
Have retouching makeup in a convenient place where you and your groom will walk to directly after the ceremony.
After crying, run spoons under cold water and hold them over your eyes for a couple minutes. Keep the spoons cold by rerunning the under water. This keeps the puffiness and swelling down on and around your eyes.
Most importantly, REDUCE THE STRESS! Try as hard as you can to “hand over” your wedding to your friends, family, and coordinators the day of. Make sure everyone knows their role in the preparation and execution of your wedding so you can do your best to kick back, relax and enjoy your day!

Tears of joy are wonderful, but I really want to avoid puffy eyes for my wedding day pictures.

Are there any tricks that you’ve used or heard of to prevent tears?

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17 Responses to “Nobody Likes A Crybaby”

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kgr

I am also a massive crier, but I made myself hold it together during the wedding because I knew that once I got started, I would be sobbing hysterically. So I just took a lot of deep breaths and didn’t let myself go off the deep end because I really wanted to get through my vows. I thought about the importance of that moment and the words I was saying.

I also practiced saying my vows for weeks before the wedding while I was out walking my dog so they were very familiar to me. This also allowed me to cry a lot as I walked through the dog park. My dog thought I was crazy, but by practicing, it made it easier to say them without crying the day of the wedding. I loved our vows and by practicing them for so long, I now have them memorized and repeat them to myself, especially when my husband is driving me crazy.

9/18/07 @ 2:48 pm (reply)

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bunnybride

I am not looking forward to it but know that if he cries, I will cry. He almost had me going at our wedding prep retreat and I avoided looking at him.

One trick is to keep your eyes open and look up. That is what I do to stop from being a wuss in public.

My big issue is the make up. I have the waterproof Dior Show and false eyelashes… but don’t think I am going to go too heavy on the eye make-up. That could get messy.

9/18/07 @ 2:53 pm (reply)

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Moi

Go ahead and cry the happy tears!

9/18/07 @ 3:03 pm (reply)

Guest

Tyra said on her show to inhal deeply through your nose and it dries your tears…try that…

FI still always makes fun of me that I didn’t cry when we got engaged but I cry during anything on tv.

9/18/07 @ 3:07 pm (reply)

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tina

the way this crybaby handled it was to totally break down in the few days before the wedding! have a nervous breakdown, and cry like crazy at your rehearsal. after that release you will be able to relax and just enjoy the experience on your wedding day.

9/18/07 @ 3:11 pm (reply)

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Alex

I would recommend a nice handkerchief or two instead of tissues, they just look classier when you’re all fancied up!

9/18/07 @ 3:20 pm (reply)

Bee

Mrs. Bluebell (message) 294 posts, Helper bee

Haha yeah I carefully remembered to hand one of my bridesmaids some tissues to keep in her pocket (some of the dresses had pockets but others didn’t) but…..then when I started crying was at the point during the ceremony when Mr. Bluebell’s dad was playing gaohu - RIGHT IN BETWEEN ME AND THAT BRIDESMAID. She managed to eventually get some tissues to my MOH who passed them to me, but it was a pretty big production and then right after that we did the ring exchange and I didn’t have anything to do with my tissue so I had to just throw it on the ground. So my only advice is - plan it out better than I did!! Haha. But yeah, I was pretty sure I would cry too, but I wasn’t prepared to just lose it the way I did when I first saw Mr. Bluebell!!

9/18/07 @ 3:46 pm (reply)

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griffen

omg - me too! I heart miss penguin

9/18/07 @ 3:46 pm (reply)

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Moi

I agree about having a handkerchief. There are tons of pretty ones available (ebay, even). It can be wrapped loosely under your hand at the base of the bouquet, which keeps it handy, plus it absorbs hand sweat.

9/18/07 @ 4:20 pm (reply)

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Jessica

I feel you on this one, girl. I cry when I think about my wedding, even when I’m at work. I cry when I think about music I may dance to at my wedding. I cry HYSTERICALLY when I think about the song from Muppets Take Manhattan when Kermit and Miss Piggy get married. I am a total sap.

I’ve come to accept that I am going to cry a lot at the wedding, so I’m planning on preparing myself with waterproof mascara, visine, some sort of face mist to refresh my puffy eyes, and I’m giving both my dad and fiance a hankie to hold for me.

9/18/07 @ 4:47 pm (reply)

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alison

I’m really worried about this too. I get quite emotional at dumb commercials… I can only imagine how I will feel at the wedding. I’m hoping a bit of wine (not too much mind, no one likes a sloppy bride) will take the edge off

9/18/07 @ 5:33 pm (reply)

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Bee

Miss Chickadee (message) 208 posts, Helper bee

Planning this wedding has turned me into a major crybaby as well! I can’t listen to half the songs on my iPod anymore without melting down in tears and even The Hills made me cry last week (I’ve no idea why…)! I’ve heard that meditation really helps, but I’ve never tried anything like that. I think I’m probably going to go the waterproof mascara/pretty hankie route, myself.

9/18/07 @ 5:45 pm (reply)

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joyce

i am extremely emotional too. no matter how hard i try NOT to cry, if i see my FI crying, I will cry. no doubt about it. my plan is to look somewhere else or as bunnybride suggested, look upwards.

9/18/07 @ 7:37 pm (reply)

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kelleyatbrideorama

I just let it happen, and surprinsgly, it wasnt as bad as i thought. I did cry..but i laughed and smiled more than i cried. but id say just let it happen..and maybe take some of your formal pics before the ceremony if possible. thats what we did.

9/18/07 @ 7:38 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pumpkin

I am a HUGE crybaby too and I was so nervous about the red nose and puffy eyes that looking back I now realize that I subconsciously made decisions that removed emotional moments from the day. For example - I did not have a father/daughter dance, partly because my Dad wasn’t into it and partly because I was afraid of sobbing. I cracked a little during our vows but that was it.

I am not sure that I regret those choices or not - I guess time will tell - but I do know that I absolutely noticed it throughout the day and also now when I look at pictures and realize that no one else cried either. I worry a little bit that my wedding wasn’t as “special” as it could have been because of that. It is a weird feeling to have afterwards. I also wonder if the day will be less memorable to others because it wasn’t as touching as others I have been to.

I know this is somewhat rambling but I think it is important to keep in mind. In the end no one will care if you cried but you *might* care that you didn’t…

9/18/07 @ 10:45 pm (reply)

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christigpa (message) 172 posts, Blushing bee

Lately I’ve been such a crybaby - songs that remind me of our relationship, songs that we’re playing at the wedding, thinking about the ceremony, thinking about marrying my honey, discussing the difference of grosgrain vs. organdy vs. satin ribbons on the favors. Wedding planning is so emotional!

9/18/07 @ 10:55 pm (reply)

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Liezl

I took Calmetes. And STILL cried! LOL

9/25/07 @ 4:58 am (reply)