Getting Back to Normal

Getting Back to Normal

September 21st, 2007 @ 1:36 pm by Mrs. Violet

I highly underestimated how stressful wedding planning would be. I can honestly say that I’m glad it’s over. I am also glad that as nervous as I was the days leading up to the wedding, I did do my best to enjoy it and now I can look back and cherish those days with good thoughts.

The common question asked nowadays, of course, is “how is married life?” Considering how long Mr. Violet and I have been together, it’s no surprise when I say “nothing has changed.” Since we’d already been living together, we were already used to each other’s ways, so in that respect, nothing has changed. He has always been good to me - drives me to the train station in the morning, makes me coffee, runs my errands, opens the car door for me, etc. However, it’s not entirely the same. Our pyschological mindsets have definitely changed. It feels really good to be a married couple. I love the fact that he goes out of his way to always tell people, “hey, meet my wife..” It’s really cute how eager he is to tell the world that I’m his wife and he’s my husband. I’m still trying to get used to it.

Now that we are slowly getting back to normal, we are planning more dates together as we eagerly wait for our honeymoon in November. We also want to grow a small garden of hyacinths & daffodils so that we can have fresh flowers for spring.

What was your life like after the wedding? Back to reality madness or pure bliss? I think we fall in between somewhere. Work responsibilities, home chores and family issues quickly surfaced after the wedding, but at the same time, our love has deepened even more. I cook our meals more happily now for my husband. I think he feels the same way too when he takes out the trash, lol!

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9 Responses to “Getting Back to Normal”

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Renee

Us too. Married 3 weeks tomorrow and loving it. We also lived together for so long that we haven’t noticed much different. But there are some small things.

I think he’s a bit too shy yet to say Wife, but then again, he hasn’t had a lot of opportunity to yet. It’s funny that you say you enjoy making him dinner more now. That’s how I’ve felt the past few weeks. But perhaps it’s because for the many months leading up to the wedding I was too busy to cook.

Anyway, I’ve been noticing that I’m going out of my way to do things around the house, that before I would just procrastinate on. Trying to be a “good wife” I guess. Ha! guess I’m a traditional girl after all.

9/21/07 @ 1:44 pm (reply)

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Aliya (message) 10 posts, Newbee

We’ve been married since August 4th, and I’m so glad the wedding craziness is over with! Don’t get me wrong, we had a GREAT wedding, but I actually find it really refreshing to be back to normal post-honeymoon. We had three weeks between our wedding date and when we left for our ‘moon, and even that time didn’t feel totally normal b/c we were getting ready for a huge trip.

Now, although a lot hasn’t changed, I agree w/Mrs. Violet on the whole “mindset” thing. All in all, I love normal life way more than Wedding Time.

9/21/07 @ 1:56 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Butterscotch (message) 233 posts, Helper bee

We are at a little over a month of wedded bliss and I think things still are hectic. Work duties were at the top of my list to get back in order, then the house, reconnect with family and friends. But it is hard! And we are putting “us” on the list too. I got all my thank you notes out so that was a huge task off my plate and it made me feel like the wedding madness was over. I think if I can just have a weekend that isn’t filled up with stuff I will be ok.

9/21/07 @ 1:56 pm (reply)

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Angel

I remember loving the honeymoon because I was still enjoying the wedding high, the lack of wedding stress, and the fact that I didn’t have to go back to the real world just yet.

I think I sort of crashed afterwards. I tend to do that though with anything stressful. Being married did change something, but we could never put our finger on it. I think it was making the statement of our relationship in front of so many family and friends. Not just “oh she’s dating so and so”, but the “hey look at us, we’re doing this forever”…maybe it’s that mindset.

And yes, being introduced as his wife is awesome.

9/21/07 @ 2:33 pm (reply)

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Dannie

Yes, wedding planning is a lot of work. In a way, I’m glad that it’s all over. But honestly, I think I’m in withdrawal mode. I don’t know what to do with all my free time now. Haha. We had two seperate weddings on two seperate weekends so the planning process was pretty crazy and hectic.

We’ve been married since August 4th and 11th (haha). And everything is exactly the same. We always get asked, “So how’s married life?” And I always answer, “Exactly the same besides the new last name.”

We’re still getting you to calling ourselves husband and wife. We went to a wedding 3 weeks ago and he introduced me to someone, “This is my wife, Dannie” and I literally frozed for a few seconds because it was so weird to hear him say that. Haha.

Congrats, Mrs. Violet!

9/21/07 @ 2:43 pm (reply)

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Moi

Yes, we feel different post-wedding. Decisions about time, money, family, career, etc. now permanently impact both of us. It makes us very conscious about how our decisions impact not just me, or just the other person, but also the marriage itself, as this new third entity.

9/21/07 @ 2:45 pm (reply)

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Sept Bride

We will be married 3 weeks tomorrow as well. We also have been living together for almost a year so not much has changed. Without getting graphic, one thing that has changed is in the bedroom if you know what I mean. For some reason, I feel “closer” to my husband now and it makes it that much better. Don’t get me wrong, it was always good, but now it just seems better now that we are married.

9/21/07 @ 3:35 pm (reply)

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Lauren

I agree! We lived together before we got married, but in the last month, it does feel like we are closer. And I love it when he sends me emails from work that say, “Hello wife.”

9/21/07 @ 4:20 pm (reply)

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miss violet

Sept Bride - I know what you mean! =)

Keep the newly wed stories coming! It makes me so happy to hear all about your happiness too!

9/21/07 @ 4:46 pm (reply)