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Yeah, not so much the case with me.
I never imagined what Mr. CB would be like when he became the groom. As much as I am wedding crazed, I never thought I’d be making all the decisions on my own either. I knew Mr. CB was the type of guy that knew exactly what he wanted but I never knew he’d be as particular as me. It’s because of this, I brought him along with me when I went dress hunting because of all people, he was the only person I wanted to wow! and he saw and pointed out things that only helped bring me closer to “THE ONE.” As much as I wanted to surprise him, I just couldn’t make the decision without him. He’s definitely not the tell me when and where and I’ll show up type of guy. The guy has an opinion about everything even down to color, table setting, flowers, AND the bridemaid dresses (he likes long dresses)- haha. But it’s good, I like that he’s involved and not “I-don’t-really-care” type of attitude.
I think it works out great this way, he knows exactly every thing that is going on since we’ve made the conscious choice to be mutually involved in every decision we made. It has bummed me out before when some people have had the misconception that either one of us is getting our own way in the wedding but we’ve learned to trust each other and not let others influence our choices. It hasn’t always been easy but I love that we made each and every decision together.
How involved is your groom?
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That’s very cool. I think grooms (that can be) are becoming more involved than ever…anyone have data to back that up?
Some of the descisions were a blur, but he was there for most of them (sans ebay dress of course). He had the most fun creating the ceremony though….what a great excuse to talk all lovey to each other!
My FI is semi involved. He wanted to be in on the cake tasting (he is picking the flavors and I get to design the look) and he wants to help with the menu choices, wants a say in the tux for himself and best man, wanted to see the church before I booked it, is completely incharge of the reception music - that’s totally out of my hands (phew) . . . he doesn’t care about the flowers, invites, colors, MOH dress, begging to see mine but I won’t share that, not involved in the favors or seating cards, etc . . . he knows what I want and what I’m doing as I’ve been sharing my vision & ideas along the way and I always get “Okay Baby, looks good”. I think we are both happy with the level of participation.
my fiance sounds exactly like yours! we’ve made every decision together, sometimes deferring to the other when it doesn’t make much of a difference to us. he’s been most helpful in all of the research and negotiating with the vendors and i feel so blessed that this wedding planning project is truly a team effort between us. he’s been right there beside me gluing and hand sewing bindings of our invitations. and yes, he does have an opinion about most everything. but he did want to be surprised about my dress. so he didn’t come with me on that one. there have been some arguments along the way of course (damn that wedding registry!), but i think we’ve definitely grown so much as a couple and practiced marriage skills of communication, compromise and forgiveness.
My FI is semi-involved too… but I’ve learned that I have to kind of coax him into making decisions kind of like Gus Portokalos needs in “My Big Fat Greek Wedding.” Otherwise, he won’t think twice about it. hehe
My FI is pretty involved, too. I also wanted his input on my dress. He’s much more computer and photoshop savy than I am, so he’s been a great help with the monogram design, website and other technical stuff. He has come with to every vendor meeting, except for the florist and our DOC. It’s mostly been fantastic (except for the time that we bickered for 15 minutes over what shade of blue the cardstock should be on our invitations)…
My groom is really involved. He even started wedding blogging which I think is hilarious.
He has been there for the brainstorming of ideas to finalizing details with vendor contracts. We get the chance to trade-off on being motivated with the wedding planning and it has been working so far.
Okay, glad to see I wasn’t the only one. All I could come up with is Stargate
Ahhh thanks Miss CB. I had NO idea what it stood for either!
I was thinking about this too - Mr GB has been to every vendor meeting and the point of contact for us with all our vendors. I’m shy and nervous, so he’s the one they call! 
I’m all about details, but he does all the logistics and communications.
Our vendors are always a little shocked with how involved he is.
haha, thanks miss cherry blossom. i figured it out as soon as i clicked on the comments link. lol
my FI went with me dress shopping too! i couldn’t decide on a dress without him! like you, i felt his opinion was the only one that truly count.
I call my fiance “the bride”, he is wayy into wedding planning and has needed to be involved in almost every decision. (except my dress.)
I love it, it makes me feel close to him and it takes a lot of pressure off me.
When we registered for gifts FI asked:
FI: When do we get these?
Me: At the bridal shower?
FI: So, you get all the gifts, at your party?
Me: Yes!
FI: Why?
Me: Because I have to bear children.
FI: Well, then I’m having a man-bath.
He didn’t end up having a man-bath, Thank God!
that’s just like my fiance. I brought him along for the dress hunt because he has good taste. And amazingly the one dress that i didn’t really like in the magazine, he liked and made me try on. It turned out to be the ‘Wow’ dress and the hunt was over in 3 days.
I think it’s great when the groom gets involved with the details. My coworker just got married in July and her husband was the same way. She went to him with everything and waited for his input. My fiance, on the other hand, is definitely NID. It doesn’t matter to him one bit. The only things he decided on was his tuxedo and the photographer.
Mr. Caramel is SUPER involved too! He wants to make every decision together because its both of our wedding. It was interesting to find out that he is even MORE particular than me on most of the details. I think overall it makes decision making longer, but of course — it’s definitely more sweet.
The Boy is incredibly involved. His party line is basically, i didn’t know I had an opinion on these things, but if you ask me, I’ll have one. He wants to know all the options, do all the research, I’ve even drawn him sketches of how the different ideas of BMs dresses with cardigans/wraps/long/short/babies/MOH will look so he can decide!
I really love that he cares so much to make our day so special. Otherwise, I’d wonder what on earth I was going to all the hard work for if it was to sign up to a one-sided partnership. I want him there 100% too and bless his socks, he is!!
I feel exactly the same as you and I’m trying to get him involved by giving him a lot of information and saying - here, organize this - call these people, etc. He’s awesome and I don’t feel all stressed out, and he loves making me feel better as well. I really depend on his input for a lot of decisions.
I must admit that I too am a bit surprised at how involved my groom is in this whole process. When we first started he blatantly stated that once the venue and photographer was decided upon, everything else would be up to me. Needless to say at the time, it sounded great, but as I dove deeper into the process I realized there’s a lot of decisions to be made. Surprisingly he has been giving me more insight and opinions, thus making the decision making easier. As a matter of fact, just last night, we painstakingly began making our direction cards and being the extremely detailed person he is, he surprised me by volunteering to do all 100 of them by himself! (He really thought I got in the way, but hey whatever works!) No more papercutting for me! He’s all about the ruler, pencil, and paper cutter! Gotta love the guy!
My groom was VERY involved with everything too, up until the last week or two before the wedding (then he couldn’t handle anything more “wedding”). We went on all vendor visits together and discussed everything… heck, we even had all of the bridesmaids wear matching dresses because that was what he wanted!
My groom is totally involved. So much so that he has practically taken over the wedding plans himself…which he asked to do! Which really is ok by me because I’ve never been a “yah!-let’s-plan-my-wedding” girl. Pretty much the only things I’ve contributed are MY bouquet, my dress, and invitations. I’d be completely content on just showing up to my wedding with everything already done. But I’m nice so I still go to vendors and stuff with him and put in an opinion every now and again.
My groom is totally involved. So much so that he has practically taken over the wedding plans himself…which he asked to do! Which really is ok by me because I’ve never been a “yah!-let’s-plan-my-wedding” girl. Pretty much the only things I’ve contributed are MY bouquet, my dress, and invitations. I’d be completely content on just showing up to my wedding with everything already done. But I’m nice so I still go to vendors and stuff with him and put in an opinion every now and again. Oh and sometimes calling since he tends to procrastinate.
Michelle, that is the greatest reasoning I’ve ever heard!
My groom is not into details… He’s one of those “it’s your day” guys. But we are planning long distance, so it wasn’t in the budget for him to fly to FL with me for the vendor meetings. He did want to go to the food tasting - and he picked out his tux :). But that’s about it!
My husband does all the negotiatibg. If it meets my minimum requirements he’s all in and takes over to talk prices. If anything changes he’ll consult me but its his show otherwise from then on. Bridesmaid dresses, decorations etc are up to me though to get together. I have showed him some stuff from the other Bees I liked, so that he knows where I am heading design-wise, but I know he will be there when we sign on the other vendors to discuss budget.
I love it because its team work at its best! I do the digging for ideas, colors etc, and he feels he has control over the planning and budget wich is so very important in this business1
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Mrs. Cherry Blossom, San Francisco
Age and Occupation: 27, Administrative Asst.
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, District Sales Manager
Engagement Date: December 23, 2006
Wedding Date: May 3, 2008
Venue: Zen Garden in the East Bay w/ reception in a floor-to-ceiling window Atrium with views of the Zen Garden
About Me: After 5 years of dating, we're finally ready to get hitched! I am a lovah of all things wedding, creative, crafty, and definitely DIY bc I love to add a personal touch to everything I gift or make. In my free time, I like to bake, spend time with our family, friends, and my doggies, read my guilty pleasure celebrity gossip and catch up on TV shows.
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