Wedding Blog

i think the entire thing would be interesting…non-koreans have never seen it so it’ll be their curiosity that comes over them and keeps them involved.

then again, i only know of the paebaek and that always looked cool to me, which is why i’m planning on including that in our wedding.

i don’t know, miss gb, i think i’d be pretty entertained by watching people throw nuts at you… :p

aww you look so cute in the hanbok - it even matches your kitchen!

I too think the chestnuts isn’t so bad - no one really knows what it means anyway unless you tell them-

Korean weddings are funny in general - I went to one where I still remember the groom was wearing these silk pink pants! Then my other friend (her husband is Korean-american) didn’t have anything korean in their wedding ceremony, but she gave out tasteful pairs of ducks as a wedding favors. There is a slip of paper that explains these ducks as traditional korean favor… etc.

My fiance and I are both Korean American and I definitely plan to have pae-baek take place during my reception, but in a separate indoor patio area, which is connected to the ballrom. my sister also did pae-baek during the reception time… before the dinner… on a diferent level of her reception hall. people who wanted to watch had that option and for those who weren’t interested, she had a 2 friends come to teach swing dancing for about 30 minutes. It was actually really fun for everyone, regardless of what you chose to do during that time. i think it is a nice way to pay respects to the family members of both sides. yes, your parents throw chestnuts at you, but I think it is more about bowing to elder members of your family and your husband’s family, as a married couple. it is kinda’ sweet, once you get over the cheese!

like mrs. bee, the paebaek was really important to me. i loved being able to celebrate my heritage. i loved everything it symbolized. it allows you to pay your family members respect and for them a chance to give you words of encouragement and advice. i really do cherish the loving and kind words my hubby’s family and my family said to me during the paebaek. the ceremony is kinda fun and hilarious. some of our best wedding pictures are from the paebaek. and you don’t look like a 80s neon xmas tree.

my hanbok is as precious to me as my wedding dress.

I don’t know- I think if Mr.GB is marrying someone of a different background he should be open to their cultural traditions - and saying it is “creepy” is kind of offensive.

American weddings incorporate traditions which also refer to a woman’s purity and fertility.
So who is he to judge what is acceptable and not-

And the comment about the chicken! Does he know he is marrying into a modern Korean American family? I know it was a joke- but it kind of insinuates backwardness-I am not Korean, but those are the comments that jump out at me- JMO-

sillybride, i believe the duck is a traditional gift from the groom’s side to the bride’s parents as a symbol of marriage since ducks are supposed to be monogamous so mr. gb isn’t totally out of line in offering that.

having chestnuts and dates tossed at you is meant to predict how many boys [chestnuts] and girls [dates] you’ll have. both the groom and bride catch them either with the bride’s skirt or some blanket thing and then later they’re supposed to eat them together.

i’ve already told my mom that i plan on knocking away as many dates as possible.

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