Mr. Jasmine and I never seriously discussed signing a prenuptial agreement. We definitely joked around about it, particularly since we’re both lawyers and Mr. Jasmine even practices family law. As lawyers, it’s something we would advise our clients to consider, particularly clients who have amassed considerable pre-marriage wealth and/or have children. But (maybe hypocritically), we just didn’t see it as necessary for us. We’re entering into our marriage with a fairly clean financial slate and a prenuptial agreement seemed unnecessary. Additionally, it would certainly be frowned upon from a cultural prespective. While divorce is becoming more and more acceptable in South Asian culture, it is still strongly looked down upon (except in cases of abuse or fraud). It woud be certainly considered inappropriate, not to mention inauspicious, to be contemplating the consequences of divorce before we were even married.
Do you agree? Do you think prenups are the death knell to romance or a must-have in our divorce-happy society?
my fiance and i have been debating this for a while. though neither of us is wealthy or have any children, we’re considering worst case scenario. if anything did happen, it would be easier to just have a document that said we leave with what we came in with… but i know it’s unromantic. it is practical. not to say that it’s a fall-back plan of any kind… but just as we create living wills, i think pre-nups are just what they are… preventative. nobody goes into marriage knowing it will end in divorce (i hope!)