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I’m wary of letting my mom choose my dress because her opinion of a “nice” dress is COMPLETELY different from mine. I showed her pictures of what I liked and she said that it was too plain…

I might have been willing to let her choose my cultural dress, however I don’t want big old honking phoenixes and dragons all over my dress, which is a constant fear.

those are beautiful! i’m sure if you are a little wear, you can have them e-mail a picture back to you before the final purchase!

A friend? Yes. My mother? Absolutely not. My mother got married in what very much resembles a prudish nightgown. The two times I had to take her dress shopping with me were nightmares — she suggested everything I hated, and hated everything I liked. When we finally settled on a dress, she threw a fit that I should only get it in gold or ivory, not in the diamond white that I wanted. Personally, I associate ivory or gold dresses with getting married at an older age or a second marriage (I’m 24, first marriage). It took one of my friends, my friend’s mother, and the owner of the bridal salon to shut up my mother and convince her that the white looked great on me (it does). It really disgusts me that she created such a giant scene - a moment I will regret forever. In other words, you couldn’t pay me enough to trust her to pick out my dress.

I think I would let my mom choose for me if I had to. First of all she has great taste, and she knows me so well, my taste, my personality etc.
Actually, when I was choosing my dress, I was conflicted between two gowns and ultimately went with the one that she liked better.

Those pictures are beautiful and should give them a good idea of what you want.

My mom’s tastes runs a little different than mine. Um..okay a lot. Generally, if she doesn’t like, I will. But I don’t think that’s any kind of good guideline to go dress shopping by.

You on the other hand sound like you’ve got it covered. Yes, there’s a chance they could come back with something you don’t like, but it sounds like you’re doing as much preparing as possible and that you’re parents understand your tastes. You might want to send them with a “do not play” list though.

AND….what a great story this will be to go with the outfit!

I think that for a traditional wedding dress - I wouldn’t let anyone choose it for me… but I would be okay with it with the lehngas, saris, et al b/c the designs are all so gorgeous and ultimately the dress will be made to order once it’s brought back to the States (so it will still be a custom-fit).

i’d definitely trust my mom and dad–they are surprisingly hip indian parents! but indian vendors? not so sure about that… i’ve just come across too many shady ones! but i’m assuming your parents are going to buy material or a ready made outfit that you’d then have tailored here in the states, right? because the only thing i’d really be worried about would be them screwing up my measurements if they did it back in india without me! i’ve done it before and had clothes shipped here that were too small or the wrong neckline or something!

I love those pictures! My parents might not pick exactly what I would, but I know they would pick something beautiful and special.

That said, I think you’re very brave to leave it in your parents’ hands! I can’t wait to see what you end up with!

i chose my own dress, but just wanted to say i’m really excited to see what they come back with for you! and i can’t wait to see how your wedding turns out! i love indian and cambodian weddings so much!

Kudos to you for relinquishing control. Sometimes it can be really hard in the midst of wedding planning.

I never thought I would let my mom choose my dress. Our taste in everything differs dramatically. However, my mom found a dress that was absolutely perfect for me. On the day of my wedding, people could not stop complimenting me on my mother’s choice. Having said that, I agree that sometimes parents really do know best.