I Like Different. I Like Unique… Roles.

I Like Different. I Like Unique… Roles.

October 4th, 2007 @ 4:54 pm by Mrs. Cherry Blossom
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The Best “Man”…
Mr. CB and his little sister are extremely close, I’d call them best friends. Think Ross and Monica - together they are as goofy as that episode where R&M were dancing together on the Dick Clark’s Rockin’ Eve episode. Whenever we hypothetically chatted about our future wedding plans at the dinner table and who our wedding party might include, she always claimed the role of “Best Man.”

Within our wedding party, we chose not to give anyone the Maid of Honor or Best Man title because we felt the same honor for each person that agreed to be a part of our wedding party. So it was very fitting that we saved that special title for his sister. We asked her to be the Honorary Best Man. I Like Different. I Like Unique... Roles. : wedding san francisco Happy047 happy047 We like to pull her leg and say that when we print that in writing (as proof for her) on the program, it’d be in the same color ink as the paper (so you wouldn’t see it.)

The Bride’s “Parents” …
My aunt, my mom’s older sister, is extremely dear to my heart. She’s been there since day one and has been my “other mom.” It’s very important to me to have her in the wedding and recognized for how very special she is to me. As part of the ceremony, originally I was planning to have two of my guy friends escort my aunt then my mom down the aisle but we may ask them to walk together, especially since they are extremely close. During the reception, when the family is introduced as they walk in the room, I’ll likely have a friend escort my aunt in and to be seated at the head table with us.

The flower princess …
We love our flower girl to pieces and know she’ll shine like the star that she is. She’s going to steal the show when she walks down the aisle. As part of the wedding party, I don’t recall the flower girl being a part of the introductions as the wedding party enters the reception before the bride and groom. If our little princess isn’t too shy by then, we’d love for her to be introduced and walk out before us ….or alternative #2, we’ll have her introduced and walk out with the last pair of our wedding party.

Ring bearer … non-existent…
for our wedding at the moment …. but we may have another non-traditional role to incorporate another special family member. We have yet to ask him, so until then, we’d love to keep it a surprise and share more with you later.

What special/non-traditional roles are you incorporating into your wedding?

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9 Responses to “I Like Different. I Like Unique… Roles.”

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Angel

Ours were pretty typical, but this post reminded me of a picture I saw in a recent wedding magazine. A little boy had a rough wooden bucket with a rope handle and a picture of a strongman with the words “flower chucker” on it. How cool is that?

My younger teenage sister was my MOH, but wanted to be my flower girl. I think I would have let her too if my other little sister wasn’t already perfect for the part.

Sounds a bit like casting for a movie doesn’t it?

10/4/07 @ 5:07 pm (reply)

Bee

Mrs. Bird of Paradise (message) 345 posts, Helper bee

i incorporated my aunt, uncle, & cousin as part of the immediate family that walked down the aisle along with the moms and dad & grandparents. they had small bouquets and bouts. i just felt like they had all raised me and i just needed to include them.

10/4/07 @ 5:22 pm (reply)

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Angel

Oh, I guess we did one thing out of the norm. Instead of the “Father of the Bride” walking me down the aisle, I asked that my mom do it. She was my best friend growing up, so I thought it was fitting that she give me away to my new best friend. We got a black and white dress for her to mimic a tuxedo…it was pretty cool looking.

10/4/07 @ 6:38 pm (reply)

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flip flop girl

i simply invented roles for the special people in our lives who we wanted to be a part of our ceremony. in addition to our bridal party, we had a lei-bearer (my 31-old friend who we affectionately referred to as our flower girl since she carried in the leis for our lei exchange), a sand bearer (who brought in a tray with the sand and glass containers for our sand ceremony), and an escort (who accompanied grandma down the aisle). they joined us in the processional and their names were listed in our wedding program right along with our “traditional” wedding party =)

10/4/07 @ 7:32 pm (reply)

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ready2spark

I don’t think this really falls within your question of non-traditional “roles”, but we’re chosing to have a non-traditional wedding…
- no wedding cake: instead we’re having super indulgent dessert tastings
- no receiving line: blech, I hate waiting to get into the reception room. Instead we’ll both make our way around to the tables
- no circular tables: we’re opting for long row tables instead
- wedding dress: yes, I actually went designer replica and I LOVE it! The dress is actually better quality and material than the $7K original
- we’ll be introducing a lot of personal elements into the wedding: music, decor, photography, etc.

10/4/07 @ 8:14 pm (reply)

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kris

Oh! Miss CB - I am so glad we are not the only crazy people! People really look at us strangely when we tell them about our “wedding party” plans. We will also be having Fiance’s younger sister be his “Best Man” he really wanted to have her be a part of the wedding on his side and I was totally cool with that, but we call her Best Sister instead of Best Man or Best Woman (this last one seems so impersonal to me. Also, (I know this one is not out of the ordinary) but we are having my sister as the Maid of Honor because she is my bestest friend in the whole world and since we wanted our sisters to be a very important part of our wedding we decided to forgo the rest of the wedding party, truly the best wedding decision we have made to date

10/5/07 @ 10:25 am (reply)

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Lynda

J and I are a bi-racial couple and I think our wedding would have to be most unconvential in order to honor both cultures. The first (among many) different things we did? His parents asked my parents for my hand in marriage. =) The second, we are paying for our bridesmaid’s dresses - this has been tradition in Vietnamese weddings as it is thought that we are asking a favor of these maids to help us in our wedding. Third, we are not having a best man - first reason being he has two fathers and second reason my culture does not call for one. The knot has a new addition to their site called “Chinese Weddings.” It does a fairly good job of explaining eastern weddings. =)

11/24/07 @ 1:26 am (reply)

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Ashley Hoffman

How are you? My name is Ashley Hoffman, I’m a freelance writer and I’m researching adult male flower girls for the New York Times (Weddings & Celebrations.) Specifically, I’m interested in interviewing guys who have participated in wedding ceremonies as the “flower man.” I’d love to connect with wedding planners, brides, grooms, and groomsmen about this topic and I thought you might be able to point me in the right direction. Any help is much appreciated. Thanks so much for your time.

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Ashley Hoffman
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