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You have to kind of have the arm on the bottom out front a little rather than right under you - imagine sleeping on your side. Personally, I have to fall asleep on my back, so I usually break free after FI has gone to sleep. But until then, I find that not having my arm directly under me keeps it from losing circulation and getting tingly.

Hahahaha… have you ever seen the Kevin Smith movie Mallrats? Two of the main male characters have a discussion about where they put the other arm when they are cuddling with their girlfriends and it ends up being a metaphor for a relationship.

I was thinking the exact same thing bunnybride!

I tried to find the quote, but alas it’s not as popular as I would have thought.

My guy and I found the perfect cuddling position once. Yep, just once…and we haven’t been able to recreate it since. So yeah, something always falls asleep.

Of course you could put the burden of numb limbs on him and lay on your back with him cuddled up to your side. I usually like to put my legs over his if he’s in a ‘Z’ position. I hope I’m giving off the right visual here.

Mallrats

Brodie: You know how when someone lays with their back to you…And you lay behind them really close and you throw one arm over them ?

TS: It’s called spooning.

Brodie: Yeah, but you gotta put the other arm
somewhere. You can either lay on it or shove it between your bodies. The only other option is to stretch it above your head.

But sometimes my arm pops out of socket when I’m sleeping like that. So I was constantly searching for someplace to keep my arm while still laying close to her.

TS: And?

Brodie: What do you mean, “and?”. That’s like a metaphor for our whole relationship.

Girl at register: I know exactly how he feels. Excuse me. [ Crying ]

haha… ya i dont like how my arm starts to feel uncomfortable… so i kinda cuddle with my legs.
i lay on my back and then just sprawl my legs over his… plus my feet are cold and he is a warm body so it’s a win win for both of us.. unless my feet are super cold..

that’s why I like spooning…. hm, now to think about it, we don’t cuddle much. on the couch we do, but not in bed.

Oh Miss Peony, I hate cuddling, too! I like a good hug once and awhile and I’m not unaffectionate, but I HATE cuddling and especially when we sleep. My fiance is a big cuddler like yours (maybe they should just cuddle each other, lol), though, so I oblige once and awhile. Usually I fold my bottom arm in and place my hand under his shoulder…. for about five minutes, then I get claustrophobic and have to scoot away. But this helps keep the feeling in my arm while I’m being a nice fiance.

This is such an interesting topic ’cause typically the media portrays women as always wanting to cuddle and such so I never really thought many people had this same problem. What usually happened between us is his arm eventually falls asleep since I’m cutting off circulation and he removes it himself to avoid further pain. This allows me space to sleep ’cause I too am not a very affectionate person, but will succumb from time to time for him.