In the midst of football season, I’m reminded me how well guys can remember the stats of each player, the date X team will play Y team again, and what happened Sept 1, 2004 in the game where X hit Y player and a fumble/interference happened causing a game score of 30 to 24, etc. But they can’t remember anniversary dates, sometimes birthdays, what event we have planned this weekend, what we did two weekends ago, etc. It just cracks me up. 
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I’m fortunate enough that Mr.CB is great with footballs stats and our stats, not that there’s much to remember. He remembers my birthday which is always nice, the day we met, our anniversary is Christmas Eve, and the date we were engaged which is the day before our anniversary. It makes it easier that all our “important” dates are so close together. With the wedding date added to the list, I’m wondering if we should just celebrate the years we’ve been together (our anniversary) date, our wedding date, or both?
Which date are you celebrating? What other dates do you celebrate?
we celebrate our meetaversary which is also our anniversary as well as our wedding anniversary. nothing big usually just dinner, but it’s nice to remember both dates. 
hehe, my parents celebrate their civil marriage in sept and their church wedding in february. they also celebrate some other date… i think it’s their first date.
since our wedding anniversary will be so close to our dating anniversary, we’ll probably just combine it. or celebrate during the whole month!
The day we met was also the day we got engaged (six years later) and the day we got married (one year later). Everything is on one day on purpose, so much easier to remember.
We don’t believe in celebrating every date that was special when it happened. It dilutes the celebration when there’s one to remember every other month. Birthdays, anniversary, Christmas, Thanksgiving, new year, first date, and eventually children(s)’s birthday(s)? That’s not even adding the celebrations of family and friends.
When you come from a big family, what happens is that every get together is a “celebration” and it becomes an imposition rather than fun for everyone.
I’m not some cranky downer who hates celebrations, but FI and I are on the same page in that we celebrate exciting things when they happen, but have no need to repeatedly celebrate that same event on the same date for the following years. Life should be interesting enough that there are always new things to celebrate.
Yes, I remember reading in an article on men buying women lingerie once that it was possible for them to remember all sorts of sports stats but not their wife’s bra size… I tested my H2B the other day and he remembered corrected. I was surprised - and touched!
We both just celebrate birthdays and Christmas. We purposely ignore our anniversary of when we began dating - it is so close to Christmas which is already very hard on the wallet, it wouldn’t be fun to have to spend more money and think of more gifts around that time of year. It would just be stressful! I’m sure we’ll end up celebrating our wedding anniversary, but thankfully it is not so close to another major gift-giving date so hopefully it won’t be so stressful. I am hoping we will be able to celebrate it by trying new restaurants or new activities we’ve been wanting to do together, maybe a vacation for major anniversaries. But I don’t want the pressure of yet another occasion on which I have to find him the perfect gift. He’s impossible to shop for!!
We used to celebrate every month on the anniversary of our first “real date,” and get each other something small and goofy…but our lives got busier and busier and we started to run out of strange things to buy each other. He’s more into celebrating the anniversary of our engagement (we’ve only had 2 of those), which is easy for us to remember ’cause it’s a 25th, same as our wedding date (a different month). We keep saying we want to celebrate our wedding monthiversary, mostly b/c we still have frozen cake we want to eat, but somehow the day always comes when we have other events to go to, so no yummy cake for us. =(
In the future, we will probably just celebrate the wedding anniversary. Of late, we’ve tended to lump the “first date” anniversary with Valentine’s Day (it’s only 2 days apart) and our b-days (both of which fall within 3 weeks of V-day) and get something more splurge-y.
We celebrate our first date by visiting the same restaraunt. We don’t do anything for the day we got engaged, and we only really went all out for our one-year wedding anniversary.
We had our second anniversary this summer and had so much fun doing nothing together that it was perfect. We also tend to put more emphasis on our birthdays. We have this rule of three that basically means that every third year is a big birthday year. We’ve talked about applying the same rule to our wedding anniversary…every ten years have a big party.
I can definitely see the value of having one day for all the big relationship dates though…lot less to remember.
We celebrate the day I went to get him and bring him home from the Marines. We also remember (but don’t do anything special) the Day of The First Kiss.
We’ll celebrate our -1 year anniversary coming up, too!
Hey! Great post! I had thought about this as well. I haven’t talked to the fiance about it, but I would like to remember our first date as well as our wedding date. Ideally, I would like to do what Angel does and celebrate our first date at the restaurant where we met.
This is a good question. We have the day we started dating, our technically legal wedding date, and the day we get married in a ceremony for our family. We haven’t even thought about it yet! But I guess it depends on which date family will celebrate too. However, when Oct 15th (day we met) rolls around, we are always reminiscing and cuddling.
Actually we just got home from our one-year anniversary trip to Carmel, CA. We also celebrate the day we met, and this past first year we celebrated every month on the 8th. What can I say, both of us are romantics!
Hey, what a perfectly timed post! Our sixth anniversary was yesterday (the day you wrote this!). I mentioned on my own blog, that it was kind of a bittersweet anniversary because it would be the last one we would be celebrating. It never occurred to me to keep celebrating it after we’re married. I guess we’d acknowledge it, but I don’t think we’ll do anything super special anymore.
Hmm - Guess we have yet to figure this out. We’ve only had 1 first date anniversary and I think we had dinner at the same restaurant. Our engagement anniversary is in Dec and we’re coming up on 6 mos married at the end of Oct.
We keep most celebrations low key - just enjoy spending time together. I like to send sweet text messages to him at work, or just reflect/chat about the importance of the date. Examples - ‘Can you believe you’ve lived in Blacksburg a year! What a great year it’s been’ or ‘Happy best 5 months of my life hubby!’ Anything that I know will put a smile on his face!
Our long term plan is to save our pennies and take a ‘big’ out of the country trip every 5 years for our anniversary. Once kids come along we might also take advantage of the inbetween years and plan a trip close to home so we can have some ‘us’ time without the kids!
Hmm, interesting.
We’ve been married for 5 months, and I’m not sure what we’ll do regarding anniversaries. Probably just skip over the old dating anniversary in terms of celebrations. It’s two days after New Year’s, so Christmas-New Years’-anniversary-V-Day always made for a spendy stretch!
Our first date was the day before his birthday, we got engaged at an annual event (American Crossword Puzzle Tournament, natch), and we were married a week after my birthday. I’m looking forward to giant combined birthday/anniversary gifts!
Mrs. Cherry Blossom, San Francisco
Age and Occupation: 27, Administrative Asst.
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, District Sales Manager
Engagement Date: December 23, 2006
Wedding Date: May 3, 2008
Venue: Zen Garden in the East Bay w/ reception in a floor-to-ceiling window Atrium with views of the Zen Garden
About Me: After 5 years of dating, we're finally ready to get hitched! I am a lovah of all things wedding, creative, crafty, and definitely DIY bc I love to add a personal touch to everything I gift or make. In my free time, I like to bake, spend time with our family, friends, and my doggies, read my guilty pleasure celebrity gossip and catch up on TV shows.
luckily our 7 year anniversary is the same weekend of our wedding, so we will only have to remember 1 day (and use our math skills to add 7)