I realized, as I was looking through my childhood photos for our slide show at the wedding reception, that nothing changes. Your personality is so solidly shaped as a child, that even though you grow and change over the years, you are fundamentally the same person.
See exhibit A:
A picture of me in San Fransisco when I was four years old
And exhibit B:
A photo from my intime photo session.
SOOO similar, right?! I couldn’t believe it when I realized it. When I pointed it out to Mr. Onion he just cracked up and said “some things never change!”
But some things can change. Most people would agree that the person you choose to marry should have qualities that complement your own. I know that because of Mr. Onion I take everything much less seriously. I’m not going to say I was uptight, but I got very easily upset. I also am able to be a goof and enjoy being silly with him, which is something I rarely did before.
Do you think you’re a better version of yourself with your mate? What are the things about yourself that you’ve seen change for the better while with this person? Do you think you’ve “changed” your fiance or husband? If so, in what way?
That is such a cute picture of you from when you were little! And the similarity between the two photos is crazy
My guy showed me that there are better guys out there than the one I had as an example. Not that I was some man-hater or anything, but I had a definite lack of trust from experience. He also showed me what tears of joy were.
He’s told me that I’ve helped him live longer: not letting things get him bent out of shape, eating green things (what do you mean you don’t like lettuce?), and laughing more.
It’s strange to think back on who I was before then see myself now. I agree that it’s not always apparent, but I think it’s there, to some degree, in all of us becauase yeah, we’re still evolving as people and evolving as a couple.
Definitely, absolutely. So much so that my mom and the rest of my family still marvel at how much more mellow and patient since he and I have been together. I think he just makes my best qualities come out, it doesn’t hurt that I am mostly in a great mood when I am around him and we have fun doing just about anything.
We help eachother because we have opposite personalities. He helps me relax because he has an easygoing personality. I, on the other hand, am very self-motivated and make sure he gets things done because he can sometimes be a little too easygoing.
you’re right, you still have some of the same mannerisms. I love the pic in front of the bridge. so cute!
I’ll tell you what changed - your shirt came unbuttoned! Yikes! 
My mom said the same thing to me when they went to take my picture the first time I saw her after I was engaged. She told me I still smile the same way in photos. Its funny how much we are the same and yet how you grow up.
That is SO cute and funny!!
omg that’s so cute! you have pretty hair miss onion. and yes i still am as goofy and ham it up for the camera as when i was 5.
We are definitely better versions of ourselves with each other. I’ve helped FH be a tad more spontaneous and less serious. He is patient with me when I’m upset and calms me a lot.
I remember a few years ago I was at a dinner, and I was wearing a textured skirt that I kept rubbing. My mom noticed and said I used to do the exact same thing with my blanket!
Miss Onion, NYC/Burlington, VT
Age and Occupation: 26, PR & Marketing and Jazz Singer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Data Analyst
Engagement Date: April 2, 2006
Wedding Date: September 2007
Blogging Since: July 11, 2007
Venue: Restaurant in Burlington
About Me: I didn't think I'd be "that girl," but I am having so much fun planning our wedding (mostly by myself). I'm a PR and Marketing Director for a major jazz festival and camp by day, and by night, a romantic jazz singer and bride-to-be! I hope all my research can help other brides in their planning.
My FI and I definitely both help each other relax. We both tend to get bent out of shape easily, but for some reason, when we’re together, one can always be a moderating influence.
I don’t know that I’ve necessarily changed myself or changed him; it’s tough to tell because I think we’re both still growing as individuals. But having his support and friendship makes my life so much happier. : )
P.S. I think it’s so funny to look at photos of myself as a kid and realize I still pose in the same way now! What a great contrast.