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Mr Peony and I have two anniversary dates because we still bicker over which is the correct date.
The first, which is coming up in two weeks, is the anniversary of our first date. Although we had been friends for a while, this was the first time we went out to dinner with just the two of us and later that night, Mr Peony made the first move. 
This is the date that I consider to be our anniversary.
The second date comes months later. We had been seeing each other for a while, and already said “I love you” to each other. However, this is the date when Mr Peony officially asked me to be his girlfriend. Obviously I said yes, but I had already been considering him as my boyfriend for a while. Mr Peony says that because he didn’t officially utter the words “Will you be my girlfriend?” until this date, this should be our anniversary.
I know - the situation is kinda weird. But because we’re both so stubborn, we end up celebrating both anniversaries every year. Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. 
If you were in my situation, which would you consider to be your anniversary date?
Mr Peony and I have decided that after our wedding, we will forgo these two prior dates and only start celebrating our wedding anniversary. That way, we can forget about deciding which is the “real” anniversary date and not worry about having to celebrate three different days a year.
Do you plan on celebrating your “dating” anniversaries after you get married?
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it’s our meetaversary/dateaversary next week! we still celebrate it. 
I totally understand! My FI and I have argued over the date for the LAST 7 YEARS and even came to a compromise once that we would celebrate 10/21 instead of his 8/21 and my 10/20 dates. We both insist on our dates and when the compromise came…the next year we forgot what we agreed to….the funny part is….we both remember in November or so that we forgot to actually celebrate.
We are so bad with dates!
That is why we are getting married 2/29/08 so that we will see it coming and celebrate once every four years.
We will never argue about the date ever again
yes I do! I think it’s really important not to forget all the time that we were together prior to being married and when we fell in love! Forever we will have to anniversaries, pre-marriage and post-marriage
We went with our first date. It answers the question of “How long have you been together?” Everything else just kind of fell under relationship milestones.
Oh, and we celebrate both our wedding anniversary and our first date.
Sometimes the guy is very stubborn to make the date when he asks you to be his girlfriend as the anniversary date, becuase technically, up until that date, you were just A GIRL and not yet a girlfriend. He could potentially have been eyeing other girls and flirting with them. So it’s a possibility he’s scared that some girl he had a tiny fling with be like…HEY YOU HAD A THING WITH ME ON such and such date! And I was under the impression that you were fair game and not single at all!
You better get on his tail for this one!!!
we have several dates too. our meeting date. our he moved here date- which is our offical started dating date. our engagement date and now our wedding date. whew.
That’s funny that you just posted this.. we were just talking about it.
It’s really confusing for us to. There’s the day that we first shared our feelings with each other and had our first kiss, and then another day (a week later) that we said “i love you” and became official. we celebrate the second one (where we became official) but I feel the first one is just as significant.
Our “dating” anniversary is pretty easy to remember — it’s on Valentine’s Day. He likes it because he’s essentially getting birds with one stone. 
We met was 3 days prior, on the 11th, which he also chose as the day to propse to me. Our wedding anniversary will be May 24th and we celebrate our first date anniversary and our marriage anniversary.
First date for us too. February 12th. And he proposed on February 10th, so from now on we’re just going to celebrate for the whole week… proposal anniversary, first date anniversary, Valentine’s Day.
Or more likely, we’ll just celebrate the 14th and remember all the other stuff, and save the real celebration for our wedding anniversary.
My future father-in-law always makes fun of us for celebrating our monthly anniversary of when we first starting dating. This month was anniversary 4.10 (we’ve been together 4 years and 10 months). After we got engaged, we started celebrating that date each month, also. So, we celebrate a lot, but most of the time, it gives us a fun reason to go out on dates.
(Norcalbruin: My wedding will be next May 24th!)
We don’t really celebrate it, but we always remember the day he broke up with his girlfriend so we could give being together a shot. Our “official” anniversary is a few weeks after that. And yes, we will always celebrate our dating anniversary. We were together for 8 1/2 years when we got married. I don’t know why we shouldn’t celebrate having been together so long. This April will be our 10 year mark! And, in fact, one of the reasons I chose our October wedding date was so we could celebrate an anniversary every 6 months.
Also, I think it’s romantic to continue celebrating your dating anniversary. I think it helps remind you of the roots of your relationship and how you first felt about each other.
Mr. Peony is always right!!!
I’m curious what different dates couples who have been married for years celebrate.
Nope. But that doesn’t mean I won’t wake up that morning and remind him of it
We mark the day of our first date. My husband likes to say “I’ve been dating my wife for xx years” , which I find very cute. We don’t celebrate with cards and gifts, but there is usally a dinner out, an e-card, or something that marks the day. When we hit the 10 year mark we did something a bit more special.
I think the first date is the real date too. And, we do plan to celebrate our dating anniversary even after we’re married because like Jessica, we will have been together 8 1/2 years when we get married. I’d hate to not get to celebrate being together 10 years when we will have only been married for 1 year and a half! Plus, it’s just another excuse to celebrate being together - who doesn’t like those?
Well…we kind of hooked up the first night we met (11/3), and were together from then on, so we call the next day (11/4) our anniversary since we went out and got breakfast together, then lunch and then dinner. We got engaged on the day before our one year anniversary (11/3), so we just call that whole weekend our anniversary now, and I think we’ll continue to do so even after we’re married.
we never celebrated dating anniversaries in the first place. at least, not officially. we do know when that date is, and the first time it passed, he got me a gift for it even though we agreed not to celebrate it. unfortunately, i had forgotten about it! we’ve only “officially” celebrated the marriage anniversary.
It wasn’t a big discussion for us. I just started marking the months off from our first date - and he said ‘ok’
As far as celebrating - it’s kinda different for us since we only celebrated one dating anniversary before we got married - it’s not like we have traditions to continue.
We’ll probably continue to have a ‘date’ on that night - but won’t be exchanging gifts or anything. It’s always going to fall during the winter anyways, when our money is much better spent going on snowboarding trips and not on buying each other trinkets to show our love
We’ll prob stay at the B&B we were married at to celebrate our first wedding anniversary.
Sometimes I get the bug to be romantic. Since this Sunday is our 6 month wedding anniversary I’ve decided we’re going to have fun all day long and be super sweet on each other - with no worries, paying bills, laundry, etc! I was looking forward to a long hike or bike ride - but the weather doesn’t seem to be cooperating!
I’m really impressed you guys have the time and energy to not only remember the dates but also celebrate them. Last night my fiance and I were trying to figure out how we could schedule time for a date to celebrate our 3 year anniversary.
We have the SAME arguments! I like to celebrate the end of January as our anniversary as our first date! Because after that first date - we both realized we liked each other - and regardless of the us never discussing the “non-exclusive clause” we just had fun hanging out with each other. He celebrates April because this is when he declare he liked me and needed me to realize that this was serious to him. It was then that I realize I was crazy about him .. thus the reason he celebrates this date! HOwever — I feel that our relationship (regardless of the particulars) started back in January .. so he usually celebrates in January but adds a disclaimer to everything!
He proposed on my grandfather’s birthday In august - and therefore we celebrate that as a nod to him.
Wedding will be June 21st - a week after his birthday — and I guess we will celebrate that as well.
I just love celebrations!
our engagment anniversary is around his b’day and v’day so lump everything into one big celebration. the other day is our wedding day of course which happens to be 6 months after our engagment. I think going forward our wedding anniversary will be more symbolic for us to celebrate.
I had a similar situation with different dates and at the end we just agreed to have one date anniversary… I cant keep up with so many dates
Mr. Canary and I have been arguing about this on and off! He thinks we should just celebrate our wedding anniversary, and I think we should celebrate our dating anniversary. It’s a shame to discount seven years of dating just because we’re married!
no we never celebrated out first meeting or our first date anniversarries. too much. We will probably have dinner on our wedding anniversaru now we are married, but we are not all about anni gifts etc.
I mean do you celebrate 1. when you met 2. first date 3. first time you said “i love you” 4. engagement date and then 5. wedding date too!!!! seriously, it is all too much for me.
Ms. Canary — My DH and I have that same argument! We got married August 4th and now he thinks that’s the only anniversary we should celebrate. ..
In my own world, I will continue to celebrate dating and engagement anniversaries, just for fun.
Haha, we argue over our anniversary as well. We both know our first date was Dec. 21st, but we aren’t really sure when we became “official.” We know it was pretty shortly after that, maybe a week or two, so my fiance has always insisted on calling Jan 1st our anniversary because it’s an easy date to remember. I think that’s stupid since we don’t know if it’s the real day or not! I go with Dec. 21st. But we don’t celebrate it anyway - it’s so close to Christmas that it’s just one more thing we’d have to spend money on and the idea of having to spend more cash at that time of year stresses us both out. Celebrating it would seem more like a chore than fun for that reason. So from here on out, we will celebrate our wedding anniversary only.
We still celebrate our dating anniversary and will continue to do so-since it’s jan 1. and the hassles of getting married on that day are enormous.
Not to go against the grain, but I always felt that dating anniversaries were sorta silly. Do you continue to celebrate them after you’re married? Do you drop them and only celebrate your wedding anniversary? We like to keep things simple… we’ll be celebrating just the wedding anniversary.
We celebrate the day/night we met, which was New Year’s Eve into New Year’s Day. Even though we didn’t go on our first real date until a week later and weren’t bf/gf for a few more weeks, the day we met was the day we were both like, “WOW”.
So because it’s sort of a special day anyway, we’ll probably celebrate it along with our wedding anniversary. I can just imagine it now, telling our kids, “It was X number of years ago that I met your mother/father on New Year’s!”
Hahaha, Mr. Peony is funny. But I would have to agree with you, Miss Peony. It’s funny that guys actually care about that “official” date. I thought they didn’t b/c my guy didn’t. He first told me he liked me and then we kissed and we had been I guess dating ever since. I think we just gradually eased into bf/gf status but he never officially asked me and I never knew what we were! And then he started referring to me as his gf to other people so I figured it was safe to call him my bf. And it’s funny because he is actually the one who brought up our anniversary after 6 months! So thanks to him, our anniversary is when we first kissed. He never did ask officially ask me to be his gf. I guess it just happened!
Honestly, I can’t begin to remember the date of Mr. Tulip’s and my first date! It was just a date with a cute guy — I had no idea it would become important!
But we broke up for a few months in our first year, and we’ve been celebrating our ‘got back together” date as our anniversary. It’s a nice date to use, because it’s the day I realized that I really loved him. And it was Feb. 12, which is handy because we split the difference between that and Valentine’s Day and avoid the crowds by celebrating each year on the 13th.
I had never planned to celebrate the old date once we’re married. I’m a wedding-date-only kind of gal… But actually, now that I write this, continuing the whole “avoid the crowds each year on Valentine’s Day” tradition sounds pretty tempting!!
We always celebrate the day we met. In fact, we’ve made it a tradition to celebrate the “Monthversary” on the 28th of each month.
It’s a fun way to set aside a date night to do something special for your relationship.
I’m not sure if we’ll celebrate the day we met after we get married - I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to forget the date tho!
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Mrs. Peony, New York
Age and Occupation: 27, Marketing Coordinator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, QA Engineer
Engagement Date: June 28, 2007
Wedding Date: April 18, 2008
Venue: The Fountainhead
Blogging Since: August 7, 2007
About Me: Both Mr. Peony and I are huge computer nerds, and our conversations usually consist of the latest gadgets, programming languages, and video games. At the same time, I can also be very girly with an obsession with handbags, makeup, and high heels. And art! I've studied studio art extensively, almost majored in art history, and freelance as a web and graphics designer. Mr. Peony and I are having a ball of a time planning a wedding for 250(!) guests, doing our best to infuse our personalities (geeky chic) with the wishes of our very traditional Asian parents.
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