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When Mr. Penguin and I were first engaged, my mother expressed her concern about how young I was to be married. I was 25. She quickly got over it, realizing that I would be 2 months shy of 27 when we married, and Mr. Penguin would be one month shy of 30 (THAT’S 30!), so really, there wasn’t much room for pulling the “you’re too young” card on us.
I thought about what age I wanted to get married a lot when I was in high school. If you had asked me when I was 18, “What is the appropriate age for a woman to get married” I’d have to say that I’d picture myself marrying at age 28, to a man that was 32. I like the 4-5 year gap between men and women, and I fully prescribe to the whole idea of women being “5 years more mature” than men, so I’ve always been attracted to men that were older than me by a few years.
When you were in high school, what age did you envision yourself to be married at? How old would your future husband be? And what is your reasoning?
Miss Penguin (age 19) and Mr Penguin (age 22)… how time flies. And yes, I SERIOUSLY left the house wearing that!
LOL. Penguin, I swear I had that exact top in black. And no, I can’t believe I used to wear it!!! I think we both looked pretty hot 
When I was in high school, I thought I would get married at 22 to a guy who was 24. I can’t remember the reasoning behind it, it just seemed like the right age. In actuality, I’m going to be 26 when we get married and Mr. Jasmine will be 27. I think it worked out just fine.
well, when i was in high school i was hopelessly unattached with no hope in sight so i was thinking i’d be lucky if i married by 30.
then in college i just thought i’d be lucky if i ever got a date, let alone get married period. lol.
in elementary school, before i realized the real length of time, i thought i’d be married when i was 22 or so [anyone else write those letters from your future self?]. but when i was in college and started seeing my friends get married off [from 20-23 yrs old] i exclaimed at how young we all were.
now that i’m 26 it’s looking like i’ll in fact be in like 3-4 years from now [i just HAD to go to grad school apparently, which pushed back everything else], or just before i hit the big 3-0. to a guy that’s 9 months my junior [though if you listened to him, you'd think he was the older one - bless his darling heart ;-)]
When I was a kid, I had a birthday candle. It was a big honkin’ candle with years marked off, and each year you burned down to the next mark. Some of the years had little icons next to them: there was a tricycle next to the 4, a bicycle next to the 10, car keys next to the 16, etc.
Next to the 18, there were hearts.
Next to the 21 (the last number), a diamond ring.
That candle managed to form my worldview for…oh, at least into high school.
I am horrified to report that they still make birthday candles, and they still have a diamond ring at 21.
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Early in high school, I would have told you I didn’t plan on getting married or having kids because I planned on devoting myself to my career and would be traveling alot which wouldn’t allow for a family. Then I met my FI and it all changed. We’ll both be 26 when we get married. While I agree that the majority of guys trail women in terms of maturity, I got one of the lucky ones who is just as mature (ok, maybe a little less) than me.
Sarah, I have never seen a more hideous candle!! Thats hilarious!!
When I was in HS, I thought I wanted to get married at 24. When I hit 24, I realized I was far from it, so I hoped to be engaged by 26 and married by 27. Somehow, Mr. E was right on time!! =)
Of course, I didnt mean to imply that men are seriously more immature than women their age 
Its just one of those silly ideals that I subscribed to.
sarah-they should’ve put alcohol next to 21 
lol
lol. i love the young picture! i always felt like 27 was my marrying age…and for me, I never wanted to date anyone younger than me. I would only settle for men my age up to two years older. I don’t know why. When we marry, I’ll be 26 (if I get the venue I want for teh date I want; otherwise, I may be 27), and he’ll be 28.
I said I was never going to get married. I think it was the word “never” that did me in.
I was never one who thought too much about it, but I assumed I would be in my 30’s. But I met the perfect guy at 22, and we got married at 27. Now I’m 30, and none of my friends are married. So I was way off What can you do?!
I always pictured myself being 26 when I got married. It seemed a good age. I figured I’d meet the guy when I was 24, date 2 years, and get married. The length of time it takes to plan a wedding never entered my calculus (and keep in mind, I was about 10 at the time). Then I met DH when I was 18. I still figured we wouldn’t get engaged until, at the earliest, a year out of college, and I thought we’d get married probably the summer after I graduated from law school. It took two years after that, but I think we got married at the perfect time! (I had just turned 27, btw)
When we first got engaged, my mother started on her rant that we were too young. At the time, I was 23 and my fiance was 24. (We will be a month shy of 25 and 26 respectively when we get married). My father had to stop and point out that my mother was married by 23, so it wasn’t really her place to say that I was too young!
When I was younger, I thought I would marry when I was 27 to a guy 4-5 years older than me since I was always more mature for my age and have always liked older men. I will actually be 29 and my fiance will be 38 when we get married! So much for the 4-5 year difference! lol
Well…I counted backwards. I wanted to have children before 30, so I was thinking two children, one at 27 and one at 30 (just like my mom). And I want a couple years with my husband so that would make me married at 25.
I’m going to be 26 in 4 months. =[ (not engaged yet)
Even at 25, I still feel too young to be married. And at this rate, I have NO idea when I’ll be ready for marriage. I still have so many things to do…go to grad school, travel the world, possibly live abroad, establish my career…(bf doesn’t like to be away from home so I’ve got to do all that when I’m single sadly)
BTW, Miss Penguin what do you do? I think I aspire to be doing what you’re doing! Shoot me an e-mail if you have some words of advice. =)
I always thought I would be married by now. When I was in high school, I thought I’d get married young and become a mother at a young age. I am the oldest of 3 siblings, and my mom was 33 when she had me and 39 when she had my youngest sister. For some reason this always struck me as SO OLD to have kids when I was younger, and I was determined to “beat” her to the punch so to speak so that I would be closer in age to my children than she was. Kind of silly, though I will admit to sometimes feeling a pull to speed the whole process up so we can get on with having kids already before I turn 33!
Anyway, I always imagined I’d be married by 23 or 24 so that I could have kids by 26 or 27. It has always been important to me to be married before having kids. But now that I look back at my life when I was 23, I’m very glad I didn’t get married then. I would have married my ex, who I was with at that age. And I recently met up with my ex to catch up after not having seen each other for 4 years, and it was so weird… I had no idea what I’d seen in him all those years earlier. Good thing I didn’t marry him!
I’m quite glad I waited till now to tie the knot, but I do still hope to have kids before 33. Haha.
You know… I think it was the movie Father of the Bride that did it for me. Annie in that movie was 22 and from that point on I always said 22. Now I am 21 and hoping to just get my boyfriend (of 5 years) to pop the question by then… so now I am shooting for 25. He is 5 years older so it works for me!
When I was a kid I always thought I would get married and have kids by the time I was 23. In college I realized that I wanted to enjoy the young single life, so I moved it up to 26. Things change, and now I don’t even want kids, and the wedding is scheduled for one month before my 30th birthday.
I always thought I’d be married right out of college at 22 or so, to someone my same age. I guess it’s because my mom got married at 21, first kid at 22, and second at 23. I always said I wanted to be a ‘young mother’ (my mom was 19 and my dad 27 when they met!) I thought I’d start having kids right after marriage too!
Seeing as I rarely dated in high school or college - this didn’t really happen I was married at 28 and we’ll prob be over 30 when I have my first kid. We’ve been married for 6 months now - there’s no way I’d give up these first couple years of marriage to be responsible - even though I am super excited to become a mom one day
Looking back - I’ve loved my 20’s and the independence I’ve had. The years I spent traveling and having fun with my girlfriends are unforgettable! I’m glad things didn’t work out the way I thought they would!
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Mrs. Penguin, Northern California Age and Occupation: 27, Weddingbee Editor in Chief Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Doctor of Physical Therapy Engagement Date: January 29, 2007 Wedding Date: June 7, 2008 Blogging Since: September 14, 2007 Venue: Winery in the Gold Country About Me: I love the Spice Girls, dogs with underbites, bean burritos, making messes, high fives, avoiding showers, crossword puzzles, blogs, weddings, and blogs about weddings!
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