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“Lawyers should never marry other lawyers. This is called in-breeding; from this comes idiot children… and other lawyers.”
~ Adam’s Rib
Mr. Jasmine and I are both lawyers. We also have numerous lawyer friends who are married to other lawyers. Somehow, strangely enough, lawyers seem to attract other lawyers!
There are some advantages to being engaged/married to someone of the same profession. We understand the particular demands and challenges of our jobs. I can come to him with a legal quandary I’m puzzling over and we can brainstorm together (or, more frequently, he can shrug at me and go “errrr… huh?”). Plus, we get to attend networking and continuing education events together. The disadvantages? There is a lot of law talk! And woe is the one who pulls out a legal term during an argument! But overall, I think it’s great that we’re in the same line of work– it’s just one extra thing that brings us closer together.
Do you have the same profession as your significant other? What are some of the pros/cons? Or do you enjoy having a different profession from him/her?
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Engineer and a speech pathologist… 
Great combination. He helps me fix stuff and I help him communicate.
My dad’s a lawyer… I had to sign a lot of contracts growing up i.e. for driving etc..
Yup - we’re both lawyers too! and his dad is a judge and his brother is a lawyer - so yeah, lots of lawyers will be at our wedding.
i think it is because so many people meet in graduate school, it’s about that time that people settle down. I met my fiance in law school, and the match-ups from school are numerous - I can count at least ten couples that are still together and we’re a few years out!
we’re both in the blogging world. it’s a pro because we can talk about work with each other, but it’s a con because we talk about work way too much.
Neuroscientist and psychologist…one’s interested in the mechanism, the other in the outcome. : )
We’re similar, but not the same thing. Fiance is finishing up medical school and heading into radiology; I’m a medicinal chemist working towards my Ph.D. in oncology. We do totally different things, but they are both science based. I think more than having similar background, it’s much more helpful that we both work L-O-N-G hours. 70 hours is a short week for either of us. I’ve said many times that I don’t think I could be with someone who worked a 9-5 M-F job with all that free time — I really just don’t think it would work.
we met at work - but he has since moved on to finance and I work in insurance
another lawyer and lawyer. we both are good at arguing disadvantage: we both want to win 
his whole family is in medicine while i’m a banker. major snoozefest for me during some dinner conversations. i don’t mind though, i like that he has no clue about what i do and i have no clue about what he does.
FI and I met at work, both in Banking. But I work in Corporate Real Estate / Space Management, and he works in Bank Secrecy and Anti Money Laundering Laws (he’s an attorney) . . . neither of us know anything about actual banking how to’s (except to manage our own check books :)) which is pretty funny because people always ask us about current rates and savings and the # 1 question without fail is “Are you a Teller? What branch?”.
My fiance and I met at work. He’s an animator and I’m a producer. We don’t really work together often any more, but it’s great to have the same passion for animation and art. We also work within two different ends of the industry, which can be dangerous (it’s my job to nag the artists and keep them on schedule/budget), but usually I think it gives us both great perspective on things. We love working together when we get the chance because we both totally get each other.
We’re both in church work - I work in the church with youth and families, but he works at a church camp, which is much more demanding. I never ever thought that I’d marry someone who works in the church - I think I was so dead set on trying to find someone with that 9-5 M-F schedule that I completely tried to look over people going for that line of work.
Pros - we have a great appreciation for the seriousness of our work - and of course, we understand the long hours and everything.
Cons - I get so sick of hearing about camp! I’m sure he feels the same way about the church stuff…but seriously! When it’s all you do, it’s automatically all you talk about…
We actually started in very different fields in school (him math, and me in public health), and now we’re in kind of similar professions, since he’s in health insurance now and I’m in health economics. I think it’s nice to have an idea of what the other is talking about!
i’m a lawyer and my FI is a cardiologist. we have very little interest in each other’s work - which is great because i hate talking about work outside of work!
My fiance and I both went to college for Illustration, and he’s currently getting his Masters in Graphic Design, and I am currently employed as a graphic designer.
Generally I absolutely love having the same profession as him. We are able to critique each others work and get advice when needed. The only thing that is a drawback is that in the freelance illustration world, we are essentially competing against each other. We do have very different styles though, which is a good thing.
I’m a meteorologist and FI is a pilot…works out really well because we don’t do that same exact thing but can relate to each other’s jobs!
the bf is finishing his degree in psychology and does web design. i’m in marketing so they’re kinda connected.
though he has tried to use is psychology-mumbo jumbo on me to no avail. lol. i defy logic sometimes.
This post cracks me up!
Lawyer & Computer Scientist = a winning combination! He can’t stand when I throw out legal terms!
My New Husband and I both work in local tv news. on one hand its great because we both have the same weird schedule. On the other had we talk about work and people at work WAY too much!!
Rachel, you crack me up! All the engineers I’ve met could use a speach pathologist!
My boss is a university professor and his wife is a college vice president. Their ceremony was the most intellectual one I’ve ever heard. But I’m glad they found each other because she’s probably the only person who understands why he takes on so many projects for the university.
law student and engineer…it’s great because we can learn about new topics from each other, and he can give me a completely different perspective when i’m hung up on something that can be solved with regular common sense, as opposed to stupid legal terms.
Fashion (me) and finance (him). I’ve heard it’s a common pairing (?)- I don’t know. It works for us.
We’re both psychology majors so we use a lot of the same jargon on each other. But he’s in software development now and I’m a social worker. But we’re both geeks at heart.
He used to do customer service which is strangely similar to my job so he can relate sometimes.
We are in different fields - he is in technology and I’m in operations but we both work for the same investment company. The pros are going to company events together, helping each other out with work issues, and meeting for lunch during work. Cant really think of any cons except maybe we talk about work more than we would otherwise.
I’m a lawyer and DH is in his last year of law school. Strangely enough, we were both science majors in college as well!
he’s a lawyer (almost) and i’m in HR. i was almost a law student though.
seriously… at his firm parties… all the lawyers were married to lawyers and the partners had trophy wives…
My husband and I are both attorneys but do totally different things - he does First Amendment work and commercial litigation and I am in low-income poverty work. I am so glad we are in the same profession because it is great to be able to come home and talk about our days and really appreciate the highs and lows.
Both of us are teachers! Crazy!!!
We met at work- I’m an interior designer and he’s an architect. Its nice because we do similar things and can understand each others work-but its also different enough that we can compliment each others talents.
Architect and Electrical Engineer (the computer chip type)
It’s nice because I have my architecture world and he has his engineering stuff that I have no clue about, so when we get home it’s all about our life together and not work. I have tried numerous times to understand what he does, but to no avail. It was especially great in school because all my friends were architecture, so it was great to be able to escape it every now and them and be with him.
sales and social service. we’re people people!
I’m a physician and he’s an artist and animator - talk about different worlds! Although our fields are from opposite ends of the spectrum, I find what attracts us to one another is our dedication and enthusiasm about our work. Obviously, we aren’t educated enough in each other’s field to understand certain situations. But we do enjoy hearing about each other’s work, even if it’s about a bad patient day for me or an annoying deadline for him. Our work is really important to us…we’re firm believers in maintaining a life where our careers represent our passion – I guess that’s why we’re together!
H.S. Counselor (him), healthcare policy (me). Both very passionate about issues related to social justice. Don’t think I could be with someone who wasn’t.
We met mainly because of our public policy interests… and we’ll always be working for the public good. Mr. Lemon is in environmental work and I’m educational policy… but he has a lot of interest in school stuff (his dad works in the same field) and I have a lot of interest in environmental and urban planning issues.
p.s. Lawyers marry lawyers usually because there’s no life outside of law school. However, with all of my friends, once they leave the bubble they’re turned off by ever dating anyone in the same field.
There’s a statistically improbable number of married couples where I work. New folks always comment on it. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn’t. There was one couple that came here married, got divorced, and each subsequently married someone else in the organization.
I’m a future lawyer and he’s a future dentist. I like it because he’ll have a lot more flexibility in his career than I will (pick up the kids form school)?
Is it just me or are the are lot of lawyers on WeddingBee?
My parents worked together as a family therapy partnership, and I grew up with constant dinner-table discussions about their work. (To the point that I got my undergrad degree in pyschology because it just seemed EASY after so many years of eavesdropping!) So I could never quite imagine being in a relationship where you spend huge amounts of your life at work and never quite understand what the other person does all day….
Cut to now: We’re both lawyers. While we don’t work together, at present we both work from home. And I love the “meeting of equals” feeling when Mr. T asks my professional opinion on something — together, we draft a pretty mean contract!!
Miss Tulip, would you mind sharing more about your job (or emailing me). I’m still investigating legal careers and I would love to (eventually) be able to work from home.
Thanks!
We met passing time working in a restaurant together, but are now in completely different professions. I work for a small film production company. Mr. Jrmint is in the Army.
We do alot of the same tasks at work, however I work in the non-profit field and he is a software engineer. Sometimes, I think I should jump ship and make more money, but I LOVE the non-profit environment and knowing my work direclty beneifts others. His work directly benefits my life style!
Mo, hopefully you’ll check back for this, as I still haven’t figured out the private messaging system….
Unfortunately, I don’t have a ton of broadly applicable advice. Mr. T works for a small government contracting company, and most of their employees work wherever they’ve contracted. Since he usually needs to be in touch only by phone/email, there’s no need to commute to the central office. The upside of a tiny company (in addition to working from home!) is that he’s in charge of all the varied tasks of a Legal Counsel and Director of Operations. The downside is that it pays about 1/4 of what he’d make at a big firm. As for me, I work for the government, which is increasingly flexible about “telecommuting”. But I’ve been ill for quite a while, and am currently home on disability leave.
My future husband is a web designer/developer, and I’m finishing a masters in art history, so we’re both arty, visual people who like shiny things and good design.
Ironically enough, we’ve both got BA’s in Journalism, and both decided to pursue art rather than journalism. However, it means that we still sit there on Sunday with the red pen, copyediting the newspaper.
We’re both engineers but in different industries. I design/build buildings and my husband is a software engineer.
We both work with a lot of stress and under a lot of pressure, so we understand what each other’s job entails. And I think that made us compromise with each other quite a bit. And so far it’s worked out great. =)
My new husband and I are both civil engineers. I am structural while he is land development. We understand what the other one does and consult each other for ideas which is nice. It is also nice to each have our own “thing”. And no, we don’t work at the same company, which is a very common question!
I’m a lawyer and he’s an organic chemist. I actually really dislike the idea of his ever being a lawyer– and it was an option, what with law firms wanting tech specialists these days. We’re both pretty competitive people, and sharing a profession would just be a strain, I think. Especially since I’d want to “help” him, at least at the beginning, and would probably end up being overbearing.
I’m glad we’re in different professions. We can appreciate each others’ expertise without feeling at all threatened by it.
I love this because i am a lawyer and i said i would never marry another lawyer as it would be a nightmare. My husband is not a lawyer. To be honest, i dont think it really matters though.
He’s going to be an anesthesiologist, and I’m going to be a priest. Both of us like taking care of people, and the professions have similar demands. We joke that he fixes the body, and I fix the soul.
We also both have musical backgrounds, which is how we first hit it off, and we still perform together. He’s a pianist, and I’m a singer so it works out very well. I’ve dated other singers previously and it was just too much competition for me, so it’s nice to share music but without it being competitive.
both of us have engineering degrees (him chemical, me biomedical) but he got a masters in engineering management and is now doing IT consulting, while I’m getting my PhD. It works b/c we understand a lot about each others work so we can talk about our problems etc, and we like having nerdy conversations about different technology or medical advances, but we’re different enough that we’re not competing or anything. Plus I like that he is actually working in the real world… helps me out as a poor grad student, ha. I keep telling him how it’s nice that I “married into money”, which he finds hilarious b/c he’s not “rich” in any sense, just has a lot more money than a poor grad student like me and my friends
It’s been SO interesting reading all of your answers– we have some really accomplished Weddingbee readers! One thing that I neglected to point out about Mr. Jasmine and I is that while we’re both lawyers, we work for different government agencies and practice different types of law. Mr. Jasmine practices family law (although he will be transferring to a new division soon) and I practice civil rights law. That definitely helps keep things interesting!
both architects
work in the same small office [4 people total]
absolutely love every minute of it!
We’re both in college athletics. He’s an assistant coach and I’m in PR - but I work with his team. Boy is that annual team trip to Hawaii on the university a great perk! It’s also nice because neither of us have 9-to-5 jobs and we understand this.
Another lawyer-lawyer pairing. But we’re in different departments. I’m in litigation; he’s in bankruptcy. Thus, I always win arguments
I’m a graphic designer and he’s a chef. It was meant to be because we met in a restaurant while I was waitressing right out of college, and I was the worst waitress ever!
We are both teachers and we actually even work at the same school!!! Surprisingly, we didn’t meet each other at the school we teach and I started teaching at his school after him and we met outside of teaching/school. We do teach different grades and subjects but it’s definitely nice to be able to have someone to bounce “teaching issues” off of. The only thing is that we’ve actually found that it’s not the best idea for us to commute to and from work together since I typically like to go in earlier than he does and we need time to decompress after the day from all of the teaching. Great post! I love hearing other people’s stories!
We were both graphic designers/art directors when we met, then he changed careers and is now a commercial real estate broker. I had a tough time initially when he decided to change his path, but it works out well for us and he’s a lot happier now.
We make a great team and have similar taste in just about everything style wise! He hasn’t lost his passion for design. He’s much more a “people person” so working is sales is a great way for him to relate to others.
I work at an environmental children’s museum and he writes about weapons and military tactics for an online database… we’re pretty opposite in the workfield. But i like to think of that as a good thing : ) we always have interesting stories for the other when we come home from work
i’m in fashion he is in class action security litigations, yea… not that related haha
we’re both architects, and although we do talk shop a lot, (and i get annoyed about it more than he does) i have to admit that it is awesome to share such a huge part of our lives. it helps our schedules are similar, too. his parents both do the exact same thing too.
We’re both teachers. We feel the same as you. It’s great to brainstorm together and share ideas– help one another out when our motivation is lacking. It can also be a pain when school talk becomes excessive or when we’re competing for the same job.
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Mrs. Jasmine, Chicago/LA
Age and Occupation: 25, Attorney
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Attorney
Engagement Date: March 24, 2007
Wedding Date: June 7, 2008
Blogging Since: September 20, 2007
Venue: Hotel on the westside of Los Angeles
About Me: I'm a happy-go-lucky, imaginative spirit trapped in the body of a lawyer. I love reading, shopping, dining out, and exploring my beloved adopted city of Chicago with my fiance. We're planning the wedding of our dreams in my hometown of Los Angeles and we're excited to incorporate our cherished Indian/Pakistani customs and traditions.
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