Back In The Saddle
November 13th, 2007 @ 8:26 am by Mrs. Hummingbird
So here I am, returning after a week’s hiatus. I have to admit, as much as I enjoy blogging and am excited about the wedding, I was suffering from a bit of wedding ennui last week.
We’ve still got a little over seven months to go and, having dealt with wedding planning stuff pretty much daily for the past five months, I just hit a brick wall. It seemed like everytime I logged on to my computer, there was my checklist just screaming at me to complete things and it made me feel really burned out.
So, I decided to take a little time for myself to do things I wanted to do outside of the wedding world. I took naps, I read unwedding related books, I played video games, I visited friends and family and, most importantly, I spent time with Mr. Hummingbird, taking a day off to enjoy a long weekend up at his family’s country place where we spent every night snuggled up by the fire.
It was completely perfect and after four days of relaxation, I was fully ready to jump back in the saddle and face the rest of my planning challenges.
Seamstress? Check!
Photography? Check!
Catering? Check!
Not only did it feel great to accomplish these things, but it made me feel good being able to deal with them and enjoy them as opposed to doing them begrudingly because I felt like I HAD TO RIGHT NOW!
It’s been hard sometimes, finding a balance between regular Miss Hummingbird and Wedding Miss Hummingbird, but I feel like, now that I’ve seen what a little pacing and relaxation can do, I’m determined to keep a level head and take time for myself when I need it. I fully admit, I’m a perfectionist, but I’ve come to realize that if I spent the remaining 228 days planning and only planning,
1) I would go crazy and
2) Just going by the law of averages, things would still go wrong, so what is the sense in tying my stomach in knots?
The things that are priorities for us are already at the top of the checklist and the things that aren’t, well, if we don’t get to them, we’ll still be okay.
Anyway, now that I’m back and attempting to be a Zen as possible, I’m curious - Has anyone else out there experienced wedding burnout? What did you do to combat it/relax?
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8 Responses to “Back In The Saddle”
Great post– I can completely relate! We’re getting married in June also and we’ve been engaged since March. I feel like I’ve been non-stop wedding crazy since then and lately, I’ve been feeling burned out. It helps a lot for me to watch non-wedding related TV shows and read my favorite books and try to keep wedding talk to a minimum. Reminding myself that I have a great, full life other than wedding stuff is so important for keeping sanity!
Oh man - if there was one post today that I could connect with, this is it… We’re less than two months out now, and we’ve been engaged for just over a year. I started planning my wedding about a year and a half before we got engaged - I think that’s adding to it. I’m just to the point where I’m sick of everything wedding. That’s so sad to day!
To add to it, we’re in a LDR, and with this being my last semester in school, planning a wedding in a different city than we’re both in right now, and trying to work to make money and save for the time between school and work - we see each other once a month…maybe. I am just so excited to be married, live together and make a house together…can’t we just be on the other side yet???
A Ferris Bueller day. 
Oh man, I have been going through the same thing lately. For me it’s a combination of a lot of real-life (you know, because wedding planning isn’t real life, haha) things happening and a sort of lull in the planning process. All of the “major” stuff has been taken care of and I’m having such a hard time diving into all the minutiae.
A two week vacation to the East Coast (read: lots of friends to visit and catch up with, no easy access to the internet) cured my wedding ennui and broke me of obsessive knot and bee reading/posting. I didn’t think I was burnt out when I left Los Angeles, but when I got back I realized “Wow, I needed that break.”
my Fi & i were also feeling major wedding burnout a month ago… luckily my inlaws had planned a week-long family vacation for all of us in the spring for october. i kicked my wedding bee addiction (okay… so i checked it once) and we felt relaxed & chill when got back. unfortunately we havent picked up the wedding pace again (altho as you see Im back to wedding bee!)
I definitely felt like that. I’m from the UK and getting married in NZ so I don’t really have anyone to help out. It’s just one of those periods you pass through though - like being bored with work, or fed up in general!
Mrs. Hummingbird, Toronto
Age and Occupation: 25, Publishing Coordinator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Videogame Designer/Cartoonist
Engagement Date: May 4, 2007
Wedding Date: June 28, 2008
Blogging Since: September 18, 2007
Venue: A garden wedding followed by a tented reception on Mr. Hummingbird's father's property.
About Me: I’m a pop culture loving, vintage obsessed foodie living in Canada’s biggest city with my fantastic fiancé and our lovable fluffy cat Bettie. I’m stoked to marry my best friend and to throw what I hope will be
the most fun and colourful party of our lives.
Miss Humingbird I can totally relate! FI and I have been engaged for 3 months ( 10 more months to go) and already I feeel as If I have spent every waking moment dealing with “weddign stuff” we already have the church, venue, caterer, photographer and DJ…so we are doing pretty good! My rule is that when FI and I have a weekend away we don’t talk about wedding stuff, we just re-connect. We plan these weeeknds every couple of months, our last one was last weekend, we went up to Baltimore for a football game, got a hotel room and just made a weekend of it, it was so nice and relaxing, even though we were only an hour away from home ( dc) that weekend was enough to rejuvinate me and to get me excited again about this wedding we are planning, because as we have all said a million times, the weddign is the day, but the marriage is a lifetime, so sometimes its important to just focus on the two of you! Great post