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Maybe it’s because it’s getting closer to the wedding and I’m ultra sensitive. Maybe it’s because people have no boundaries. All I can say is, why are people obsessed with my age?!?
Okay, obsessed isn’t even fair. But frankly, it’s a little weird that in the period of one day, three people (and by people I mean strangers) asked how old I was (after I mentioned that I was getting married) and then proceeded to say, “wow. that’s SO young. wow”. All three of them! It was like clockwork. I was at the seamstress and even she turned to me (after the third person) and said “Why are people so obsessed with your age?!”
I don’t think I’m too young. I know I’m making the right decision and I know it’s the right time. And frankly, after dating for five years, a lot of people kept asking what we were waiting for! I guess you can never win!
How old were you (or will you be) when you get married? What age do you think is too young (don’t worry, I won’t get offended!).
Why are strangers so… well… strange??
I lived in LA for three years and as a Midwestern girl I was struck by a very different cultural norm there - people don’t get married in their mid twenties, much less their early twenties in that part of the country. The vast majority of engaged couples in the L.A. area is in their thirties. At least that was my experience. Regardless, it is rude for people, especially strangers to have that reaction or concern. Only you and your FI can know if you are ready. That being said my BF married at 24, and was totally ready, and one of my favorite clients married at 21 and was totally ready, and my little sister married at 23 and was ready. Does each of them have some maturing left to due - sure - we all do. But they were ready for marriage. Good luck!
FI and I started dating at 25, where engaged at 28 and will be 29 when we get married. I wouldn’t have been anywhere near ready at 23, but that is probably because I was still enjoying being single 
That said - there is nothing wrong with getting married at 23! If you and your FI know its the right time, then everyone else should just mind their own business!
Ok, so I can understand your dismay and confusion over peoples reaction if you are in your mid twenties or older but if you aren’t yet 21 I can see why people bring it up. You never did mention how old you are….
I’m 32 and won’t be married until I am 33 or 34 so I am not gettign that type of reaction.
I don’t think people should be sticking their noses in other people’s business. There are some 18 year olds who are ready to get married and some 50 year olds who still aren’t ready. Personally, I think 18 is a bit young to be getting married…but that’s just me. You’re not too young to get married. Don’t worry about what other people think, if you’re ready, go for it!
30. After 5 years of dating. If i had met him at 20 rather than 25 i would have been 25 when i got married. If only life were so simply that 1. a certain age or 2. a certain time period of dating someone was enough to ensure a long happy marriage. sadly life is not that simple. It is different for everyone.
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“People are strange when youre a stranger” –Doors
I was 21 when I met my guy. 22 when we dated. 23 when we got engaged. 24 when we married.
Too young…hmmm…I don’t know if “too young” has anything to do with age. I mean, my guy’s 22-year-old brother is going on 13, but I’ve met other 22 year olds who have it together. Maybe they just see your youthful face and automatically put it in their own personal “too young” calculator. I’ve probably been guilty of it too if I didn’t know the person.
I’ll be 26, he’ll be 29. As for an “age”, I don’t think there is one. I know, I know, it sounds like a line but it’s true. Some people are ready in their early 20’s (I was.) Other people aren’t ready until they’re in their 30’s or 40’s (cough, cough, my brother.)
As for strangers, well, who really knows why people say the things they say? Maybe the little man in their heads that operates the “Shut up!” switch had the day off? 
I will be 23 and FI will be 21 when we get married, but we got engaged when he was 19 and after 6 months of dating so i am used to the comments…i am sure of my choice and i love him, hopefully after a 2 year engagement people will be quiet. I definitely was having fun and dating around when i was 19, so I wouldnt have been ready, but when you find the one you’re set!
FI and I started dating when we were 18 but we will be 28 when we do get married. I personally think that the youngest someone should be married is 25 but I realize that in some parts of the country it is common for people to be married at a much younger age. But I do think that the younger brides and grooms have a bigger likelihood of divorcing.
It’s not that FI and I waited because we didn’t feel mature for our ages. To the contrary, I’d say we are both much more mature than our ages. Our rationale was “Just because we started dating when we were young doesn’t mean we also have to get married young.”
We have been living together for several years and have already combined most of our finances. We have traveled the world together. But we never felt the need to rush down the aisle. Our decision was right for us, and what’s right for us won’t be right for everyone.
we met at 22, dated and got engaged at 29 and will be married at 30. i def wouldnt have been ready at 23. i thought i was ready at 26 and had the talk with him. turns out i wasnt. and he wasnt either. i always thought id be younger getting married, but i guess now was the right time. its whats right for you, individually. i can understand why people would say something though. i look at my cousin in her early 20s and i cant imagine her getting married. but thats just from my personal experience.
I got married 2 months ago. My husband and I were both 23. Just like you.
I think it was a respectable age for us both. We had been dating 4.5 years when we got married. We had wanted to graduate college first. And we even waited more than a year after graduating. I think this was a good thing for us, since it gave us more time to adjust to full time jobs, living on our own, etc.
23 is not too young. :o)
I was 21 when I met Mr. Jasmine and we’ll be 26 and 27 respectively when we get married. I don’t know that there’s a right or wrong age to get married– as long as everyone’s legal and feels comfortable and ready, I say it’s an individual choice.
I don’t get why strangers feel the need to comment on other people’s wedding choices. I’ve gotten this a lot (you should see the looks I get when I say I’m not having a bridal party) and it perplexes me every time!
anything under 25 is too young IMO
My mom was 18 and my dad 20 when my parents got married. 36 years later they’re still very happily married, proving that it can work.
The funny thing, however, is that my mom has *always* told my sister and I not to marry young. Not because she’s not happy, but because *every single other couple* they know who married young is now divorced. And we’re not talking about a few, but more like 15+ couples. Coincidence? Possibly.
I’ve always thought that until you’re out of college and have a job, you shouldn’t get married. Really, if you’re not self-supporting, how are you mature enough to marry?
Of course a college degree isn’t required for marriages to work, but it’s just a useful point of reference. I think one should be old enough to drink champagne at their own wedding, and that’s pretty much a cutoff for me.
Haha. I feel so bad, I’m definitely one of those people that when I meet a bride to be under 24, I go, “WOW, thats so young!!!”. I’ll try to control myself from now on
I was very worried for my girlfriend that got married at 24, who had only been with her boyfriend for a year when they got engaged…but on the same token, I’ve been dying for another one of my girlfriends to get married (that had already been with her boyfriend since age 18) when she was 23, so I guess I go on a case by case basis of what I think is “too young”.
Anyway, I do have to admit, that 24 and under seems very young to me. But who cares what I think…and to be honest, I was ready to marry at 24.
FI and I are 24, too, and we can’t really seem to win with people either. When we announced our engagement, people who know us said, “Finally, what took you so long?” (we’ve been dating since high school!) but strangers often tell us we’re way too young. Everyone will have an opinion, you just have to know you’re doing what’s right for you and let the rest go I guess.
very judgmental, silly! if you’re legal and you’re getting married for the right reasons, there is no right or wrong age.
this post reminds me of the mtv show “engaged and underage.” the worst part of the show was not the age of those getting married, but the fact that many were not financially stable, didn’t have their families’ support, or were doing it for the wrong reasons (often all three).
I was 28 (just turned 29 a few days ago) and my husband is 30 and we got married a few weeks ago. In Southern California, we seem to be the typical age of people getting married.
I think a lot of it has to do with everyone we know waited till after college and waited to their careers got in order. It is very different than the mid-west. The median age varies from region to region in this country.
But honestly, who cares, if you have your life together and ready to make that pledge to spend the rest of it with another person I say Kudos!
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Miss Peppermint, LA/Palm Springs Age and Occupation: 23, Actress Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Web Producer Engagement Date: October 21, 2006 Wedding Date: December 2007 Blogging Since: July 2, 2007 Venue: historic estate overlooking the heart of Palm Springs About Me: I am a Southern California native who enjoys cooking, writing, travel and all things in the arts. Mr. Peppermint and I met in college and he proposed on our four year anniversary in one of our most special places, Joshua Tree National Park. We're having a destination wedding in Palms Springs that will incorporate tradition as well as reflect our personalities!
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