Mrs. Peony, New York
Age and Occupation: 27, Marketing Coordinator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, QA Engineer
Engagement Date: June 28, 2007
Wedding Date: April 18, 2008
Venue: The Fountainhead
Blogging Since: August 7, 2007
About Me: Both Mr. Peony and I are huge computer nerds, and our conversations usually consist of the latest gadgets, programming languages, and video games. At the same time, I can also be very girly with an obsession with handbags, makeup, and high heels. And art! I've studied studio art extensively, almost majored in art history, and freelance as a web and graphics designer. Mr. Peony and I are having a ball of a time planning a wedding for 250(!) guests, doing our best to infuse our personalities (geeky chic) with the wishes of our very traditional Asian parents.
When Did You Know?
November 19th, 2007 @ 3:50 pm by Mrs. Peony
This past weekend I attended the wedding celebrations of Mr Peony’s cousin (congratulations, Laura and Wilson!). The MOH mentioned in her speech that Laura knew, just after her third date with Wilson, that they would be getting married one day.
I then turned to Mrs Poppy (my FSIL), who was sitting next to me, and asked if she and Mr Poppy knew right away as well. They did. 
My situation is vastly different. The very first time that I met Mr Peony, he tried to hit on me and I ran away. Fast forward 4 years and we started to become friends. We were friends for a while, then best friends, before he actually made his move. Even then, I’m sorry to say that I don’t think I was that attracted to him. I had been in a series of serious relationships where I had gotten my heart broken numerous times, so I wasn’t looking for anything serious at all - it was all for fun, something I had never done before.
Mr Peony tells me that he always thought I was attractive, but he never saw me as a potential partner either. Even after we started dating, we didn’t think it would ever lead to marriage. Mr Peony admits that he didn’t consider me as a possible wife until we were well past the two-year mark, and he didn’t start shopping for a ring until after three and a half years.
I guess it’s different for all people. When I was younger I always thought I would get married after a whirlwind romance filled with intense emotions. I thought that when I met “the one” that I would know right away. However, the reality couldn’t be further from what I had in mind.
I know that there are readers (and even fellow bees) who experienced this type of relationship, getting engaged less than two, or even one year into their relationships. I don’t think there is a right or wrong way - sometimes you know right away and sometimes these things take longer to develop.
Did you know right away?
24 Responses to “When Did You Know?”
I wouldn’t say I knew right away, but I knew within six months. FH was unlike anyone I had ever known before, and I had gotten out of a serious relationship that wasn’t working right before I met FH so I had learned a lot about myself and what I needed in a relationship.
We got together in January, he got me a promise ring for my birthday in October, and he proposed the next May and our date is June 2007 so we’ll have been together 2.5 years.
We both just knew it was right.
The first time I knew right away that he was NOT right for me. We broke up after three months. We were SO wrong for each other. Cut to 5/6 years later, and I find him again. That’s when I knew he was the one, and it was the right time.
I think he knew before I did…or at least he believed I was the one before I believed he was the one. It took about 2-3 months for him and about another 6 months for me. I had just gotten out of a very self destructive relationship so I was skeptical of everything. But my FI made me believe in miracles! Gosh, I’m a lucky gal! =)
We didn’t know right away at all. We started dating after knowing each other after three years, so it would have been hard to tell from a really early point what exactly our relationship was. It didn’t help that when we first met we really didn’t like each other. After dating for about six months, I told him, in the middle of a fight, that I thought I could marry him. We didn’t get engaged for another two years, but we knew within a year from dating that we wold be getting married someday.
I wouldn’t say it was right away either — I needed a ride home from work … (after leaving my keys and luggage in Vegas) and he really didn’t want to take me. He was stuck with me all night until my roommate got home - so we went to dinner and I showed him my trip. It was then I realized he was very funny and there was more than met my eye. We slowly progressed during two months — not exactly dating - but quietly flirting. It wasn’t until 4 months after we were casually dating that he told me he really liked me and I needed to figure something out!
I didn’t even think about marriage until (fast forward 6 months) he asked what kind of ring I would like- and I was stumped! The thought hadn’t crossed my mind. It took him another year to ask the question - so a little under two years - and we just fumbled our way through! 
When I first met Mr. Chill he hit on me and I wanted nothing to do with him. I used his phone number to ask him to cover a shift at the restaurant for me instead. Oops.
After 3 months I moved in, and for our first christmas, he bought a silver ring. For our first anniversary, he bought me an emerald ring, and I knew that was huge because he never ever bought a ring for any of his girlfriends before. I think it was around then when I realized that I wanted to be with him forever. After about a year of us dating, he asked our parents if we could live together in our very own place, and said it was definitely going to lead to marriage. I didn’t know right away, but on our 3rd date he said, “You’re going to marry me one day.” And I nearly chocked on my dessert. I guess he was right!
We knew from our first date. Not to be a total cheese, but there was just this moment that I looked at him and though, he’s the One.
I had been burned in the past too, so we progressed slowly. We moved in together after 3 years and got engaged after 3.5.
i didnt know the first time i met him, but i was attracted to him in a friendly sort of way. we just clicked. very soon after, i knew. it was the only time i have ever known. the words “this is the man im going to marry” scrolled through my head. 7 years later, we’re about to tie the knot =)
We definitely knew after 1 month of dating, and seriously started saving for our wedding after 3 months of dating.
Scary, I know! But we knew we were right for each other, and 2 years later, we’re finally getting married!
Its so fun to hear everyone’s stories. We knew within the first six months that we would get married, but waited for another year to get engaged. We will have been together for 2 1/2 years once we get married.
Nope…I had no clue. Falling in love kind of blind-sided me, and I didn’t think it was possible to fall in love so quickly. But the moment it hit, I was a believer. Up until then though…I thought it was just nice to have someone to date.
I asked my guy though, and he said he knew right away I was going to be special to him.
FI and I bought eachother rings that were meant to say i love you (not promise rings) after one month and since about that time i knew i wanted to marry him, but defintiely different for everyone. we are having over a 2 year engagement due to him attending college still but its nice to be engaged!
we met when we were 19, so marriage was the farthest thing from either of our minds. but we were both instantly attracted to each other and felt a hard to explain bond. since we were both insanely shy around the opposite sex, it took us three months of being joined-at-the-hip best friends before we went out on our first date. even then, i just remember thinking that he would be a great boyfriend, but wasn’t thinking in terms of “the love of my life” and i’m pretty sure he felt the same way. but, what can i say, six years later, we still feel more comfortable around each other than we ever have around anyone else ever. like we’re living inside the same skin. and that’s absolutely the way that i would want the love of my life to feel.
I knew within the first month of having known him. My old roommate knew the first week. 2.5 months after starting dating, we started talking about marriage. after 9 months, he proposed By the time we get married it will be just under 2 years!
He knew pretty quickly, I think; I needed convincing. I was actually still recovering from a painful breakup, so I regarded him with a rather cynical eye, I’m afraid. The fact that he stuck it out and waited for me to figure out what a gem he is meant a lot.
Fun stories!!
We met on match - and I NEVER met anyone in person until I’d been chatting with them for months (like 4-6 months!)! Well we had our first date only 2 weeks after first chatting! I had the hugest crush on him and knew I had to meet him ASAP to see if he was as great in person as he seemed online. Lucky me, he was!!
I knew right away that God had brought us into each others lives. He could have asked me after three months and I would have said YES, let’s do it tomorrow! It took him 10.5 months to ask and we were married 4.5 months later
Knew right away — however — we dated six years before getting engaged 
I didn’t but I kinda did - does that make sense? I have a really stark memory of him visiting me in college on weekend when we were just high school buddies and I met him at the entrance to my dorm. He was standing by his little red beater car (a “classic”) with a dark green sweater on and it was a gorgeous sunny fall day. When I saw him, “what if this were a date?” popped into my mind. I shrugged it aside since we were both with other people but still, I kind of look back on that moment as “the moment”. Silly isn’t it?!
PS. we started dating a month later and that was 4 years ago!
Nah - mine was a bit of fun too. After all, I was only supposed to be in NZ for 6 months! We moved in together after 3, he proposed, I said to wait, 15 months later he proposed again and I accepted
He knew much sooner than I did. But when I had to spent Thanksgiving break away from him (about a month after we started dating), that’s when I knew.
LOL. I was in a serious realtionship myself for 6 years and when I met my FI, all I wanted to do is to have some fun. He is younger than me and he never had a long realtionship, his longest one was 9 month. Perfect for me at the time. I guess its all meant to be. He proposed to me after 2 yrs dating. He said he knew I was the one after 1 yr but I never thought he was the one until he proposed!
i knew he was special before we started dating. we were best friends for four months before we started dating, and dated for almost two years before getting engaged. we hinted around at marriage for the first six months of dating, both knowing this was probably The One, and then seriously started talking about marriage by our first anniversary. had we been older, we would have been engaged and married sooner, but we’re only 20, so we took it slow.
people started calling us an “old married couple” before we even started dating, though. i guess they saw it before we acknowledged it.
We started dating in July and within a couple of weeks he introduced me to his best friend Tom. He took one look at us and said “I bet you’ll be married by April” I told him he was crazy. I no sooner wanted to get married than cut my nose off my face. Tom said “You should see the two of you. I should take a picture and show you”
We dated for about a month and then I told my family I wasn’t going to date him anymore because he was just “too nice” They all scoffed at me and told me that I was crazy and not to break up with him. To give him a chance, and what was wrong with dating a NICE guy. Was it better to date ones that cheated on you? I kept dating him and 3 months later I knew. The truth be told, I shocked myself that October when I just casually asked him “When are you going to marry me?” He laughed and said “I was waiting for that”. Nothing happened. But “it” was out there.
We met on July 25, 2006. He proposed to me on the 4th of July, 2007. And we’re getting married on July 12, 2008. I get to keep my nose AND the man of my dreams!
