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There is one section of every magazine, website, blog, etc that I always skip: the “trends” section or the “what’s in or out” lists.
It’s not that I don’t want to know what’s chic and in style. And sometimes you can really draw inspiration from current trends. I also realize that these lists are not meant to dictate your lives.
I guess my problem with these lists lies in the fact that everyone is different with their own distinct personalities and styles. The wedding industry is always advocating the importance of personalizing your wedding…. so aren’t they in a sense contradicting themselves by publishing these do’s and don’ts? And what if your personal preference are the very things that are outdated or “out?” Does that make your wedding any less beautiful? Will your guests have less fun? Does it have any influence at all on you and your SO’s love and commitment to each other?
Now I’m not one for deliberately bucking trends, but I do know what I like and don’t. So I proudly proclaim that yes, all my bridesmaids will wear the same dress. Yes, my wedding dress has pick-ups. Yes, I will wear a tiara. Yes, I will walk down the aisle to Wagner’s “Bridal Chorus” from Lohengrin. And yes, I’m going all-out with my hair & makeup.
Perhaps my own preference and style is outdated. But it is still me. 
Great post! Magazines are a great resource, but yeah, it’s easy to get sucked into “do this, don’t do that”. I’m all for knowing what my options are, but people shouldn’t feel presssured to do everything or anything that isn’t them. Which is something magazines are great at. That’s why Weddingbee rocks…we get to see what people are actually doing…real people, not just trendy pics from a magazine.
I have to agree, but not just in the wedding industry. Aren’t we always different? I’m not trying to follow trends, but I guess I am.
1. My bridesmaids will not be wearing the same dress
2. my wedding dress does not have pick-ups
3. I will wear a tiara
4. I will walk down the aisle to something other than the the bridal chorus
5. I’m going all-out with my hair & makeup.
I have a coworker who always goes along with every trend that every magazine tells her to, regardless of how it looks on her.
Result: she almost always looks awkward and uncomfortable, and she paid a pretty penny to look that way, too.
There’s nothing wrong with being aware of trends, and even following them when they suit you. But blindly following all of them just because that’s what the editor of some magazine told you to? We’re smarter than that.
I don’t think it’s a matter of avoiding trends all together or using only the trendiest of ideas….I think it’s about doing what works for you, no matter what category it falls into.
I hear the words “magazine worthy” described for certain stylish weddings, and I feel like many brides aspire to have their weddings described this way. It almost becomes a competition. It’s a good idea to not read the trend section of a magazine because something new will always appear. You have to stick to what you really want or else it will kill you to see the cutest new trend in a magazine 1 month before the wedding.
if everyone followed the trends then there that would in the individuality that the same magazines say should be in everything [wardrobes, weddings, homes, etc]. as with the rest of the way i pick things, i’ll just pick and choose what i like, whether it’s a trend or not [or, gasp, last year's trend!]. i’d want something as personal as our wedding to be a direct reflection of us, not what’s popular in some magazine that season. so bright colors in winter? fine by me. matching bridesmaid dresses. alright. no choreographed first dance, no problem. cupcake wedding cake? i’m all over that no matter how overdone it may be. man i love me some cupcakes. lol
What’s funny is a trend will be mentioned and then it will cycle for years afterward because the bride reads it while engaged, but the wedding is months down the road…so there’s always this lapse.
I totally agree. Being a trend chaser is no fun, especially for a wedding. It’s important to put your personal touches so it’s a memorable event for you AND your guests. There are weddings that I’ve been to but do not remember a thing except for where we ate. If the trend is “you”, then do it, all out, if not, then who cares!!
1. My bridesmaids will be wearing the same dress
2. My wedding dress does not have pick-ups
3. I will not wear a tiara or any headpieces
4. I will walk down the aisle to something other than the the bridal chorus
5. I’m going all-out with my hair & makeup
Good post.
Lots of brides feel like they have to copy or simulate all of the hottest “trends”–but I think it’s better to just pick and choose for what suits you, your taste and style…just like fashion.
One thing that is driving me crazy of late is the “Candy Buffet” craze and how almost every bride I come across just ‘has to have’ it–mist of the time because ‘it is something their guests have likely never seen…’
I don’t think that’s a reason to include something in your wedding!
I totally agree with everything that’s been said. I love the trend sections of magazines but only for new and fresh ideas, keeping in mind that most of them will not be “new and fresh” for very long. I’ve tried to be especially conscious of this for our wedding since the pictures will be around forever and I know how silly my dad looked in his powder blue tux from my parent’s wedding. Hehe. I think with all the blogs and magazines and the “magazine worthy” pressure now adays, it’s important to keep in mind that the wedding is for the bride and groom and no one else. And like was said before, I’m not a fan of bucking a trend for the sake of bucking the trends. That is just the opposite (but the same feel) as going along with the trends because you’re told to. Both mean that your decisions are being influenced by an outside source. So with that being said… here’s my list.
1) My bridesmaids are wearing the same dress.
2) I’m wearing a cardigan over my dress becasue it makes me feel comfortable.
3) I’m wearing a regular old headband instead of a tiara or hairpiece.
4) I’m walking down the isle to Cannon in D. As over used as it is, I’ve dreamed of using it from the time I first saw Father of the Bride when I was like 8!!!!!!
Bonnie, my guy’s dad has the same tux! However, his mom looks gorgeous and timeless and the only thing trendy on her is the high head piece, but even that was simple.
I second that!!! Great post! It makes me sad when I hear/read people say things like “that dress is so dated it isn’t worth wearing” or something like that. A wedding should be a reflection of yourselves and therefore you should be able to choose what you want!!!
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Mrs. Peony, New York Age and Occupation: 27, Marketing Coordinator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, QA Engineer Engagement Date: June 28, 2007 Wedding Date: April 18, 2008 Venue: The Fountainhead Blogging Since: August 7, 2007 About Me: Both Mr. Peony and I are huge computer nerds, and our conversations usually consist of the latest gadgets, programming languages, and video games. At the same time, I can also be very girly with an obsession with handbags, makeup, and high heels. And art! I've studied studio art extensively, almost majored in art history, and freelance as a web and graphics designer. Mr. Peony and I are having a ball of a time planning a wedding for 250(!) guests, doing our best to infuse our personalities (geeky chic) with the wishes of our very traditional Asian parents.
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