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Mrs. Eggplant, San Francisco Age and Occupation: 28, Human Resources Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Associate Marketing Manager Engagement Date: January 19, 2007 Wedding Date: October 20, 2007 Blogging Since: May 31, 2007 Venue: Ceremony at a cement and stained glass cathedral and reception at a boutique hotel ballroom About Me: I'm a shopping junkie who lives to discover great deals and a craft addict that loves to scrapbook and knit. My profile picture was taken on the day I got engaged which is why my smile is so huge!
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Our One-Monthaversary

November 21st, 2007 @ 4:26 pm by Mrs. Eggplant

I can’t believe it has already been a month of marriage!

Mr. Eggplant surprised me yesterday and took me out to celebrate our first month of newlywed bliss. We had a delicious meal at Clementine, a wonderful little French restaurant in the Richmond district of San Francisco. The food and service was excellent. We’ll definitely be visiting again soon.

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Mr. Eggplant snapped a picture of me while we were waiting for our food.

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This is my goofball of a husband. smiley1081

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Our appetizer was marinated salmon and tuna tartar with sliced almonds and hazelnut oil. It was SO GOOD. I could eat a bowl of this everyday.

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Mr. Eggplant ordered the soup, a tasty cream of cauliflower.

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My entree was sautéed day boat scallops, lobster risotto, fried potatoes, all in lobster sauce. YUM.

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I kind of liked Mr. Eggplant’s dish a little better than mine. Why does food always taste better when it’s on someone else’s plate? smiley1081 He had roasted duck breast with caper and savoy cabbage ragoût and black mission figs. It was one of the best duck dishes I’ve had.

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Dessert was caramelized French toast topped with hazelnut ice cream. SO GOOD. I should’ve ordered three. smiley1081

Lately people have been asking us what it’s like to be married. I tell them it’s like living with my best friend. It’s a wonderful feeling to know that someone will be walking through the rest of my life with me. Honestly, there have been some adjustments that we’ve both had to make. Put any two people together and differences will always be apparent. I went to a marriage conference once where the speaker said, “I’m not impressed when a couple claims that they never argue. This just means that one person is being a doormat. A strong marriage is not evident in how infrequently you argue, but rather how the arguments are handled.”

I’ll admit that Mr. Eggplant and I argue about once every two weeks. Usually it’s over little things, like whether we should spend $100 or $1000 on a new bed. But sometimes deeper topics arise, like one of us feeling distant from the other for various reasons. I’ve definitely learned to be more compromising in just the last month alone. I’ve also discovered that I’m a lot more “princessy” than I thought I was. smiley1081

Personality-wise, Mr. Eggplant and I are very different in many ways. We have the same core values, but we’re one of those unlikely couples that wouldn’t typically match because our personalities are so opposite. With a lot of grace and forgiveness, we’ve vowed to work hard at keeping an honest and loving marriage. Just this week, we were arguing because Mr. Eggplant felt like we weren’t spending enough time together. One of his love languages is quality time, so when we don’t spend time together, he doesn’t feel loved or appreciated by me. To address his concerns, I instated a new rule in the house: on weekdays, TVs, laptops, and video game systems may not be turned on until Mr. Eggplant and I have finished cooking, eating, and cleaning up dinner together. So far, this rule has been extremely effective because instead of coming home and plopping down in front of the tube, we now get at least two hours of daily quality time. smiley1081

In my brief one month of wedded-ness, I don’t think marriage is easy. But I think if two people are willing to invest in their relationship as a #1 priority, it will work. And the rewards will be far more than just a happy marriage.

What are some things that you and your significant other do to maintain a healthy relationship?

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Miss Cherry Blossom (message)  696 posts, Busy bee

Oh eggplant - that place looks so good! Great recommendation. I have got to bring Mr. CB there to try it out now.

Happy monthaversary! Where has the time gone? It’s one month already? Geebus!

 
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Mrs. Violet (message)  255 posts, Helper bee

the food looks delish! happy monthaversary, time flies!

your new workweek rule sounds really good. i think we should implement it or do something similar. our routine is typical to your old one - we both come home, i cook while he turns on the tv or plays his video game until dinner is ready. once we’re done eating, we go back to our own personal things in separate rooms!

 
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lavndrmlkshake (message)  92 posts, Worker bee

Mmmm! That was our Valentine’s dinner place almost 4 years ago :) How do you like it compared to Chapeau! (if you’ve eaten there before)? Congratulations on the monthaversary!!

 
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Mrs. Eggplant (message)  297 posts, Helper bee

Thanks lavndrmlkshake!

I have yet to try Chapeau, but thanks for the suggestion! I have to try it soon. Maybe for our 3-month? ;-)

I LOVE French food. It’s so yummy!

 
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Mrs. Eggplant (message)  297 posts, Helper bee

Violet, I would totally go home and sit at my computer if we didn’t have our new rule. But it’s helping a lot. Sometimes we’ll go take a walk around the block or down to the neighborhood ice cream shop after dinner too. :-)

Cherry BLossom: You gotta give me the heads up on more yummy restaurants in your area! Hey, we should all have dinner together one day! :-)

 
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Maude (message)  326 posts, Helper bee

Mrs. Eggplant, I think that’s a great rule. I’m going to suggest it to my fiance (although I don’t think he’s going to immediately agree with me). btw, I grew up in the Richmond district in SF (have you tried B-Star Bar - great Burmese food - yet?)

 
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Mrs. Eggplant - great rule. We’re guilty of not spending enough quality time together due to TV, computer, etc.

I’ll have to check out Clementine sometimes. But I second the recommendation on Chapeau! It was delish! Great wine selection too if you’re into wine.

 
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Mrs. Gummi Bear (message)  175 posts, Blushing bee

er, … I don’t have anything to say about our relationship.. but I MUST eat there. MUST!!!!

 
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Dayum, that place looks DE-lish!

I really liked the second part of your post. It gives me confidence and hope in being with my bf who is also very different from me. Maybe marriage WILL work for us after all! =P

Happy monthaversary btw! So sweet that Mr. Eggplant surprised you with dinner. :O)

 
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kristasuzanne (message)  86 posts, Worker bee

I absolutely love Clementine- sweet, charming, and delicious!

 


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