Wedding Blog

Though I’ve mentioned them in passing before, Mr. Hummingbird and I are having a nontraditional wedding party. We both have male and female friends so it seemed important to honour those relationships on our big day instead of trying to force ourselves to fit some sort of wedding party mode. Also, having people of different sexes on each side of the bridal party worked out kind of nicely in that there was no need to rank anyone (MOH over Bridesmaid) and everyone got his or her own special title. (For our rehearsal dinner, I’ve been joking about making them all name tags laden with ribbon and glitter . . . you know to boost the special.)

Anyway enough about craft supplies, on to who we picked!

On my side of things, standing up for me I have my Matron of Honour Erin (Hi Erin!) and my Man of Honour Greg.
Erin is my sister in law and an absolute sweetheart. She’s always been supportive of my relationship with Mr. Hummingbird and was a great help when we first started planning by helping me with my silly floundering bride questions and giving me planning advice. Plus, as an only child, it’s kind of cool to get to be going through this phase with a “sister,” even if it’s one through marriage.

As for Greg, we met via a mutual friend when we were in college (me for journalism and him for culinary arts). We both have a demented sense of humour and we pretty much immediately bonded over it. We’ve only been friends for five years but we’ve supported each other through a lot, including moves (he went away for teacher’s college during which we frequently talked and e-mailed) and relationships (when my serious yet ill-matched college relationship ended, he gave me unconditional emotional support . . . not to mention took me out for ice cream), so when we got engaged, I knew I had to ask him.

On Mr. Hummingbird’s side of things, he has his Best Man Nick and his Best Lady Sarah (though he has taken to calling her his groomsbabe, a title which we are continuously debating).

Nick is the husband of Erin and Mr. Hummingbird’s older brother by three years. Though I am told when they were younger they did not getting along, seeing them together as adults makes me wonder how on Earth this could be true since sometimes they seriously seem joined at the brain. I mean don’t get me wrong, it is a lovely brain indeed, but I don’t know how two people can have heads filled with so much knowledge about video games and medieval weaponry (A few summers ago, Nick actually attempted to build a full sized trebuchet. He wanted to build it to be strong enough to catapult some cabbages or a turnip or two, but apparently, his swing trajectory was off and the project was abandoned, which I am sure the neighbours were thankful for.)

As for Mr. Hummingbird’s Best Lady/Groomsbabe, Sarah and Mr. Hummingbird actually dated once upon a time before deciding to call it quits and be friends. A lot of people have found this inclusion of an ex in the wedding party weird, but honestly, I don’t see how it could be any other way. They’ve been friends for almost eight years, and as she is one of the most important people in his life, it seems beyond logical that she should be standing up for him on the big day (and I like her too which is a nice bonus .

Picking our people was one of the first things we did and with 7 months to go, I think I can say without a doubt that we’ve got the right folks for the jobs.

What about you ladies? How did you pick the people that would stand up with you on your big day?