Mrs. Lovebird, New York/Cancun
Age and Occupation: 25, Attorney
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Medical Student
Engagement Date: September 22, 2006
Wedding Date: July, 2008
Venue: Dreams Cancun Resort & Spa
About Me: Born and raised New Yorker planning a destination wedding in Cancun, Mexico and a traditional Chinese banquet in New York City. Got proposed to in Cancun, so it’s only fitting we are going back to get married. I love trivia, board games, bargain shopping, asian dramas and eating yummy food!
Bride Wars Movie
December 10th, 2007 @ 10:31 am by Mrs. Lovebird
I came across an interesting article while surfing the web today about a new movie coming out.
“Anne Hathaway has been set to star with Kate Hudson in “Bride Wars,” and Gary Winick (of 13 Going on 30 fame) has signed to direct the romantic comedy for New Regency.
Hathaway and Hudson will play best friends who are pitted against each other when their wedding dates clash. They compete for venues, services and guests, once it’s clear that neither will step aside.” (courtesy of Variety)
Has anyone had anything like this happen to them? Or heard stories of this happening to other people?
26 Responses to “Bride Wars Movie”
conflict — the best part of any drama! in real life — this is just stupid. what could be SO important they they couldn’t pick different wedding dates. but should be a fun thing to watch with your girlfriends.
maybe even a bee meet up?!?!
ooohhh! fun idea as a bee meet up. fortunately, I haven’t had this happen et. but I do think some friends of ours may need to choose between weddings to attend on our date.
Unfortunately, I think this movie might wind up hitting home. I’ve been engaged since June. My maid of honor (and best friend) is getting engaged at Christmas time (he’s already purchased the ring).
My wedding date is February 29th. Her wedding date? March 1st. I’m getting married in a rustic lodge, SHE’s getting married in a rustic lodge a little further away. I’m trying to be happy for her without throttling her.
And she’s trying to get my other bridesmaids to throw us a “joint shower”!
Are you kidding? Do you never read the Knot message boards? 
I’m POSITIVE that’s where the idea for this movie must have come from. Whether it was MUD or real life issues, I’ve seen at least 5 brides out there mulling over the problem themselves. Sometimes it was from a problem with a family member getting married at a similar time, but most of the time it has been issues with a MOH or Bridesmaid, or someone else that they’re close to who’ve been proposed to AFTER they were proposed to, and had already set their date, and they decided to have their wedding on the same day, or close to it. And the drama ensued!
I’d love to see a movie like this. Knottie drama brought to life! 
This didn’t exactly happen to me, but as close as it gets in real life. When we became engaged 3 months after my best friend and wanted to set a date one month before her wedding date, she explicitly told me that she would be very dissapointed and unhappy if I were to get married so close to her. Nevermind that our weddings share maybe 2-3 mutual guests and that they would be happening in different states at vastly different venus. Anyway, I graciously postponed the date and honestly haven’t felt right about it ever since.
My fiance and I have been dating for nearly 7 years — so, we didn’t want a long engagement and wanted to get married in warmer weather. I thought picking a date in different month would have avoided any jealousy, but no. So now we’ve had a 16 month engagement as a result!
It’s not important in the grand scheme of things, but still irritating.
Ugh. I have heard and read stories, so I believe it. I hate that this is going to be a movie, though - it will just perpetuate the Bridezilla stereotype.
This *kind of* happened to me. It wasn’t my best friend, but an acquaintance that scheduled her wedding on the same day as ours…roughly six months after ours was set. She knew our date, and still went ahead with it. I wouldn’t really care that much - we don’t compete for vendors - but it puts several of our guests in the uncomfortable position of having to choose between our weddings. And we have had people decline our wedding for hers, which sucks…
I think it’s a unique idea for a movie and I’m really excited to see it! Those ladies are two of the best in film these days so it should be fun. While I think it would be insane for two friends fight over a wedding date, I know if it happened to me, I would have to claim my turf too.
I’m hoping that it will make me laugh and make me thankful that it didn’t happen to me or if it could have, that it wouldn’t be that bad. Like some of the decades-bad dresses in the movie, 27 dresses. Maybe they have to make it so exaggerated that a) non-wedding brained people might watch it, and b) wedding brained people will feel better about their own situation….kind of like watching cheap talk shows. 
With the competition for dates and venues sometimes this can’t help but happen.
Two summers ago I had to choose between two weddings. My roommate and a good friend. I think my other roommate and I were the only two invited to both. (All four of us were in the same bible study) It was a hard choice and I hated missing one or the other. My roommate and I split up and she went to our other roommates wedding while I went to see our good friend get married. It worked out.
I was a BM in a sorority sister’s wedding scheduled for April 21 (08). She had gotten engaged in Aug 07. I got engaged in Dec 07 and knew we would have a spring wedding. Well the only date that worked out with our venue was April 28th. Mine was an intimate family wedding so I knew none of the guest list would clash - I wasn’t even inviting her so it didn’t matter she was on her honeymoon. (actually made it a bit easier not to invite her - and it not be a big deal) She was fine with it, and wasn’t upset. Of course it made my 4th month time line for wedding planning a bit more hectic 
Between her couples shower, bach party, & wedding, my girl’s weekend, a work trip, 4 diff weekend trips to visit family, and a snowboarding trip - I wasn’t in town very much! But hey I enjoy life busy! 6 of the 8 weekends leading up to the wedding I was out of town! Who does that?
I have one friend who postponed his wedding for a year since his brother was already engaged and had his wedding date set for that year. To enable traveling family and such not to be burdened they pushed theirs to the following year. Well his brother ended up calling off his engagement! I would have been pretty disappointed!!
My friend got married last Nov. in a civil ceremony. She is having a wedding for friends and family this March. I got engaged a year after her, and my wedding is in Sept. But I feel kinda like she is like keeping tabs on what I’m doing to like compare and see who’s wedding is going to be “better” ? Like asking me pricing on my vendors, and what vendors I have already, etc…
wow, this really happens? makes me glad that the bulk of my friends have already married and that my cousins are younger and won’t be getting married any time soon.
i’m a little skeptical about the movie…it already sounds like something that would annoy me but not to say i wouldn’t watch it on tv or rent it later on. maybe i’ll enjoy it.
two friends are planning weddings the same time as me and there is no competition at all. we’re all such different people.
However, on my knot board a girl bought her wedding dress and showed all her friends…then her “good” friend went and bought the same “dream dress” for her own wedding which was a few weeks before the original girl’s. For me that would be the end of the friendship. The girl just bought a new dress.
This is AWESOME.
I had/have the same situation with a friend that is out of state. She never had any interest with getting married until she found out I was. She started to become very petty and decided to just “take the first person available” route to get hitched.
After keeping up with my blog, she started to post one of her own, and planned hers to be IDENTICAL to mine! Right down to the date. We share a lot of the same friends, and since mine is out of state, she was running the risk of having friends choose.
Well, after calling her out, finally, she changed her date and a few other things and backed off from writing a blog at all. *whew*
Draaaaaama! LOL
I’m hoping that this won’t happen with us. I go to a small college, with about 100 people in my class. I already know of at least 4 couples, including us, who are planning on getting married the summer after graduation. Two couples are already engaged, and DID have the same date originally. However, one of the couples found out before they told anyone their date and were able to change it without any drama.
I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding this coming June, and the bride almost had an issue with the date and our college! Because it’s a private school affiliated with a church denomination, they host a scholarship competition every summer for teens from the denomination. The school usually rents the use of the church’s sanctuary and fellowship hall to hold the music events and award ceremony in. Thankfully, the bride had set her date right after she got engaged this past summer, and the church guaranteed that the building would be hers that day. Now the only issue is parking…
Yes this is definitely a real issue. Yet, it makes me realize that my own situation isn’t quite so bad as I felt like it was.
We’ve been engaged for 7 months and have planned a September wedding. A close family member has recently gotten engaged and has decided to plan his wedding within months of ours… and what really got me going is that it’s before ours. And I didn’t really care too much at that point but then his fiance went and chose the exact same color (shade, hue, etc. ) for her bridesmaid dresses even though she already knew I was having the same color.
Wow! It was good to get that off my chest. I think my fiance thinks I’m crazy for how much this bothers me… but still, I know it could be sooooooo much worse!
My FH cousin is getting married the Saturday before us…no so dramatic, but still annoying!
I have to agree. I got engaged almost a year ago and this summer I went on a mission trip and became close to the people there. Now, one of the guys on that trip got engaged maybe 2 months ago and picked the SAME day. I was outraged when I found out because I planned on inviting people from our trip and now they have to choose between weddings, which means mine probably will not get chosen. BOO
People need to be more considerate about wedding dates that have already been chosen.
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@mickey: Whoever postponed their wedding to accommodate the girl who chose their date first did the RIGHT thing!!! If you know someone who is getting married and you know their date, come on! Just wait for crying out loud! What an awful thing to do to someone, especially if it involves the same friends, the same family, etc. I have two people I know dealing with the same issue; one got engaged and picked their date and the next one got engaged after and chose their date one month before EVEN THOUGH it involves the same people who will be involved AND attending. What a crappy thing to do… totally.
The exact same thing happened to me as what julia just said. i announced my wedding date. my friend got engaged 2 months later and sent me an sms that the ‘earliest’ she could get married was 4 weeks before me. i had told her on the day of her engagement that i was happy for her (and i genuinely was v happy) but i demand a 2 month buffer between weddings as we are each others bridesmaids and she met her friends through me so many of the same core group are goin to both weddings. I was soo upset and i just couldnt believe she would do it to me. she later changed it to 7 weeks before mine and made it out it was for me but i know its because she wanted a saturday night rather than a friday and her fiance had a work gig close to the original date they wanted to avoid.
so although the logistics have changed- i still think i’m going to boot her because of her original intentions. she also asked me how much i was spending on my wedding and told me how much she was spending. it felt like she was turning it into a comp.
The exact same thing happened to me as what julia just said. i announced my wedding date. my friend got engaged 2 months later and sent me an sms that the ‘earliest’ she could get married was 4 weeks before me. i had told her on the day of her engagement that i was happy for her (and i genuinely was v happy) but i demand a 2 month buffer between weddings as we are each others bridesmaids and she met her friends through me so many of the same core group are goin to both weddings. I was soo upset and i just couldnt believe she would do it to me. she later changed it to 7 weeks before mine and made it out it was for me but i know its because she wanted a saturday night rather than a friday and her fiance had a work gig close to the original date they wanted to avoid.
so although the logistics have changed- i still think i’m going to boot her because of her original intentions. she also asked me how much i was spending on my wedding and told me how much she was spending. it felt like she was turning it into a comp.
“Annoyed” - I am SO sorry for your situation. I just can’t believe that people really do exist in this world who only live to serve themselves….it’s so SAD!! Not only for the people they hurt but for THEMSELVES because they are just miserable people! I just wanted to extend my condolences and advise maybe to sit down with her and talk about the situation and ask her if there is any way this could be resolved. If she sticks with her rigid plan, THEN take action… you never know though; maybe there’s a solution that could salvage the friendship…
I can relate. I am 30 years old, my fiancee is 38. THis is a first time marriage for both of us. We have been engaged for nine months and we sent out “save the dates” five months ago. My older brother, who has been divorced now for three whole months, just announced his engagement AND they picked a date two weeks before mine! ALso, he is a groomsman in my wedding. The whole family is very upset, but he just can’t figure out why.
Same boat here! My dress was purchased, band and place booked, then my friend got engaged. I was genuinly happy for her until I caught sight of her ring, to my suprise it was the same exact as mine. She told her bf she wanted mine, but then told everyone else she liked it first, how can that be when she told me she had never see it before mine. ( she also went out and bought the same car as me after i got mine since she loved it so much, color etc the same) Not to mention she booked her wedding 3 weeks aftermine and we have the same wedding party and guests, more than half! Her family member owns the venue so money etc was not an issue as she told me her parents said she can have it whenever she wants. I brought to her attention the closeness of her date and she flipped out on me and told me I was threatened of her and I am not a good friend. Wouldnt a good friend see what she is doing, not only to me but to all invlolved. I just wish for once she could see what she is doing and not make me look the bad guy, when she is one who cant seem to do anything on her own!
