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I wouldn’t wear white and whenever i go to weddings where guests are wearing white they always seems so out of place. personally i think that’s punishment enough. Darcey should have know better….. I mean come on! that’s the oldest superstition in the book and the weddings editor for a top magazine violated it!?!?! if it was a low key casual affair maybe but from what i say it looked like a pretty big elegant affair. i think she was looking for attention.

I’ve seen that blog… and actually it made me change my mind. I used to say I woudln’t really care, but after seeing that picture of her at that wedding, I couldn’t really tell the bride and her apart… that’s what would upset me is if one of my guests looked like she could be the bride in photos of the day. I mean most likely it was only because that photo was from the waist up, but it convinced me that this is not such a good idea.

My brother wore a white suit to my wedding. Drove my husband crazy….

I used to say that I didn’t care. But we had one guest wear an ivory dress to our wedding. It was covered in beads and more formal than my gown! I didn’t notice too much at the time, but I don’t like looking at photos that she’s in.

I agree that it seems purposeful. Even if the guest has talked to the bride and she is okay with it, I think it’s such a distraction. It might not take away from the bride by actually having people confuse them, but it does come off like trying to upstage.

I just wanted to add that since we had such a low-key wedding, a few friends did wear sundresses that had white in them. Juliulie, I can’t believe people were yelling at that guest! I think it is fine as long as white isn’t the dominant color.

I always go by the rule: If you have to ask, don’t do it. With all the stress, the bride might just grit her teeth and say she’s fine with it even when she’s really upset. It’s just selfish.

I don’t understand what it is about weddings that makes people into ravening beasts - I mean, when they’re discussing OTHER people’s weddings even. I’m referring to those comments to that Darcy Miller post. They’re absolutely ridiculous and all out of proportion.

It’s not that I even disagree with the concept outright. I wouldn’t wear white because white is the bridal ‘uniform’ and I can respect that I guess and yeah yeah I see the point about photographs and all. But it’s possible people don’t know this and so unless it’s made crystal clear what people can and cannot wear I don’t think there’s any reason to complain.

Really, let’s have some perspective. Let’s say a misguided friend does show up in white and ‘upstage’ the bride. Someone is going to toss out years of friendship because of what someone else chooses to wear? That’s pretty disturbed if you ask me, unless there was some kind of incontrovertible proof that it was done to be deliberately provoking.

I mean, would any of us be agreeing that a bride who doesn’t wear white should be harrassed about not wearing the traditional colour for brides? No, the bride can buck convention, but the guests had better enjoy being pushed around or they can expect a smack-down. Just, what? What? How is it any less rude for a bride to get angry at guests than it would be rude for a guest to start telling the bride what to do on her ‘big day?’

Here’s the thing, in my crazy opinion a wedding is an event where important people in the couple’s lives gather to celebrate love. Period. The rest is extraneous. If it’s necessary to have picture perfect guests it’s always possible to hire some attractive actors and forget about inviting anyone.