“All Women Really Want Is To Be Rescued” – C. York

During my holiday break, I watched a total of 4 movies (I Am Legend, Walk Hard, Juno and Enchanted) in about a week. (Yikes! I know…) Enchanted was really cute and much better than I expected – I can’t seem to get the catchy and cheesy songs from the movie out of my head!

The movie touches on the concepts of romance and marriage. In one scene, Patrick Dempsey tells the main character, Amy Adams, about the concept of dating, which was totally new to her since she had been waiting for her Prince Charming to come get her to live happily ever after.


Then it got me thinking of that SATC line by Charlotte that “all women really want is to be rescued.” Her 3 very independent and career ambitious friends don’t deny this.

Growing up, we learn so much about how women should be strong, and at the same time we’re told fairy tales about being a princess waiting for her prince. All we need to do is wait for him… and maybe brush our hair and use eye cream in the meantime.

As much as I would love to argue about how ridiculous I think that rescued comment is, I can’t shrug it off entirely without being completely honest with myself. There have been plenty of times in the past when I wished for someone to take away my jaded view of men and renew my faith with one wildly romantic gesture. And that, to me, might be my version of “being rescued.”

I feel as though the modern version of women being rescued would mean getting married. Going off of fairy tales alone, it always seems like the woman is fully content and feels “rescued” when the fairy tale ends with marriage. And for the men? Their goal is to rescue the woman! (This must be a toughie for men in the real world, since I can imagine most women saying things like “I don’t need to be rescued! I make more money than you!”)

What do you think about the concept of “being rescued”? Do you agree, as hard as it may be to admit, that in some way women really just want to be rescued?


Mrs. Caramel

Los Angeles
Wedding Date:
October 2007
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    wsukarebear, Guest @ 2:37 pm

    Mrs. Corn’s about right in my book! I have a couple friends who CRY because they think they’ll die alone! Although I believe that Charlotte was right traditionally, I think realistically we want companionship and love–not so much a rescue. Does that make sense?

    I just watched Mona Lisa Smile, which is a movie I LOVE and is all about the idea of being rescued (somewhat) and the early 50’s expectation that women marry men to be taken care of, and the little woman will go home and set up house and raise children and be the wifey that the husband needs–in which case it’s almost like the man is rescued, right? 😉

    I am a semi-believer in the whole idea. Nothing wrong with believeing the fairy tale, but probably because as a married woman I feel that I’ve lived the fairy tale a little. I worry about my friends, however, who believe and expect to be rescued. Maybe they *will* be “rescued” and it’ll be their dreams come true! But as long as they continue hoping and wishing, I worry it’s somewhat a false expectation.

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    wsukarebear, Guest @ 2:39 pm

    I like what Misss_e is saying! It is all about your reality. I may consider myself to be rescued because I come home to my “prince” and there’s romance, etc. But, I don’t think I was rescued any more than perhaps he was rescued, and certainly not because I was waiting for a prince to come along–we’re very equal, and just happy.

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    janie, Guest @ 6:32 pm

    Totally! I know we’re in the age where women have the privilege to exercise control and power over their own lives without the support of a male significant other but nothing shadows the beauty of romance and chivalry. I consider myself a pretty independent gal (my BF calls it my stubborn streak. Eh. Same thing), but I can’t help but swoon when my BF surprises me at work just to help me smile again after a really rotten day at work. So maybe I won’t be sitting around idly with my forest animal friends and singing tunes about my Prince Charming, but it doesn’t mean I’m any less thrilled when he finally does come around to my rescue.

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    Some Guy, Guest @ 12:09 am

    Most women have a knight offering her a hand, and are just too ignorant to notice. In reality, the thing that works best to get a girl attracted to a guy is the passive aggressive insult *aka* nagging.
    The guys that would always be there for you, and care for you. Too many of you turn away from you with the “I only see you as a friend” line. You may be scared to loose what you already consider a good friend, but that’ll only convince him to leave for his own good.
    As advise. Take them on their offer. At least give them a try, before they give up on being a white knight, and join the team that doesn’t lose.

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