Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
I Don’t Wanna Grow Up
January 14th, 2008 @ 5:28 pm by Mrs. Kiwi
As Mr. Kiwi and I start preparing to find a bigger home (which is nearly impossible in LA with our budget) with room for our future children, I wonder: when exactly are you a grownup? Sure, I have a wedding band on my finger, but I also have a package of Big League Chew gum in my purse. I still enjoy Spongebob Squarepants, but I also have an IRA.
At what point did (or do) you consider yourself an adult? It was funny to me, because this year Mr. Kiwi and I gave out real gifts for Christmas. Not gift cards like usual. His friends looked at us as they handed over the gift cards and said, “WOW, real gifts! You ARE grownups!” It was really quite funny, when you think about it- especially since most of them are older than we are!
So, I ask you, what makes you feel adult?
15 Responses to “I Don’t Wanna Grow Up”
one of these days i’m going to be found out for pretending to be a grown-up all this time. lol. until then…shh!
You know that is a good question. Most days I dont really feel “grown up”. Even though I am married, have a house, pay bills, go to work monday through friday. I have grown up a lot in the past two years but still I just dont really feel like an adult. Maybe when I have kids? I figure someone has to be in charge by then!
Paying Bills, staying up late, watching shows I want to watch 
, making tough decisions, holding a real conversation with older family members, having my very own Christmas tree, relying less on my mom than I did when I was a kid, voting, paying for something with my own money, having my own car, talking about insurance and retirement and knowing what I’m saying, having more “life stories”, standing up for someone, and being able to talk about serious issues without losing my temper.
mr bee’s mom once said that you’re not fully an adult until your mom passes away.
am i an adult? i guess so, but not compared to my mom.
Our home down-payment account!
But we’re far from being grownups. We still want to name our children things like Raptor and Ricky Bobby
Lol Angel I think it’s so funny you said staying up late because my friends and I joke that we’re so “old” now because we can’t stay up late anymore. Staying out till midnight on a Saturday is a big night out! (We’re 27, for some perspective! I think it’s the “real jobs” with real hours that kill us…)
Yeah, I left out the part about being too tired 
(27 and “real job” too), but boy is it nice not having someone tell you to go to bed. (Of course if I did, maybe I would get more sleep.)
Oh, and I forgot to mention being in charge of the remote. That’s a nice grown up perk.
I would say worrying about how much is in my 401 K makes me feel like an adult. …I still always get carded when I go out on work functions though..
Ha ha, I was sitting across the table from my son’s kindergarten teacher for my first parent-teacher conference…..when it hit me that “hey!!…..I’M the parent!!”
A mortgage - that’s the first time I knew - “well I can’t get my parent’s to bail me out of this so I better not screw it up.”
I’ve always thought two out of the following three ensured you were an adult:
1. Own a house
2. Have a real job
3. Married
You can be an adult without those things but once you have 2 of the 3, you’re an adult whether you like it or not.
The moment I had a checkbook and wore pantyhose, I knew I was an adult.
ugh.
I don’t know, this is a good question. I’ve been on my own, financially and living wise, since I was 17 years old. But I still have a fashion sense of a 10 year old growing up in the 70s.
I think I will feel like a “grown up” when I have children, but my friends who have children say they feel younger than they did before.
I guess when I have to deal with the funeral arrangements for my parents. That is when I will feel like a grown up.
interesting question.
marriage, mortgage, children don’t make a slap difference.
you’re an adult when you have the “fear” of doing something but do it anyway — because you know its the right thing.
you’re an adult when you don’t whine about the things you want but don’t have and appreciate the things that you do.
there’ are plenty of successful adults who have don’t have a mortgage, don’t have kids, or even a bank account. to me, being an adult is being mature about the world you not the things you’ve accomplished or the things that you own.
