Veiled Remarks
January 17th, 2008 @ 9:23 am by Mrs. Bubblegum
Before I start my rant, an interesting tidbit from wikipedia (who knew?? I thought they were just for looking pretty):
“An occasion on which a Western woman is likely to wear a veil is on her wedding day, if she follows the traditions of a white wedding. Brides used to wear their hair flowing down their back at their wedding to symbolise their virginity, now the white diaphanous veil is often said to represent this.”
That said, I never ever ever thought I would wear a veil. I’m not even sure why. I think veils are beautiful. I have spent many an hour gazing in awe at veils. Yet for some reason, I had no doubt in my mind that I was not a veil-kind-of-bride.
So, as you can imagine, it took me by surprise when Mr. Bubblegum expressed interest in a veil - meaning, he seemed like he would be disappointed if his bride came waltzing down the aisle, hair exposed. Since it’s rare to see Mr. Bubblegum express any strong wedding-planning-opinions, I thought maybe I should entertain this one.
When I was buying my dress, I tried on a beautiful veil… which cost almost as much as my dress (no thank you). So instead, I opted to buy just a “blusher” as a token veil to appease Mr. Bubblegum for a mere $17.00. It looks something like this (I tried for about 10 minutes to take a picture where I was making a serious face, but I apologize, I just wasn’t feeling it):
The only problem is… NOW I WANT A PRETTY VEIL!!!! So my search has begun. And so far - SUPER SUCCESSFUL. Not only is ebay chock full of pretty veils that are also cheap, but there are a couple other websites that I think are worth checking out:
At Veilshop, you can create your own veil - you choose your fullness, your length, your color, your trim, EVERYTHING! Very exciting for brides who, like me, like to control absolutely everything. 
I am also drawn to Myweddingveil, mainly because - ONE OF THE VEILS HAS MY NAME!! My name isn’t hugely common (y’know, in a souvenir shop, when they have the mini license plates with the names?? Never found mine…), so I had a minor conniption when I stumbled across this veil, which shares my name:
I don’t know if it’s what I’m looking for, but - isn’t it FATE??
So this poll has probably been done, but… how about you?
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19 Responses to “Veiled Remarks”
i voted yes, but wanted to comment to explain.
i thought i was a no veil wearing gal girl myself. until i actually became engaged…and then began to wonder if i would regret ever not having a veil (crazy! for some reason this is how i am making all my decisions. big or small).
would i miss having my father lift my veil when i reached the end of the aisle?
i still dont know.
but birdcage veils have caught my attention. they’re ultra fabulous and would allow me to have a “veil” but still be different.
but i’m still deciding….it will all come down to what i feel when i try them on.
I never wanted a veil…until suddenly I kinda did. I ordered a cheap one from eBay (so I wouldn’t be out much if I changed my mind) and ended up wearing it. It got a little crazy in the wind, but overall I am glad I wore it — I feel like it added a little something to the photos.
I never thought I’d wear a veil at all until I tried it on with the dresses. It’s amazing how it transforms you and really makes you feel like a bride. And it’s fun to see how the different lengths and styles can change your look. Pair a little hat & cage veil with a strapless column dress and you’re edgy vintage. Swap that to a fingertip veil and suddenly you’re classic and elegant! Plus, when will you get another chance to wear a veil?
i’ll be wearing a veil, but not the… front face covering part? i’ve read that the lifting of the veil symbolizes the tearing of the hymen. yup.
Miss. Bubblegum, my story is exactly the same. I didn’t want to wear a veil at all (even though it is part of the Jewish tradition when the groom lowers the veil over the bride’s face) but when I said no, my fiance was really upset (and he doesn’t care about any wedding related details). I’m trying to appease both of us — I’m going to wear a veil, but as of now, no plans for a blusher. I know it’s Jewish tradition, I know he wants to lift it during the ceremony, etc etc., but I have seen it go awry too many times! The last wedding we were at, the groom couldn’t figure out when to lift the veil, and wound up accidentally trying to get the bride to drink the wine THROUGH the veil. No thank you!
I love my veil! LOVE LOVE LOVE IT! I do think some dresses do not need a veil but mine did and I was so happy with it and it really made me feel like a bride.
when i put my veil on, suddenly i felt like my pretty white dress became a wedding dress it really helped me to feel like a bride. I loved it! I wore my fingertip length veil (from veilshop.com!) for the ceremony and for most of the pictures, but took it off for the reception. in retrospect, i almost wish i would have left it on for the whole reception as well!
I just love the birdcage veils on myweddingveil.com; they are the traditional veil just taken up a notch! For my wedding 5 months ago i wore a fingertip veil. It was a last minute decision and I bought it on ebay, but i totally agree with nasgirl, it made me feel like a bride! As a photographer i must say, veils are LOVELY in pictures, really classy!
hee hee…as a Miriam I can fully appreciate your nothing-ever-has-my-name-on-it issue!!
I now have a collection of things that people have found over the years with my name on it…so far I have a shot glass from a Christian Retreat center (nice), a keychain from NY and a magnet from Vegas!! I have been collecting for my whole life and these three things are my spoils!!
Annnnnnnyway, My veil, which I loved, only lasted through the ceremony. We have three pictures with it because it was so. darn. windy!
Good luck with your search
I was stressing big time over the veil, and originally I was thinking about just a headpiece. I have super short hair, so no updo for me. Just for giggles, I asked my aunt to dig out my mom’s veil because I thought I could add the tulle to a wreath and do a vintagey rose-crown thingy. Well she went home, and called me saying she found it. Turns out, she found my grandmothers veil/juliette cap! I feel very special and honored to wear it, especially because I’m getting married on her birthday. She died when I was less than a year old, so I never got to meet her, but everyone says that she was a wonderful loving woman, and my grandfather loved her very much. I’d like to think its a way of having her at the wedding.
i have a common name but an uncommon spelling [which leads to hilarious butchered pronounciations] so i never had a personalized keychain thing unless it was custom made. though that thought never made me feel better when i was younger and all i wanted was a license plate with my name on it for my bike!
that said, i thought i was all for veils until i was messing around and tried on my best friend’s veil and then started freaking out under it. i don’t think i can handle the blusher so i’m going to opt for a mantilla veil instead, which i think are beautiful. but since we’re planning on having two ceremonies i think i can muster breathing through tulle if the bf has any strong feelings for it for the first one.
I didn’t really think of my self as a veil person either. I did try on a few while dress shopping and while pretty I wasn’t planning on wearing one. While talking to my mom I found out it was really important to her so I am going to wear a veil now since it will make her really happy.
I cringed everytime they put a veil on me while trying on wedding dresses. I really thought they drew focus away from the dress (especially the poofy kind of veil). In the end though I opted for a custom mantilla-style veil (no covering of the face). If I were to wear a veil that covered the face, I would have opted for a floor length (or cathedral) drop veil–if you’re going to wear something over the face, it might as well be incredibly dramatic and elegant:
http://flickr.com/photos/lagomorph/2191384624/
I bought a birdcage veil, but I felt too caged in. So, I bought a cathedral ivory 1 tier veil and loved it! You only get to wear it once, why not? And you can totally show off your hair-do at the reception.
I always thought I would wear a veil until I started trying them on while dress shopping - they all looked funny and poofy and I just wasn’t happy with them. So I started thinking maybe I just won’ have a veil… til one lady brought out a mantilla veil. When I put it on, it with the dress just transformed me into a bride. It suited my dress, and my personality, and my Italian heritage perfectly. The veil ended up being my favorite part of my wedding attire!
Definitely try some outside of the style you thought you’d go for… you might be surprised what looks the best.
I never find anything with my name either, due to the unique spelling. Very neat that you found a veil option with your name, sounds special to me
Hey, I have the same name as you, and I am wanting a veil similar to the one in the picture.
My fiance’s mom is going to make my veil, but I haven’t told her yet exactly what I want because I am so indecisive.
I made my own veil (as I wanted a long one and felt ridiculous paying more than $10 for it)….
….and then proceeded to FORGET IT at the hotel room!
I didn’t realize it until was at the church, about to walk in.
So I walked down the isle without one!
(and because of the near-to-nothing cost and the fact that it was a fun project for me, i didn’t think much about it…i’m just still shocked that I didn’t see the veil there waiting right next to the dress!)
Mrs. Bubblegum, Exeter, NH
Age and Occupation: 24, Actuarial Analyst
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Ressearch & Development
Engagement Date: February 9, 2007
Wedding Date: May 2008
Blogging Since: November 2, 2007
Venue: Dunegrass Golf Club
About Me: I can be summed up by the four things I love most: kitties, cheese, math, and Mr. Bubblegum. I am knee-deep in DIY projects to keep wedding costs low but quality high for the special day when I get to marry my bestest friend.
I wasn’t a veil person either. I would rather be “exposed!”
But, my mom offered to make me one and since she never had the traditional wedding, it seemed like a good way for her to be involved and pass something on to me. So I agreed and we’re going to design it together at my first dress fitting! Now I can’t wait