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Now, I’ve blogged before about how I’m not changing my name - and this decision is one that Mr. Dahlia 100% completely supports.(What I have not blogged about extensively is that I actually do follow celebrity gossip).
I know that others have different opinions about name changing, but this, for me, is extreme. According to E! Online’s Marc Malkin, Eddie Murphy and Tracey Edmonds have called it quits over her refusal to change her name.
Murphy and Edmonds in presumably happier times.
According to a source, ““He was insisting she change her name. It was a huge issue. They were arguing about it before they left for the wedding.”
I know from discussion on Weddingbee and elsewhere that name changing can be extremely contentious, and that grooms often feel very strongly about this.
How does you groom feel about you changing or keeping your name? Did you consider his feelings when making your decision?
my fiance and i are taking each others names! He’ll take my name as his middle name (Smith)and I’ll take his as my last name (Jones) so together we’ll be mr. and mrs. smith jones.
my FI has been very supportive. his mother? not so much. Oh well - can’t win them all! 
I’m changing my name, mostly out of tradition, and changing my maiden last name to my middle name. I feel like I’m getting the best of both worlds that way (and I dont have a middle name anyway). Mr Pengy is really happy that I’m doing it this way…he even already bought me a jewelry box with my new married monogram on it, and we’re not married (yeah I know its a jinx…but its cute) So I know he’s pretty excited.
On an unrelated note, screw Eddie Murphy. You mess with a Spice Girl, you mess with me.
i’m changing it - both our last names are unusual and german, and i don’t feel any strong affiliation with my own, so it’s no big deal. i don’t want our kids to have his last name and always have to deal with people wondering why our last names are different. i’m also looking forward to making that symbolic statement about joining his family, just because that’s part of the tradition in which i grew up.
of course, i say it’s all well and good, but watch - when it comes time to actually do it, i’m going to get worked up!
I changed my name (to MyFirst MyLast HisLast), but my Mr. didn’t care either way.
I saw this on E! I say, good for her. The only person who can change your name is you. Ultimatums aren’t a good way to make big life decisions, and I actually think less of Eddie Murphy for doing that.
Pengy! I’m totally with you on the Spice Girl thing! Especially Scary Spice. Who messes with Scary Spice, of all the Spices? Seriously.
Word, smartl
I’m surprised she hasn’t gone Amazon Woman on him and stuff. Although I hope she is getting a hefty chunk of money or something for child support…not that she needs it.
Spice up your life!
I am changing my name.
My comment is for the Eddie Murphy/Tracey Edmonds thing…maybe he is irate because it is her ex-husband’s last name (Kenny “Babyface” Edmonds) that she won’t get rid of. It is not her maiden name.
Hmmm….The article says she used to married to Kennith “Babyface” Edmond for 13 years and is keeping “Edmond” so I wonder if Eddie Murphy would have insisted she change her name if it was her maiden name instead of her ex-husband’s.
maybe she doesn’t want to change her last name b/c her kids are named “edmonds?”
Honestly… it is her freakin’ choice — maybe her kids are named Edmonds. I get that. I do think it’s pretty sad that they got all the way down the aisle before like deciding what would happen!
Whenever I hear about a guy who’s insistent on this issue, it sounds like kind of a red flag to me. I understand unity, but no one is asking HIM to change HIS name
I’m changing my middle name to his last name but keeping my maiden name. Orginally I really wanted to change my name but since we work in the same field academicaly I wanted to maintain a seperate professional identity. Not to mention I’ve already published under my last name. I do plan on using his last name socially. He’s been very supportive.
FI preferred that I change my name, and it took me a little bit to come around (though I knew I would) just because my name has been my name as long as I’ve been alive. However, I’m not very attached to my last name as it is (AND it’s ALREADY hyphenated!) and can’t wait to simplify. I’m ditching the whole last name, so I’ll just be Kira MiddleName HisLastName.
I’m with Penguin. I’m changing my name, mostly out of tradition, but also because I want to have the same last name as my children. I am going to keep my maiden name, but as another middle name. It might seem like a lot, but I can’t completely get rid of my last name - it’s been a part of me for 26 years
I will be changing my name. I’m very traditional when it comes to this and, even though it will be a bit of pain at work for a few months after the wedding, I’m sure my clients will get used to the change.
I do like the idea of changing your middle name to include your maiden name. Not sure if that’s for me, though.
I am going to use both names, although I am conflicted as to how. I like MyFirstName MyLastName HisLastName, but I am also attached to my middle name - that’s a lot of names! Professionally I have had the same name for quite a while, and as I do a lot of consulting it is important that people be able to find me. I had a friend who hyphenated for about two years and then changed to HisLastName. It seemed that was a good length of time - everybody in our field who mattered, regardless of location, seemed to have caught on that she was married by then, and was familiar with HisLastName.
He assumed that I would not change my name - partly because of the professional issue and partly because my sister adamantly did not change her name when she married. He says it wouldn’t matter to him, but I can tell that he is pleased at the idea of me being Mrs. HisLastName. Although he also thinks it is cute when we check into hotels on my reservations and they call him Mr. MyLastName.
I’ll be using my last name legally and professionally, but will use FI’s last name socially. My parents happen to have the same last names (not related) but my mom wouldn’t have changed her’s anyway because it’s not part of Chinese tradition. My aunt and my cousins don’t have the same last names and it’s not weird at all. She uses the same last name socially but her legal documents are all in her maiden name. Lots of women in the world do not have the tradition of changing last names.
I’m changing my last name (not keeping any part of my current last name) and really excited about it too.
No one ever spells my last name right. They guess at it, spell it the way they think it sounds, add letters to it, and murder it when they actually say it.
And… the day we received a piece of mail at our house that said “Mr. & Mrs July2008Bride” he handed it to me with a big smile on his face and said “I guess you’re gonna have to get use to this” I never even opened the letter (junk mail) I put it away in my scrap book.
my bf prefers that i take on his last name when we marry and i’m fine with that. i’m not attached to my last name as is and i know i’ll still be me after the legal papers have been filled so it’s honestly no big deal for me. though i will miss being in the front of the alphabet. lol
Erin, that’s a cool idea! Mr. Donut really likes my last name, and has joked about changing his last name to mine! He doesn’t have a middle name, so this is a really awesome idea!
I’ll be hyphenating my last name. I’ve had it for a while and I’m kinda attached to it. Plus I like the way it sounds with my given middle name, which is the one I go by. (Ladies, don’t do this to your children. Give them the name you mean to call them as a first name. It will save them a lot of annoyance in the future.)
Oddly, since my middle name is an old family last name, I will be known by 3 last names.
I’m sure Eddie was upset because it is her ex husband’s last name.
My name is hyphenated. My (step)dad wasn’t legally allowed to adopt me because my Bio dad (sp**m donor) wouldn’t sign the papers. When I turned 18 I legally changed my name to my dad’s. I don’t think I’ll change it again.
Also for the past 3 generations its been all girls! All the men have married in. My dad calls my great grandma’s house Amazon island.
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Ms. Dahlia, Detroit/Cleveland Age and Occupation: 24, PhD Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, IT System Administrator Engagement Date: December 31, 2006 Wedding Date: May 2008 Blogging Since: September 19, 2007 Venue: United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland About Me: I enjoy cooking, dancing and swimming. I am a geek and apply game theory to my everyday life. Winter is my favorite time of year, especially when spent curled up with good coffee and a book by Madeleine L'Engle.
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