Weddingbee

you know - i throw away most inedible favors i get. i went to a wedding where they put up cards notifying us that they’d donated to a charity in our name, and i thought that was awesome. then again, it was a charity that i supported, so i can see how somebody could be offended if the money was given to a group the person had a problem with. i can’t see that being the case with breast cancer research.

anyway, i didn’t feel cheated or offended at all.

I’ve thought about it, and participated in other discussions about this. I’ve also given to charity as a gift before (but I’ve asked the recipient which charity they would prefer I make a donation to.)

I could see myself being bothered with the whole giving to charity “favor” idea. First, because donating to charity is something that is deeply personal and private for me- I don’t give because I want others to know about it. Second, because it is possible that the chosen charity would be one that others might be offended by. (NARAL and Planned Parenthood come to mind.)

Mr. D, on the other hand, really wants charity giving to be a large part of our wedding- and we’ve registered with Heifer International. However, I felt conflicted about having both traditional registries and one for a charity, so we have not advertised our HI charity.

We will be giving out traditional favors. But we will be donating a sizable amount of the cash gifts which we receive.

Why not just make the donation to charity and scrap favors all together?

I have to say that I agree with Manolo. If you are going to do the charity favor a token favor (choclates, candy etc.) in addition to the charity is necessary. It is easy to offend somone. I alsa don’t suggest that you say the donation is given in the guest’s name. I would be offended if my name was put on a doantion for a charity I was against. (not because of the cause per se but many charities are so poorly run that the majority of the donations end up funding the admisnitration and not the good works or research that it was meant to). I would make the donation in the name of the person or persons that inspired the charity. For instance your mom’s name or you could put it as a generic name, such as the “Family & Friends of the Flamingos”

I don’t think charitable donations are at all offensive or annoying.
By choosing a charity that’s meaningful to you, it offers your guests an opportunity to know of a good cause that you care about.

For example, for my wedding in June, on the back of my menu cards (alternating sides on every other place setting), I made donations to my late grandfather’s foundation and my late cousin’s foundation–and I explained what the charities did and why we picked them (I’m a law student and my husband is a software developer).

Many guests commented how nice it was to learn a little bit more about my family and that it was a generous way to remember two important people.

“In Lieu of Traditional Wedding Favors,
A Donation Has Been Made To:

The Justice Porfirio V. Sison Foundation
Giving Scholarships to Law Students
Who Promote Social Justice

The Miguel C. Sison Foundation
Giving Computers to Underprivileged Children
Who Deserve Education

In Honor of Tracy’s Grandfather and Cousin,
We Celebrate Law and Technology–A Perfect Pair”

I really like the pink m&m’s idea. I believe you can get pink all year long at http://www.mymms.com/customprint/. Check it out!

ha ha I just posted the same thing, suzanno!

My opinion is that its YOUR wedding day and if this particular charity is important to YOU than its totally acceptable to give to it in lieu of favors. All of the favors that I’ve received (and to be honest, the ones I plan to give) are merely trivial. Granted, yes, I’m handcrafting mine with love, but do people care that much about receiving some chocolate/coasters/winestopper/bauble? No. Most people spend less than $5 per favor on their guests…but added all together, that can be a huge chunk of change that can really help make a difference for a charitable cause. I think if a particular charity is truly meaningful to you, then you should give, with no regrets, in lieu of favors.

And honestly, the person who wrote that comment is rude and selfish to say something that basically boils down to “I’d rather you spend money on me then send it to a good cause.” Yikes. I dont care what the cause is, because chances are you as the bride and groom have picked it because its important to you. I’d like to think that yes, your wedding is to entertain your guests, but in the end, is really about YOU, your commitments, and your beliefs.

Go for it Miss F!

I wouldn’t at all feel offended if a donation was made to a Breast Cancer Association - that’s a wonderful idea. Call it a favor/don’t call it a favor - it’s a little over the top if this is something people are complaining about, IMO.

If someone donated to a more controversial association, in my name, I might feel odd/offended.

Thanks everyone with your honest comments. When I told my mom about the idea… she got all teary eyed. She tought it was a great idea to give a donation… but then again she had never heard of charity donations as favor so she might not know the complexity.

My issue with mms is that I wanted to purchase one which is directly linked to breast cancer. Buying the typical pink would be useless since part of the proceeds are not given to research.

Also, I think that Breast Cancer is something that affects everyone man, woman or child. You are bound to know someone who has or has had breast cancer… therefore I personally don’t think my family would be offened… yet I do not know. I was gonna make a speech about the reasoning behind the idea….

but what… should i just give a donation to the cause, and on a card with a ribbon write a little message… or should I opt to buy something else so people dont leave empty handed?

If you can swing it and want to make both camps happy, I’d say make a donation & buy the candy in bulk and make little favors for your guests (just a handful of candy wrapped up in tulle with a ribbon). I did a quick search on pink candy and found this site: http://www.candywarehouse.com/pinkcandy.html

I’m in the same situation - I want to do the donations to the American Cancer Society or some cancer research organization since my grandfather had cancer. I’m going to do a card for each seat with a awareness ribbon pin attached in periwinkle ribbon (which is the stomach cancer color). Almost everyone there will know why even though I won’t be putting his name on the card and like you said, for those who might not know about my grandfather exactly, everyone has been touched by cancer in some way. I think it’s a great idea & would mean a lot to those most important to you! And that’s all that matters.

I dunno, I have to agree with the Manolo post. I have no problem with you donating to any charity you choose on the occasion of your wedding–it’s meaningful to you, and I think that’s terrific. We all have causes we care about. I also don’t care if I don’t receive a favor at a wedding: a lovely meal, a great party, and the chance to see someone I care about so happy is plenty. But linking the two is weird to me; it usually makes me think, “Well, it’s not a favor to [i]me[/i].” To me, there’s no connection between the two things, and forcing the connection just seems bizarre and can lead to offense, particularly as it can come across as being linked only so that you can advertise your generosity, presumably in contrast to your guests’ lack of it.

If it’s important to you to remember your grandmother in this way, you could instead, for example, put out a small sign next to your guestbook with her picture and the note that, since she could not be with you on your special day, you’ve remembered her with a donation to the Quebec Breast Cancer Association. This way you get your message across without suggesting that your guests are so backwards that you had to donate on their behalf.

Sister Flamingo offered we make chocolate ribbons to offer with the card. That way they can eat it and with the card would clearly know its a donation for a good cause.

Of course I dont want to spend a fortune on the favors (donation or not) but with all your comments, I think its made me more certain of my choice.

I was afraid… but im reassured. And like you all said.. if someone is affended (which i doubt) well too bad for them!!! Thanks so much guys. And if you have more ideas… keep them coming!

I agree with the other people who say that the Manolo for Brides post sounds a bit crazy. My FI and I are also making a donation to the American Cancer Society in lieu of traditional favors and I feel like it fits perfect with us because we volunteer with them every year in honor of my father who passed away 5 years ago from cancer. All of our friends and family know that my father passed away from cancer and that we were very close and I honestly can’t see anyone being offended by knowing we donated to ACS because even though donations are personal, my close family and friends already know that we give them donations. We will just be upping the ante for this particular one in relation to the wedding. Honestly, as a guest, I feel special enough to be invited and be given a nice meal. I don’t expect anything all that special as a gift to me for coming to take part in my friend’s special day. I am more offended by her post than any favor I have or have not received at a wedding.

I don’t know who “Manolo” is, but I sure wouldn’t want him for a wedding guest– or a friend! What a selfish brat.

First of all, the wedding “favor” is a quite recent phenomenon (probably dreamed up by the Wedding Industrial Complex) and not AT ALL required by established etiquette.

That said, many couples enjoy the idea of giving a little something extra to their guests (on top of the food, drink, music, good time, etc.) and that’s just fine, but again, NOT REQUIRED.

Like many couples, you have chosen a favor that has symbolizes something important to you. I applaud your desire only to spend money on a physical favor that would also benefit your chosen cause. If you can’t find one, I’m sure the donation will be just fine with your guests– the fact that it is “in their honor” instead of in their pocket will be irrelevant.

BTW, I was the one who suggested the pink M&M’s, but I see now you can only get them year-round here in the States– with the proceeds going to the Susan G Komen Foundation. http://www.mymms.com/sgk/promise_blend_detail.asp

That said, if you do want them, I’d be happy to be your US “shipping address” and then send them on to you in “Canadialand”. You have my email addy.

OK, this post is turning into a novel, but I just want to say one last “BRAVA!” for making charitable giving a part of your big day. You rock.

Personally, I don’t see a problem with charity donations for favors if that’s what you want to do, especially for something like medical research - who could get offended by that?

There are other alternatives though for anyone who might be questioning these types of favors. I found out that the website weddingchannel.com offers charity donations through their registry setup. If guests buy their registry gifts through that site, they will donate a percentage of the amount spent to the charity of your choice. My husband has a disease called cystic fibrosis, so we made a weddingchannel.com account, picked the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation as the charity, and put a link to the registry site on our wedding website. Granted, the percentage donated is small, and guests might not use that website to make their registry purchases. However, we did have several guests who noticed this and made extra contributions in addition to their gifts, which I thought was really nice. We weren’t fishing for donations, but just thought it would be nice to do a little something in an unobtrusive way.

I’m sure there are lots of other alternatives out there too - but whichever way you go, I just can’t find anything wrong with charitable donations to a good cause that’s important to you! As for what to give as a physical favor - maybe try something like the shop at komen.org or another breast cancer fundraising organization, where you can buy something small for your guests, and part of your purchase goes to fund research.

I don’t think you should worry about your guests leaving empty-handed, Miss F — I’ve been a guest at several weddings and I couldn’t tell you if they had favors or what they were (except for the wedding where it took me fifteen minutes to figure out what the favor actually was! It was a paper circle embedded with flower seeds, meant to be planted in a pot — and mine was missing the instructions, so I had no idea why the bride and groom were handing out bumpy paper circles). If you can’t find a favor that donates money to a Canadian breast cancer charity, just give the money to the charity outright. No one will feel jipped that they didn’t receive a chocolate truffle or heart-shaped soap. Whether you want to tell the guests that’s what you’ve done is up to you, but I think if you’re honoring a family member they will love to hear about it.

I think this is a great idea. I was at a wedding last year. The groom’s mother has passed away from ALS some years before. The couple had donation favors to the ALS Foundation. They printed a simple card explaining the reason for their choice and attached a ribbon (white with black stripes) to it. I thought it was very thoughtful.
I feel like most guests discard favors after the wedding. But with a donation you know that your dollars are going to waste.

I would much rather someone give to any charity than give me a glass, chocolate I don’t eat, or anything else I will most definitely throw away. I have been to weddings where the bride and groom have given a donation to charity, and I have always felt very happy about their choice, regardless of the charity they chose. I will be doing this at my wedding as favors and have registered at charities in lieu of traditional gifts. I don’t think it’s necessary to do this, but I certainly don’t think it’s wrong.

And I think it’s very selfish for someone to think that a charity donation isn’t really a gift for them. And doing so certainly does NOT mean you’d rather not spend the money on them!!!!

Please make a donation! I liked what the last girl said about giving the pink rubber bracelets. If someone is offended by the idea of money being donated instead of a take home gift, they need to examine their own feelings and beliefs on charity!

Reading your motivations behind the donation and Manolo’s reasons for finding a donation-as-favor offensive, it seems more appropriate for you to highlight your chosen charity as an alternative gift for your guests to give to you, on your registry page (doesn’t have to be in lieu of a registry, but just one of the choices).

Consider this statement:
“My gift to you is a donation to a charity that -I- care about.”

Then, consider this statement:
“My gift to you is a donation to a charity that -you- care about.”

A favor is a gift to your guest. You should give a gift that will me meaningful to them.

Your guest’s gift to you will be something useful or meaningful to you. If you tell them that breast cancer is meaningful to you, guests will be happy to donate to your charity, and your charity will get more money than the amount you would have donated as a single donor.

Whatever you choose, consider this: What if your guest’s gift to you was a donation to Planned Parenthood because they care about a woman’s right to choose, or a donation to their own religious organization? Would you appreciate their “gift”? Or would you wish they had let you choose the charity?

I have to agree with Miss Dahlia and Nopinkertons… I don’t have any opinion on who you choose to give your money to, but to characterize it as a wedding favor just seems slightly wrong to me. I think it’s wonderful that you want to make a donation to a cause that is close to your heart, but why do you need to characterize it as a wedding favor? Just skip favors altogether if you have to choose between the two, or give something else if you feel the need to give a favor.

Also, people keep saying “how could this possibly be offensive?” But, how do you really know what offends others? This organization may give money to researchers who are using embryonic stem cells (I’m just using this as an example, I really have no idea what this organization does) and there are a significant number of people who may be offended by this.

I wouldn’t want a donation in my name going to an organization I don’t support. I do care about what organizations my name is associated with.

Finally, I don’t see how the quote is actually requiring favors or complaining about not getting a favor. I don’t see where that came up at all… in fact, I read it as: it’s ok to skip favors… but, its not ok to give to charity in your guests names without their blessing.

I COMPLETELY disagree with Manolo. For our wedding, we gave to the American Cancer Society. We didn’t make a donation in our guests names, but rather in memoriam of my husband’s father who passed away from cancer. We felt like it was a great way to include him.

It’s your wedding - do what you want.

I don’t think I’d be offended if I went to a wedding and didn’t receive a favor, but I agree that charities are very personal and private. A donation can be done without being an exchange.
What’s the point of a favor, anyway? To me, it’s a way to say “thank you” to each guest. Your guests have invested a lot of time and money into coming to your wedding (in my case, 80% of them will be traveling) and giving them a small favor is saying “thanks for taking time out of your busy life to celebrate this important moment in our lives.” To that end I plan on hand-making the favors (but I am a crazy DIYer who grossly overestimates her free time).

I’d like to say, as a previous wedding guest, I have never once really viewed the favor as a thank you for attending the wedding. The thank you is the many-times open bar, the great food, the fabulous dj, aka the all-around-fun party these two people are throwing to celebrate their union. The favor is just a bonus, and you may not like it but the bride cannot please everyone all the time.

It is not like a wedding is a charity event that you pay to attend. Yes, you might pay for a hotel room, airfare and a gift, but you don’t pay for the dj, the dinner, the drinks. If you were expecting the favor to make up for what you spent to attend the weddin you are crazy. You obviously forked over the money because you wanted to be a part of their big day, not because you were expecting some favor. The favor–if there is one–is just a nice traditional gesture. For Manolo for Brides to say that you didn’t want to spend money on your guests is absurd! You’ve spent a small fortune ensuring they have an excellent time!

With any change in tradition, you might offend at least one person at your wedding - I say do what ever the heck you want! Give a favor, don’t give a favor, give a donation in your grandmother’s name, give a donation without saying anything, etc.!

Manolo has a major ad for a favor company flashing at you as you scroll by so I would take any of their advice with a teeny grain of salt.
I think favors in general are very WIC and that your intentions are beautiful.
My mother is in the last stages of ovarian cancer and we will most definitely be donating money in her honor as part of our wedding budget. We don’t associate with anyone that would be offended by this so I don’t have to worry about it at our wedding.

I read the same thing on Manolo, and was really offended upon reading it. I’m sorry, but because you came to my wedding, I am in no way, shape, or form OBLIGATED to provide you with a favor. We are paying over $200 per person for the reception alone (I’m not factoring in all my wedding costs divided by the number of guests — this is just the cost I am paying the hotel for each guest in attendance), plus paying more for a live band for dancing. Yes, people will bring gifts, though they are also not obligated to do so, and the majority of couples will not show up with $400+ gifts, so we are winding up with a net loss. That is fine — that is how weddings work. But don’t give me crap because I am not PROVIDING you with some dinky little favor you will go home and throw away anyways! (Note: rant not directed at anyone, just in general!)
We will be giving to the American Cancer Society and Children’s Cancer Foundation in lieu of favors. That’s exactly how we’re wording it — not that a donation has been made in your name, not “your favor is a donation”, just “In lieu of favors, we are making a donation to…”.
And if people think I’m saying that I don’t mind spending the money, just on them… well, maybe they’re right. After $200+ per person, I think we can give a little back to those who are less fortunate and who need more help. If anyone takes offense to my charities of choice, I don’t want them in my life anyway, since I am a pediatric oncology researcher, and if you think funding pediatric cancer research is a waste, then to put it bluntly, I don’t like you.
I have been to several weddings where donations were made in lieu of favors, and it always makes me happy to know that people are considering others. There is nothing wrong with those who do chose to donate favors, particularly ones which are thoughtful and well-chosen, but the majority of favors are just given for the sake of being given, and picking a charity is more meaningful than something you picked out of the back of a catalogue because it was cheap enough to buy in bulk.

I was floored that someone would be offended by my giving to a chairty.
First of all, I’m giving my money to a charity called Humane Rights Campaign because though I’m having a wedding, I can’t legally get married. And a lot of my guests are gay as well. I can’t see why giving them stupid playing cards would be worth more to them than contributing towards the goal of gay marriage.

I didn’t read all the pp’s but I read somewhere recently that a bride & groom donated to a charity, but instead of a sign somewhere, they had little chocolates packaged up (you can still get the pink m&ms) with a not attached stating that “Life is sweet; in lieu of a traditional favor, a donation has been made to the xxx in honor of xxx in your name; love, x&x” AND if this annoys someone THEN BOOOOOO at them! They aren’t at the wedding for favors! They are there to celebrate you & new hubby!

I can’t believe people would be offended. I often give family members charity gift certificates for xmas (like kiva.org) and they love it! nobody really cares about the favors, but a donation would be meaningful (especially considering your circumstances) and memorable. If a few people are offended, do you really care about the opnion of that kind of person?

You can get pink M & M’s ANY time. http://www.candyfavorites.com/shop/coloredmmcandies.php?gclid=COq9zuvLiJECFQQjPAodUBotGg

They offer 21 custom colors year round.

I think the charity favor is a great idea and would not be offended at all as a guest. I’m all for edible favors but I’m not sentimental enough to keep most of the other favors I’ve received over the years and attended a wedding last summer where I didn’t notice the absence of favors until the bride mentioned it afterwards.

If you decide to go with candy alongside the donation check out the Valentine’s day section at the grocery. I’d be surprised if they didn’t have pink m&m’s and if they don’t you’ll find plenty of other pink options.

one thing too that I saw in reading these posts, someone had mentioned something about the charity being meaningful to the couple, but not necessarily to the guest….I agree with that, and of course some people will be offended. However, is a little soap or candy actually meaningful? the one thing I agree with that seems wrong is what a lot of people said - putting out cards saying “in lieu of a favor” is like, trying to excuse yourself from not buying them a little gift. You don’t need a reason! You could always leave a sign somewhere and also maybe a small container saying if you would like to donate to said charity, feel free - we have chosen to not waste our money on crap and took the money we saved from that and gave it to our charity. But if you don’t give on a normal basis, I agree with Miss Cupcake - it is kind of like saying “see how great we are”….though I still like the idea. Oh - and another thing - to write “we have donated in your name” doesn’t make sense anyway - they don’t actually make the donation in each guest’s name.

Maybe look at sites that sell cause marketing products like avon? here’s the link- none are particularly great but perhaps the lip balm could work as a favor??
http://shop.avon.com/shop/product_list.asp?level1_id=300&level2_id=380&pdept_id=382&cat_type=C

what a great way to honor the important women in your life by making a donation to something that has impacted them both! go for it.

First of all, I think you should donate and not worry about a token/favor. I have been to a bazillion weddings and can’t recall one “special” favor. And as many have said, I don’t think of it as a thank you at all. It may be a nice gesture or something good to eat, but never have I thought, “wow, they really care that I’m here and are thanking me for that!” Talk to your guests individually to say thank you. Pink is my favorite color and if you gave me a rubber bracelet, I wouldn’t be wearing it in the future–I would think the idea was great, but it mostly would become (for me) another favor/token that isn’t used again.

Gosh, I’m just really surprised at the spectrum of responses. Honestly, who cares if you put a note in your program or a framed sign by the guestbook, even if it is the only donation you make all year? Again, at least the thoughtful donation has been made at all, and if someone feels that way (even a guest whom you’ve already invested hundreds of dollars in for the evening) do you care? Probably not–or you shouldn’t. Everyone around you who understands and loves the idea are the ones whose opinions you probably care about.

I really hate that you’re second guessing your tremendous gesture. If I were you, I would put a framed note next to the guestbook that says, “in lieu of favors…” and see if anyone says a darn thing.

For one thing, not only is this cause close to your heart but it’s to help fight cancer. Who would be offended with an organization that helps people like your grandma fight breast cancer? I think that’s touching thing for you to do in honor of your grandma. I mean, it’s not like controversial like stem-cell research, for example, where a lot of people will not be on the same page on that. I can’t imagine people being offended by breast cancer research. It does sound like a cute idea to have pink M&M’s and note about the donation. I mean, using tulle wrappers would be an affordable way to put a couple of M&M’s in. I’ve only been to one wedding, where my friends gave seating cards/donation note in my name. They donated to more than one cause, so not everyone had the same cause. It’s different, but it is so them (especially the groom) to do something different like that for the sake of the causes. I don’t even remember what cause it was either.

We went the opposite direction: we gave normal old (inedible, even!) favors, but asked for charitable contributions in lieu of gifts. It looks like both of the charities we suggested got a LOT more $$$ than we spent on favors*, and guests had the opportunity to opt for charities they liked more. Everyone wins.

*we spent $400 something, and if everyone who said they gave to American Cancer Society only gave $10, ACS still came out ahead; Ditto for Juvenile Diabetes.

i work for a charitable organization and we are contacted frequently about details for donations as wedding favors. in fact, this is becoming so popular that we have begun offering items for people to give as favors so they have something tangible to give people on their wedding day. we offer scrolls that explain the donation, a ribbon posted on a card acknowledging the donation and lately we have included blank cards that a patient of ours painted the front design for. the donation helps to pay for these items, which are put together with the help of volunteers.

if you want to give something tangible along with an acknowledgement of the donation, contact your local breast cancer organization and see what they might offer for wedding favors. that way you can not only contribute to the organization, but you can give an item that comes directly from the organization.

I agree with Manolo.

I don’t see the connection. Why is it that the donation is done instead of wedding favors? Why not instead of centerpieces? Or instead of a string quartet? It just seems wierd that you’re calling attention to the fact that you’re not doing something for your guests.

I don’t think favors are neccessary. If you want to skip them, skip them. But that’s the same with 99% of stuff that you do for a wedding. And if you chose not to do any of it, it’s fine, but why use that opportunity to broadcast that you’re giving to a charity?

I’m not having a live band for my wedding. And I give to the local food pantry every year. So, should I leave a little card at everyone’s place setting that instead of live music, I’ve made a donation? It just doesn’t make sense to me.

I think it’s awesome to give to charity. And I think it’s fine if you don’t do favors. But why broadcast what you do with your money to your guests?

I don’t agree or disagree. (Well at first, I disagreed with the Manolo post and always thought charity favors were a sweet idea…but after reading other opinions on it, I can see why it can be annoying since donations and favors have no relation.)

But, I have thought of a possible resolution for you. I understand why you’re having a hard time with this. You don’t know which of your guests may be EXPECTING a favor and even though you shouldn’t worry about that because it’s poor etiquette (I could be wrong, but I’m sure that same person will be one of those people who will judge every little detail of your wedding), you will worry anyway because I know you’re a sweet and thoughtful person and don’t want anyone to be hurt and unhappy at your wedding. And I am sure this is why most couples associate favors with donations–to note that they weren’t trying to be cheap with their guests and not provide a favor, but that they’d be more practical and use that money instead for a donation.

So what maybe you could do is indicate on the menu (or even the placecard) that you hope your guests understand that you and your husband have decided not to give out favors and instead be using that money to make a donation. And then provide a little background on the charity. Perhaps you can even allow people to sign their name on a list next to the guestbook if they would like to have their name attached to the donation. That way, it eliminates that whole “donation made in YOUR name” aspect but gives them the choice if they like the organization.

I hope that is helpful and wasn’t too confusing! Either way, good luck with it! I know I would be completely content and appreciative if you donated to a charity instead of giving me a favor. =D

I was kinda lazy and breezed through the comments w/out reading most of them, so I don’t know if this is a repeat:

What about getting your pink m&ms on their website, doing something super minimal/token with them as a favor and attaching a note saying that you’ve made a donation to the Breast Cancer Foundation in honor of your guests and that you wanted to share your favorite cause with them, or something to that effect

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“but why can’t it just be a kind gesture, instead of combining it with a wedding favor that brings the attention back to you?”

I don’t think the attention is brought back to you at all. I know in our instance, we made a small candy wrapper to go around lifesavers that said in appreciation to our guests, we are making a donation to our favority charity and then gave the website for the local chapter we made the donation in honor of. This was to spread awareness of the chapter and the disease if people were interested to learn about it (they didn’t have to go to the website). The candies were in a basket by the door that the guests could take if desired. So, this had nothing to do with drawing attention to ourselves and if nothing else it made people aware of a disease that affects children that many people aren’t aware of.

I’m really bothered by this debate. My fiance and I set up a page