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Sometimes I think it’s a miracle that Mr. Violet and I fell in love and sustained such a wonderful relationship. I say this because we have practically nothing in common. We don’t eat the same things. We don’t watch the same television shows nor do we like the same movies (in most cases). He loves computers, video games & sports. I am the complete opposite. Except for our love of travelling and our dog, we do not share the same interests on a day to day basis. I get aggravated with computers/gadgets, love the idea of playing video games, but I’m a horrible player, and sports - well I just don’t get it. I once went to a Mets game with Mr. Violet on a scorching hot July day. I was so antsy in my seat that I took several trips to the concession stand just so I’d have something to keep myself occuppied. I ended up spending $50 on junk food!
Over the years I’ve tried my hardest to like what he likes, but trying is mental, doing is real. So this year, for the very first time, we are having our first football, oops I mean Superbowl party. It’s going to be a small party which should be much easier to manage than say having 20 people over yelling and screaming. I’m going to have plenty of Superbowl friendly food around. For the first time, I will sit down among my husband and his buddies and watch the game. I don’t mean that I’ll just wait for the commercials, but I will sit through it. Now that I’ve said it, I must do it. Stay tuned and Go Giants!?
Are any couples out there complete opposites like us, and what kind of sacrifices have you made?
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We’re not really opposites, but we have brought a lot of new things into each other’s life. My motto is try everything once. We tried things and found that it’s not our thing. But at least we tried.
Hope your Superbowl party goes well!
We’re not complete opposites in most respects, but we definitely are when it comes to sports. I’ve a complete klutz, I’ve actually injured myself bowling, playing tennis, and volleyball. The husband has great hand-eye coordination and is an avid golfer that does really well at every single sport he plays. I’ve come to understand golf over the years and actually find watching it relaxing. During our vacations, I’ll actually ride along with the husband as he golfs (how can one NOT golf during vacation?!). =P
We’re pretty much opposites…. ie. I just try to grin and bear it when FI goes on his MULTIPLE ski trips per year. I’m good for about half a day on the bunny slopes, but he could ski for two weeks straight and not be tired of it. He’s always up for more of an adventure, but I’m more of a homebody. I think we balance each other out nicely though, and one thing we do share that’s really important is the same exact sense of humor 
I am a triplet; he’s an only child. He’s a Yankees fan; I’m an Amazin’ all the way. He was born halfway across the world and lived in 3 different countries; I’m a born and bred New Yorker. I like Pepsi; he adores Coca-cola. I can go on forever! Sometimes it bothers me that we’re so different, and that I ‘have to sacrifice’ spending time with my huge family to spending it with just him and his parents (my brothers are like my best friends). We’re still working out the kinks, but we are learning how to grow with each other and introduce new things. It can get a bit testy, because I am part Eastern-European and part Italian (I like to call it “the Fury”) so I’m not always an awesome compromiser (and neither is he). If we keep cool heads, we usually come up with a solution that keeps us both happy. Plus, we can make each other laugh, so in the end, it works out.
If I hadn’t married my husband, there’s no way I’d be living in MILWAUKEE WISCONSIN right now. I’d be taking the red-eye to LA County TONIGHT!
Did I mention the wind chill here is 30 below these days?
I think every couple is different, and there are always going to be sacrifices. My fiance is very conservative, and as the child of hippies, I’m about as liberal as you get. I’m a sucker for lame reality TV, and he would rather watch war/history documentaries. However, if I weren’t a huge sports fan, I don’t know how I would manage. Neither of us can think of a better way to spend time than watching the Red Sox or Patriots. I think our test of sacrificing will really come when we have to figure out our parenting styles…I’m probably going to be the good cop.
GO PATS!
Monica Rae, I feel ya. I moved to SE Wisconsin from Chicago (also for the hubs) and I’m STILL in shock from the cold (this is coming from the Windy City!). Gahhhh.
if theres anything i learned within the year that my fiance and i have been together its SACRICE and COMPROMISE. he’s a total conservative and i am not- i like my space (a lot of it) and am pretty much a free spirit (i like to do what i feel like doing when i feel like doing it). he … is the opposite- he likes to spend as much time together as he can. when he says hes going to do something he does everything on agenda. (ie if he makes plans to go to a movie on fri night, he’ll go when friday comes around and he doesnt feel like going, i, on the other hand, dont see it as a big deal not to go and wont go if im not in the mood.) he loves watching cmbc and cnn or anything to do with stocks/politics ALL THE TIME, 24/7 and i cant stand it (their voices ring in my ear and irritate me). those are just a couple of examples!
through communicating (aka many arguments) we’ve learn to deal with our differences and compromise - something ive never been able to do before. its amazing to me (and everyone that knows me) what you will do for someone that you love!! it was fun to read this entry- i can totally relate!!
fi and i are complete opposite on what we like to do… how are habits are…how we see life.. the only thing we have in common is our position in our own family. we’re the oldest in the family and the most resourceful. that’s the only thing. however i’m the more carefree, will try anything once person. he’s the small intimate party person, and will researching things 10 times before deciding that’s what he’s going to do. it was very fustrating in the beginning but i agree.. it takes time to get used to. i sacrafice him being at my friends get to gethers because frankly i have too many friends than he can keep up with. and i feel sad that he doesn’t try… but he came around would try every now and then. he found out who are my real closest and decide he would go to their things over the other ones. they kinda have to prove to him that they are true to me before he gives them a chance. i just accept it as him being over protective and i can’t be mad at that. i searched high and low for someone to take care of me.. the way i take care of others. and i found him.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one. The more I read, the more differences I find between Mr. Violet and I. But that’s okay our differences make our relationship more interesting.
Thanks for the great replies.
Hahahaha….Mrs Violet, the first time I went to a Mets game on a broiling hot summer day, I became dizzy and faint from the heat, and then after I got home I threw up. Meanwhile my FI raved about sitting in the hot sun at a baseball game drinking a beer as the quintessential summer experience. Our differences could not have been more starkly defined.
But we love being together so much that we each do some of the things the other loves, just so we can do it together. I hope this doesn’t change after we are married!
We’re complete opposites. However, he tries with all his might to introduce me to new things - four-wheeling, snowboarding… He actually bought me a snowboard the second Christmas we were together (I had only gone once before he bought it)
After I tried these things that he loves, I find that I enjoy them too. I’m pretty sure though that he won’t end up loving things like scrapbooking, quilting (I know I’m a dork) and such.
I’m interested in seeing how registering goes because our interests don’t just end with activities. Our house is going to be so random!
Fi and I are so opposite its nutz!!! We have no idea how we stay together, it just works. Everything I wish I could be he is, (more assertive) and everything he wishes he could be (more organized, patient) I am. The crazy thing is our 5 year old son is so like both of us??
My FI and I are also polar opposites; he likes to ski and I like to snowshoe, he does century rides (100 mile bike rides), I would rather run a marathon, he is handy around the house and I would rather scrapbook…..but it is important to him that we find things we like to do together. We put a bunch of ideas of things the other person might like to try that we enjoy in a bowl; once a month we pick an idea out and both give it an honest try. Out of those ideas, we’ve found 2 that work-reading/discussing one book together per month (we take turns choosing them) and cooking a large meal together every Sunday before church!
Opposite interests can add to your horizons but exploring life together is a real joy!
not complete opposites but man are there some sacrifices. on the football front….i basically give in and sit thru 2 games a week. one on Sunday and another some other day of the week. by sit thru i dont mean actually watching or paying attention. i am simple sitting next to him while he screams and acts a fool.
he in turns sits thru many a design program with me. since most games are soo long, i usually can use this as a bargaining chip to watch my fill of HGTC, Style, WE, ect…..
i have given up chocolate desserts in resturaunts bc he doesnt like them and we always share dessert. major sacrifice on my part if i say so myself, lol.
a big one moving into marriage for us is i’m a traveler and my FI is a homebody. so i’ve given up globe trotting in our elder years, while he has given in to international trips once a few years……with regular vacations sprinkled thruout for good measure.
My significant other and I are very opposite in many ways, but we also complement each other. I’m a California girl, born and raised in Orange County, while he is a native New Yorker. I’m patient and he is absolutely not. I rarely express anger, while he has a temper. I’m very introverted and despise talking about how I feel and he is so social, he would talk to a wall if it would talk back to him! Anyways, I think that our clash in personality leads us to meet halfway in our relationship, especially when we have an argument.
Also, my family is in California and we live in New York, so we split our time between the two during the holidays. Over this past Christmas, he spent his first Christmas outside of New York with me and my family. Next year, I’ll spend Christmas with his family.
We’re fairly aligned on the big stuff, but we definitely have our differences and there is a lot we don’t have in common. Keeps life interesting ;o)
Kudos to you for taking an interest and “doing” with the Superbowl party, but don’t feel like you have to like everything he does. He loves you for who you are. Seperate interests are good for your relationship. So are sacrifices, just choose them wisely.
Yea, Giants!
I know this is an old post, but me and my fiance are the complete opposites, so I really relate to your post. We literally have nothing in common, but that has made us both grow as people. For example, before I met him I only ate chicken fingers and french fries, he is in love with fish and finer foods, he opened me up to a whole new world of yummy food! We havent had to make a lot of sacrafices, we try things to make the other happy, but if we don’t like it, we just do it on our own and think of other things we enjoy doing together. Like he is into cars and goes to car shows, I tried it once, but we realized it is somehting he has mroe fun doing on his own.
@Anonymous: French fries & chicken fingers? Sounds like my husband back when were were dating.. haha! He’s much better now. We’ve learned to live in harmony! Glad you guys are as well!
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Mrs. Violet, New York
Age and Occupation: 27, Executive Assistant
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Computer Engineer
Engagement Date: May 13, 2006
Wedding Date: September 2007
Venue: Westbury Manor
About Me: We've been dating since college. In our spare time we enjoy the city life, playing with our dog "Sam", eating our hearts out, and traveling. I also love to DIY. Check out my crafty creations at http://www.waisze.etsy.com.
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