Going, Going, Gone
February 5th, 2008 @ 5:17 pm by Mrs. Kiwi
“It’s like your son is getting married, you’re not losing a son, you’re gaining a daughter!”- Mrs. Bluebell.
Today I am sending my engagement ring out to be unmounted. This means I’m taking the center stone Mr. Kiwi and I exhaustingly searched for, and having it mounted into a new engagement ring. Since the ring is being custom made by Whiteflash for the exact shape of my stone, I have to send it out before they can begin the process of creating the images and casting the ring.
Why did Mrs. Bluebell say that sentence above? I was telling her about how sad I am to say goodbye my engagement ring, although not because I love this ring so, more likely because it’s the ring that was slid onto my finger three months ago. The setting has never been my favorite, it just doesn’t look right with my rectangular stone, and I was never satisfied. The prongs don’t fit right, and I quite honestly regret ever making that purchase, but was okay with having that ring. Lately, though, my wedding band had been scraping the prongs of my engagement ring, and I was worried about the long-term abuse of my “forever” wedding band, since I will never upgrade, trade in, or replace it.
Since I was already unhappy with the engagement ring that I had, we decided to get me a new one. This one, to be made precisely for my stone and my stone alone, will negate the feeling of wanting something better, as this is the stone I plan to have for life- and once in its new home/setting, I will be content. I hated being unhappy with my e-ring setting, because I’m the one who chose it! Thankfully, it isn’t a slight to Mr. Kiwi, replacing the setting, as he wants me to be happy (and he could rub in how I definitely made a bad choice!).
As happy as I am about getting the right setting, now I’m a little melancholy about letting my ring go, which prompted Mrs. Bluebell’s statement above. The thing is, we’re getting the old setting back with the new one, just minus the center stone. The old setting will have a new peg head set onto it, and with that taken care of, we will either set an aquamarine into the old guy, or whatever birthstone our first child will have (whichever comes first-hehe). When we set it, the ring will be gifted to my mom, as the setting still has a lot of meaning for me. My mom has never had diamonds, and being able to give her my diamond side stoned wedding band (albeit a bit worn, but I prefer to call it “loved”), would mean a lot to me. It may sound like I’m giving her hand-me-downs, but in all honesty, I could keep the setting myself and set something else into it, but I’d rather give my mom something fancy to wear, once it’s replated and everything is all newed up for her.
And now, my future setting, but I am modifying it. This is the side view, the bar between the prongs will have diamonds on them.
This is the face shot, instead of diamonds on the arms of the ring, it will be shiny metal- free of diamonds. The prongs will be more claw-like, and split.
I’m so thrilled that I’m getting the ring I’m going to have forever. And although guilty about wanting something different than what I had, I’m happy to finally get the last one- and to insure it! After all, we’re gaining a daughter ring!
Have you ever thought of changing your rings? Is there a reason you may have to?
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18 Responses to “Going, Going, Gone”
Hi Mrs. Emerald!! I LOVE your ring, but no, I have a rec. radiant (like Mrs. Snow Pea!), I’m so excited, though! It’s really hard to find a ring to fit a rectangular stone, right?
I love the way my engagement ring looks, but I don’t love the setting in terms of actually wearing it. It’s a 3-stone ring for starters, and truthfully, I think I would prefer a solitaire ring. Plus, it’s set a little on the high side — and I’m a scientist, so I wear gloves all day in the lab, and it gets to be a bit uncomfortable due to the height. I figure I’ll just change it someday when I upgrade the ring for our 20th anniversary or something special. Not that there is anything wrong with my current ring, and I will certainly keep the center stone, but I work with my hands and even after a year the platinum is all scuffed up, so I’m sure I’ll reset it every so many years to keep it looking shiny and new!
I might have to get a new setting because its too small for my diamond. I’ve had to take it to the jewelry 3 times already because the center stone gets loose.
I haven’t really thought about replacing my setting, but I can see that one day I might want to. Tastes change, and I don’t see anything wrong with changing your jewelry as well. After all, you should feel *happy* every time you look down at that ring!
I am WAY excited to see your new setting! I love your inspiration and I am sure WF will do an amazing job (they always do)!
At least you will still have your wedding ring while your ering is gone, but I am sure that it will be hard to part with. I need to send my setting back to Texas to have some dings repaired, but I haven’t done it yet because I don’t want to part with my ring. Happy thoughts to your little guy on his journey! 
I may change mine. The FI I (who brought my friend with him) bought the same ring as one of my friends. I tried to tell myself it’s not a big deal ( I’m not the kind of girl who gets upset if friends buy the same shoes or purse as me) but it honestly does kinda bother me that it’s the same as my friend’s. So I think something’s gonna have to give.
super pretty!! i am thinking about getting a new setting because I want the “wrap” wedding band look and my setting is currently too big. I’m glad that someone else is taking the leap and trading their first ring in!
the thought crossed my mind…fleetingly….today.
i was sitting in the car with my co-worker on our way to a promotion. and i spotted her ring. its clearly a 2 ct. and so are the rings of several of my co-workers…..and just for a moment……for a moment i felt unsure of my antique style half ct ring. although mine is set in a gorgeous filigree band. with several diamond side stones, its not the show piece that a 2 ct is.
then i stopped. bc my ring is perfect for me. my FH picked it especially for me. and he is sooo proud of himself for how unique it is and perfect for it is……..
so, for now, i have batted away the semi green monster that began to creep in.
i changed mine about 8 months after the wedding. i have a round cut center stone and my engagement ring had baguette side stones. we got a band with three baguettes custom made, but it never fit next to my e-ring, and it always bothered me. the way my e-ring was made, nothing could ever sit next to it (even though we cut into the base of the setting to make it get at least close). finally i had my center stone set into a plain solitaire setting and put all five baguettes into a wedding band. i am still sad about not having my original e-ring anymore, but my new wedding band is classy and i can wear it forever (even if/when i upgrade my e-ring).
i take comfort in the fact that even though my hubby chose my original e-ring, he’d rather have me have a set that actually looks good together. so instead of an e-ring with a cut-into setting and a semi-decent wedding ring, i have a plain, classic solitaire and a gorgeous wedding ring. 
Your new setting is so pretty and it’s lovely that you want to give your mother her own “bling.”
I had my ring changed already! I blogged about my “upgrade”
http://style-ishwedding.blogspot.com/2007/09/upgrade.html
Although I loved the old setting, I REALLY love my new setting.
I really love your idea of “re-using” your old setting. I should’ve thought of that but we just ended up selling it to our jeweler.
Was your original ring a surprise Mrs. Kiwi? I think that picking out my ring is one of the hardest decisions I will make. What if I hate it later?
Jnicholea, unfortunately, I chose my ring!! I just loved th setting when I first got it, and then over time found settings that were cheaper, a better deal, and more “me”. It was really disappointing.
I can really just tell you to love the one you choose, and look everywhere!!
I actually chose my setting, and then spent the first month it was on my finger worrying about whether it was the right choice. However, the longer I wear it, and the more other rings I see, the more I love it. I guess it has grown on me.
Interesting to hear that julieulie’s platinum is scuffed; our jeweler talked me out of platinum, and that was one of the things I was terribly afraid was a mistake. The white gold does scuff on the back side of the band. However, I had it replated recently, and it looks as good as new. I will have it done again right before the wedding.
when we decided to get married, i was very specific about what i thought i wanted. six prong classic “tiffany” style ring.
after getting it and becoming engaged my hubby wasn’t so psyched about it. he said he felt it was kind of too plain but he had gotten it to my specifications.
knowing this - when i went to get my ering resized, as i stood in the jewelry store, i noticed this other setting with a pave of diamonds that would circle the center stone with a unique u shape of diamonds on both sides of the ring under the stone… well. i fell in love. Hahaha. so. instead of resizing my ring, i had it reset.
and as my hubby says, i’m the one that has to wear it so i’d better love it.
My guy got me exactly what I said I wanted (single solitaire in a very simple setting/band), and I love it. We have to get it resized, and he keeps talking about adding more to it, but I want to save that for a big anniversary. He might think it’s too plain, but I love it just the way it is.
I’m a bit late but YAY! I’m so excited for you!!! Don’t forget to post pics (esp hand pics) when it’s finished!
I just got my e-ring reset too, by ERD. It was a tough decision….and at first Mr Peony was a bit hurt that I wanted it reset, but we both like the new ring so much better! I’ll be writing a post about it soon…
I’m excited to see your new setting.
I painstakingly designed my e ring and LOVE it. However, now that I’m married and have an (almost) eternity band, the diamonds on the eternity band are scratching/etching my prongs on my e-ring. Sounds like the same thing happened to you.
I don’t want to sauter them together, but am not sure how to fix this.
Any bee readers have ideas???
Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
Ohhh purty!! You have an Ascher cut?? looove those! I had a hard time choosing between an Emerald cut and Ascher (but clearly Emerald won out, hence my alias =)