Wedding Blog

“It’s like your son is getting married, you’re not losing a son, you’re gaining a daughter!”- Mrs. Bluebell.

Today I am sending my engagement ring out to be unmounted. This means I’m taking the center stone Mr. Kiwi and I exhaustingly searched for, and having it mounted into a new engagement ring. Since the ring is being custom made by Whiteflash for the exact shape of my stone, I have to send it out before they can begin the process of creating the images and casting the ring.

Why did Mrs. Bluebell say that sentence above? I was telling her about how sad I am to say goodbye my engagement ring, although not because I love this ring so, more likely because it’s the ring that was slid onto my finger three months ago. The setting has never been my favorite, it just doesn’t look right with my rectangular stone, and I was never satisfied. The prongs don’t fit right, and I quite honestly regret ever making that purchase, but was okay with having that ring. Lately, though, my wedding band had been scraping the prongs of my engagement ring, and I was worried about the long-term abuse of my “forever” wedding band, since I will never upgrade, trade in, or replace it.

Since I was already unhappy with the engagement ring that I had, we decided to get me a new one. This one, to be made precisely for my stone and my stone alone, will negate the feeling of wanting something better, as this is the stone I plan to have for life- and once in its new home/setting, I will be content. I hated being unhappy with my e-ring setting, because I’m the one who chose it! Thankfully, it isn’t a slight to Mr. Kiwi, replacing the setting, as he wants me to be happy (and he could rub in how I definitely made a bad choice!).

As happy as I am about getting the right setting, now I’m a little melancholy about letting my ring go, which prompted Mrs. Bluebell’s statement above. The thing is, we’re getting the old setting back with the new one, just minus the center stone. The old setting will have a new peg head set onto it, and with that taken care of, we will either set an aquamarine into the old guy, or whatever birthstone our first child will have (whichever comes first-hehe). When we set it, the ring will be gifted to my mom, as the setting still has a lot of meaning for me. My mom has never had diamonds, and being able to give her my diamond side stoned wedding band (albeit a bit worn, but I prefer to call it “loved”), would mean a lot to me. It may sound like I’m giving her hand-me-downs, but in all honesty, I could keep the setting myself and set something else into it, but I’d rather give my mom something fancy to wear, once it’s replated and everything is all newed up for her.

And now, my future setting, but I am modifying it. This is the side view, the bar between the prongs will have diamonds on them.

This is the face shot, instead of diamonds on the arms of the ring, it will be shiny metal- free of diamonds. The prongs will be more claw-like, and split.

I’m so thrilled that I’m getting the ring I’m going to have forever. And although guilty about wanting something different than what I had, I’m happy to finally get the last one- and to insure it! After all, we’re gaining a daughter ring!

Have you ever thought of changing your rings? Is there a reason you may have to?