How I Handle? … Me…
February 8th, 2008 @ 2:56 pm by Mrs. Cherry Blossom
I’m sure I am stating the obvious when I say Wedding Planning doesn’t come easy. No sh*t right? Yeah well, that girl up there, that’s how I have been feeling the last week and a few weeks prior since coming back from my vacation. It’s one “hiccup” or huge speed bump after another but I’m coping. Trust me, I’ve felt like kicking, screaming, kicking someone’s arse, or just plain crying. But you know what, none of that is going to help me better the situation that I’ve been in. It’s really helped that Mr. CB has been incredibly supportive.
It’s been incredibly crappy for me but like I’ve told myself and others, it’s not Life and Death. You just gotta power through it and look into your options. I’ve had my share of a good cry - I was watching American Idol and I let it flow (it was a really sad audition, this girl lost her dad just a couple days before her struggle to get to the auditions, and yet she held her head up high, gave it her best, and got through.) If it helps to cry to release the frustration, so be it. But when it boils down to it, you just gotta stay calm, what’s done is done. Just have to sit back, take a breather, and look into your Option A, B, C, etc. You can get through it. No point in screaming and kicking, just do it! Just think, everyone’s healthy and alive, we have a lot more to be thankful of. It’s just a little hump, we’re at the sh*t peak, but we’ll come back down.
I took a few days off of doing anything wedding because as a result of this heart sinking into my stomach stress, I came down with a minor cold. Take a few breathers, and we’re back to rock and roll.
When things have calmed down, I’ll definitely come back to share with you all my experience. For now, I’ll have to leave it as is.
How do you cope with your stress?
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15 Responses to “How I Handle? … Me…”
Cry…complain to my girlfriends…have a glass of wine. Not always in that order. I totally understand. I have been so stressed lately, mostly from fights with my mom about the wedding.
To be honest, much in the same way. I’ve been dealing with some personal stress lately, too, and the depression was becoming overwhelming. It got worse when I drank, I noticed (duh! :P), so I quit drinking and was more able to handle the up and down swings. I was also noticing that I was for some reason holding back the tears when I felt a need to cry. I finally let them go (on an airplane…I’m cool like that), and felt much, MUCH better almost instantly. More able to handle the issue at hand. Stronger, and more capable.
What was that all about?
Anyway, taking it one day at a time is my best advice. Keeping things in perspective, too.
Looking forward to hearing what’s been going on…you’re one of my fave bees, so I hope you’re doing ok!
Hahaha I wasn’t even that stressed but I totally cried at that girl’s audition! It was emotional!
But yeah, I remember the Days O’ Stress well, so best of luck in getting through it!! Sounds like you have some good coping techniques in place.
Aw shucks thanks gals! Thanks for the support! Smooches!
We soLDJas! We fight all battles head on baby!
I cope with my stress by screaming obscenities in BeeTV at you lovely ladies and Mr. Bee.
Penguin, they have drugs for that you know?! haha…I think to each their own, but the most important thing is to remember it is one day in the rest of your lives together…with that in mind, it makes certain things seem miniscule….yes, that was the logical Bluebear speaking…the realistic one will tell you that a punching bag does wonders! =)
LOL, I cried for that girl too :-). Definitely take a few days and I don’t mean just from wedding planning, I mean from life. At the height of my stress, I took a Friday off to just veg out around the house and read a book from cover to cover. If you are short on days off, just plan to NOTHING (or something you enjoy) for a weekend. Works for me. 
Ugh. I wish I had an answer to this question. I was thinking I was dealing with my stress pretty well, but then the other day I ended up picking a huge fight with Mr. Cream Puff over NOTHING and then I threw saltine crackers across the room. It was not pretty.
I apologized.
But long story short, I don’t deal with it well. I may be able to tackle the issue, but it eats at me inside. Let me know if you come up with any handy tips.
I work out.
In fact, I make SURE I work out regularly BEFORE I get stressed out. It helps immensely. FH notices it and makes me go work out when I start to get cranky. If I don’t feel like being there - I bring a magazine or book and hole myself up alone on a treadmill or elliptical machine for an hour or so - instead of being surrounded by other peeps in a class. That way I can be cranky & work out without being bothered. 
LOL! I thought I was the only one who cried at American Idol…they sure do pull at your heartstrings. And next week will be no different…as the previews showed the boy who lives out of his car looking very sad and saying he just wants another chance. American Idol has been a good stress releaser for me!
i love the lil animated gif you posted- it looks exactly how i feel- wedding planning is driving me insane and i absolutely hate it! i think the only fun part so far has been tasting cakes, attending our marriage seminar, and looking at magazines. i can’t wait till its all over!
journaling (in a paper journal) helps me to cope with the stress and remember that it’ll be all over soon!
eat lots of fruits and OJ to help build up your immune system so you don’t get any more colds ms. CB! =D
it’s okay! i cried at the same audition and there’s nothing going on in my life right now
So far, not so well! But now I’ve found weddingbee, I feel less alone!
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Mrs. Cherry Blossom, San Francisco
Age and Occupation: 27, Administrative Asst.
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, District Sales Manager
Engagement Date: December 23, 2006
Wedding Date: May 3, 2008
Venue: Zen Garden in the East Bay w/ reception in a floor-to-ceiling window Atrium with views of the Zen Garden
About Me: After 5 years of dating, we're finally ready to get hitched! I am a lovah of all things wedding, creative, crafty, and definitely DIY bc I love to add a personal touch to everything I gift or make. In my free time, I like to bake, spend time with our family, friends, and my doggies, read my guilty pleasure celebrity gossip and catch up on TV shows.
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