Mrs. Cupcake, Philadelphia
Age and Occupation: 27, Graphic Designer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Construction Project Manager
Engagement Date: February 10, 2007
Wedding Date: September, 2008
Blogging Since: December 7, 2007
Venue: The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
About Me: Mr. Cupcake and I hit it off at a Halloween party and immediately began a long-distance relationship. After two years, he moved to my neck of the woods, and a year and a half after that, he proposed at the “place we fell in love.” I am a true perfectionist who enjoys designing and creating more work for myself, so wedding planning is my perfect outlet. Mr. Cupcake and I are both old souls, and we hope to weave that aspect of our personalities into our wedding day.
“Dancing With Confidence At Your Wedding Or Party”
February 19th, 2008 @ 9:31 am by Mrs. Cupcake
No, this is not an infomercial…. this is the name of the dance class that Mr. Cupcake and I signed up for!
When I was growing up, dance was my “thing.” Some girls played sports, some girls were in band or orchestra, and I was at dance class three nights a week. I never really took it seriously enough to pursue as a career, but it was something that I felt good at and I loved doing. Mr. Cupcake, on the other hand, was involved in sports and music, and actually was pretty talented at multiple instruments. However, his knowledge and understanding of rhythm does not translate to the dance floor.
When we go to weddings I always want to get on the dance floor the moment the DJ starts busting out some tunes, but I pretty much have to drag Mr. Cupcake to join me. I don’t think he’s a bad dancer — but his typically secure level of confidence swiftly drops the moment his soles touch the hardwood, and I hate knowing how uncomfortable it makes him. I think dancing is all about fun and I don’t care what he looks like out there as long as he’s enjoying himself, but when he gets nervous and starts to break out “the sprinkler,” I know we’re in trouble.
To cure his lack of dancing confidence, I delicately brought up the idea of taking a dance class together, and to my surprise he was all for it. There is a great organization in the Philadelphia metropolitan area called Main Line School Night, and they offer classes in dance, cooking, computers, entertaining, languages, fitness, writing, crafting…. you name it, they’ve got it! So after 5 weeks of an 80-minute class per week (and for only about $100 total for the pair of us), we’ll be on our way to looking like Fred & Ginger at our wedding!
I think learning the basics and a few key moves will help Mr. Cupcake to feel less self-conscious on the dance floor. Now, there is no way we’re doing a choreographed routine for our first dance (I’m picking my battles, ladies!), but at least he will be able to sway with his head held-high, without worrying that all eyes are on us!
2 Responses to ““Dancing With Confidence At Your Wedding Or Party””
Wow, that’s a GREAT price for lessons! I’m jealous.
I also grew up dancing– from on the feet of my dad as a toddler to on pointe as a ballet-obsessed teenager.
Mr beanchar– not so much.
He’ll get out there with me, but he has told me he feels awkward b/c he doesn’t really know what he’s doing— and he also gets irritated when I try and teach him.
So, we have agreed that he will take some lessons on his own first until he feels a little more confident and then we’ll take some together— I need to learn to stop trying to lead, after all! 
Now, our lives just need to slow down so we have the time to implement this plan….
We took swing dance for years before the wedding, and my grand piece of advice from that experience is {ahem} no one will notice if you cut a verse or two from your first dance song. We actually trimmed two verses (and once through the bridge) and no one noticed.
