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I’m In Love With A Stripper

February 21st, 2008 @ 2:28 pm by Mrs. Penguin

Mr. Penguin’s Best Man and I were sitting around at champagne brunch one day, discussing his best man duties.  The topic of strippers somehow came up… and by “somehow came up,” I mean that I probably started yelling “STRIPPERS!  STRIPPERS!” or some other equally strange non sequitur, as Miss Penguin + Free-Flowing Champagne = Hours of Ear-Piercing Nonsensical Obscenities. 

Miss Penguin: STRIPPERS! STRIPPERS!
Mr Penguin’s Best Man: Yeah. Strippers. About that.
MP: STRIPPERS?
BM: What would you say if we accidentally found ourselves in a strip club at Mr. Penguin’s Bachelor party?
MP: YES. STRIPPERS. DO IT.
BM: So, you’re okay with strip clubs? I’m gonna remember you said that.
MP: DO IT.

I’m pretty sure he thought I was not thinking clearly, but I really do find strip clubs entirely non-threatening. The women that work there don’t do it because they are looking for Mr. Right, they’re just looking to feed themselves and their families… and I’m willing to bet that they think that guys that visit strip clubs are kind of skeezy anyway. But, you know who IS looking for Mr. Right? A normal, single chick in a normal club. I’m shuddering at the thought of my normal fiance running away with a normal girl and living a long, happy, normal life. YICK!

What are your feelings about Strip Clubs at the Bachelor Party Weekend, and what’s your rationale?

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68 Responses to “I’m In Love With A Stripper”

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Miss Toucan (message)  1,327 posts, Bumble bee

Mr. Toucan’s groomsmen asked me about strippers like 2 days after we got engaged. I told them strippers were fine, but no “strippers.” ;)
Hehe… I also added later - no Asian strippers. hehe.

 
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Susan Eva

I’m fine with strip clubs/bachelor parties, as long as it does not involve the private room, etc. ;) Frankly, though- I agree that the men that go to strip clubs are sleazy. Including those at bachelor parties.

 
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suzanno (message)  2,683 posts, Sugar bee

Yeah… no strip clubs, no strippers. For me its not about not trusting him, or about feeling threatened. I just don’t see why either of us should go out and do something that we normally would never considering doing, just because we are getting married. As if its somehow tragic that we are promising not to have sex with other people ever again, so we better run out and get some now.

I think that for a lot of guys the bachelor party/stripper thing is about peer pressure. And I don’t think either of us should be pressured into doing something we don’t like or enjoy (and FI is not the kind of guy who wants to look at some strange woman’s hoo-ha), and I don’t think we need the kind of friends who won’t take a polite “No, Thanks” for an answer. He is having a super-expensive golf weekend at the Coeur d’Alene resort for his bachelor party, which will be a great male-bonding kind of thing for him and his friends.

 
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Mrs. Daisy (message)  34 posts, Newbee

Miss Penguin, i have the same sound reasoning as you re: strip clubs. strippers are way more trustworthy than your average, club-going girl.

 
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jfs

Well, although I find strip clubs non-threatening to my level of self esteem and my relationship I would still find the situation inappropriate- the same with “girls gone wild” bachlorette parties. Honestly I just find them to be in poor taste. I’m probably in the minority here:)

 
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TBride

I personally think the whole idea is demoralizing to the women and just generally icky… most of these women have no other choice but to be treated as sexual objects just to live and put food on the table. But if Mr. TBride feels like he’d regret not having them - hey - bring on the g-strings.

 
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staceyb (message)  262 posts, Helper bee

i vetoed strippers for his party simply because i didn’t want them at mine, lol…. i have a very outgoing best friend who really really wanted to hire a stripper for me. i am very, very shy, and that basically sounded like death to me, so i said no, i can’t, cause i told the FI no strippers. :) then i still win! :)

 
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Alissa

Strippers dont bother me at all-basically for the same reasons. They actually used to bother me-and then I went to one with a bunch of guy friends one night. It was like wait, this is what they’re like? Oh-well nevermind haha. I told my fiance it was totally up to him, but I had no problem with them.

 
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livvie (message)  135 posts, Blushing bee

I think it’s totally fine for both of us, bachelor(ette) party weekend or otherwise. A little bit of naked flesh (man or woman) won’t change the way we feel, neither of us find it offensive, and actually might be a nice little bit of spice to add to the relationship.

 
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triciaj (message)  257 posts, Helper bee

I’m on the no strippers team. Basically, I don’t want ANY girl (stripper or club hopper) rubbing her junk on my FI. It worked out though - he’d rather have a massive Halo 3 party with all his gamer friends. :)

 
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amysue (message)  1,492 posts, Bumble bee

i thought i was ok with strippers til i saw how close some of those lap dances get. now i’m not so sure.

 
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anna

i’m pretty sure there’s going to be strippers at the bachelor party and i’m okay with it. the fiance is a grown man and can make his own decisions and i trust him and his judgment completely. he’s going to be my husband, not my son, so i really don’t think it’s my place to tell him what he can and can’t do.

 
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Linda

I have no problems with strippers or strip clubs either. My FI doesn’t like them though. I doubt his bachelor party will involve them.

 
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rebecca (message)  1,315 posts, Bumble bee

i COMPLETELY agree. drunk girls at bars are trying to get a guy to take them home, whereas strippers just want to make it through the night with some cash. they’re going to vegas, so i know that my FI doesn’t have enough money to pay for anything that would make me mad. =)

and it’s the last time he’s going to get huge bazongas waved in his face so i told him whatever, i just don’t wanna know.

 
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Red (message)  119 posts, Blushing bee

I also agree that strip clubs are just good fun as long as both parties are secure and comfortable with it. My girls and I went to see the Chippendales in Vegas. Granted, Chippendales is less “hands-on” than most female strips clubs but it was still half naked men dancing suggestively :-)

Ironically, my DH decided to forgo the strip clubs and go skeet-shooting instead.

 
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Laura

My FI’s brother and best man is pretty dead set on going all out like they are on Entourage for FI’s bachelor party. Not thrilled about the stripper idea mostly because I know FI is pretty shy and would be EXTREMELY uncomfortable with the stripper action, and I really want him to do what he wants to do. I just wish his brother would consider what FI wants more then what HE wants to do.

I admit the whole idea of strippers kinda turns my stomach. I wish I was as cool as a penguin about it as you were Miss Penguin!

 
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Sweeney2Be (message)  1,490 posts, Bumble bee

If Mr S wanted to go I wouldn’t mind because I trust him 100% - however he has made the decision all on his own that it’s disrespectful to me to have another gals tata’s bounced in his face.

Plus I don’t know about your strip clubs, but the ones here in MN, when a stag party comes in the Groom tends to get beat, and I mean a ROUGH-bruise leaving dance. I’ve seen a groom or two the day after and as I happen to have a couns in in the ‘biz’ I’ve heard all about it.

No worries - no facial injuries…wedding pics will still be ok! ;-)

 
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angiepangie (message)  157 posts, Blushing bee

I have no problem with FI having strippers at his bachelor party but that is the last thing he wants. He would rather go to a baseball game with the guys and end up drinking nice bourbon at a bar where they can talk all night.

 
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peihan17 (message)  261 posts, Helper bee

I’m for no strippers too. It’s not a matter of telling him what he can and can’t do, it’s more about respect for our relationship and coming marriage, which is not well represented by having a girl rub her crotch in his. To me, lap dances (and definitely anything more) is close enough to full blown cheating that I would have a hard time distinguishing.

 
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sugardre

I’m totally fine with my FI going to the strippers for his bachelor party, although definitely no back room action! However I know he wants a more fun bachelor party (like paintballing or, I don’t know, iron chef lessons… he’s cute like that). However, my bachelorette party will be taking place in Montreal, where one of my BMs lives, and Rue Ste Catherine is stipper central (some classy, some not so much). I know my FSIL is super excited to hit up the strippers for a bit that night… she’s crazy in a good way. How could I forbid him something I know will be inevitable for myself? Haha.

 
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Mrs. Penguin, Northern California Age and Occupation: 27, Weddingbee Editor in Chief Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Doctor of Physical Therapy Engagement Date: January 29, 2007 Wedding Date: June 7, 2008 Blogging Since: September 14, 2007 Venue: Winery in the Gold Country About Me: I love the Spice Girls, dogs with underbites, bean burritos, making messes, high fives, avoiding showers, crossword puzzles, blogs, weddings, and blogs about weddings!

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