When Did You Know?
February 25th, 2008 @ 4:55 pm by Mrs. Toucan
Last week, Mr. Toucan and I met with THE MAN - the man that would be marrying us. I was really nervous about meeting with the priest because:
1. I am not Catholic
2. I had no idea why we were meeting, or even what to expect, and
3. I was ridiculously and irrationally afraid that all my nightmares would come true and I’d feel super uncomfortable, and all of a sudden get up during our meeting yell, “Don’t judge me!” and run out of the church. (Luckily, this didn’t happen)
I had really no reason to be nervous at all because the priest just wanted to meet with us to get to know us and get a feel of who we are as individuals and as a couple. After asking about our childhood and our families, he asked us when we knew we wanted to marry each other. I was really unprepared for the question, and had to think about it for awhile. I couldn’t pinpoint one moment in time that I knew I wanted to marry Mr. Toucan. I think it was more of a gradual thing for me. You see, Mr. Toucan and I met when we were in college. Even early in our relationship, at the age of 19, I realized that what I had with Mr. Toucan was special - that he could be “The One.” Over time, I became more and more sure I wanted to marry him. Now, I have no doubt in my mind that he’s the one for me.
When did you know? Was there a specific moment? Or was it a gradual thing?
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10 Responses to “When Did You Know?”
This particular day of cloud-watching in the park. We were in love, but I wasn’t sure I wanted to marry (a whole logic behind that which is way too long). Something about that day changed how I felt…I went to ask him how it felt to be a boyfriend and I slipped and said husband. It felt good to say and it felt right. We talked about it, and I realized that I wanted to marry him. It was pretty cool when I found out he felt the same way.
About 2 weeks after we started dating. If he hadn’t felt the same way I would have been totally crushed.
It was definitely a gradual thing for me! And contrary to what most people say, I didn’t “just know” that he was the one.
mine happened about two months into our relationship…i was thinking about my friends’ upcoming wedding and i started wondering what i would do with mine [a general and super generic idea i always played with whenever a friend was getting married - because otherwise i just never thought about it!] and after years of a faceless groom, i saw the bf. and honestly, it scared the crap out of me. lol. it was only two months and i thought i was rushing things but come to find out, he was thinking the same too!
For us, we had been strictly platonic friends for a whole year, practically to the day. One day we took an intimate turn and one week later we professed our love for each other and we both knew that this was the real deal. I guess we were both at an age and a point in our lives where we were ready and we were done with the meaningless relationships.
As the saying goes, the best friends make the best lovers.
Needless to say though we may have known so quickly, we didn’t get officially engaged until almost 5 years later.
definitely gradual. i actually had somebody once tell me that if you didn’t have that “love at first sight, be-mine-forever” moment then you weren’t marrying the right person. i was so offended!
I would say a combination of thw two . I can remember the moment I know I could spend the rest of my life with him , about 7 monts into the relationship. I was having a hard time with some one I thought was a good friend , she wasn’t . His reaction to the entire situation was what sealed the deal. I knew he was deffinatly a keeper.
We met randomly on a sidewalk, talked all night, and then he flew back to his home city in another state. He called the next day though, and that night I told my mother I’d met the man I’m going to marry. Three months later I moved in with him, and then a year later, we’re engaged! I was never one to believe in the whole THE ONE thing, or even instantaneous love, but somehow I just knew immediately. Fortunately, he felt the same way!
The amazing thing to me is that I knew from the start… I even told me Grandma that I had met the man I was going to marry
We met/dated right out of high school, and went our seperate ways through college. Ten years later we were married, he’s always been the one.
We’re funny, we knew that our love was amazing… but were too young to get married before college - we each dated randomly and seriously over the years, but when we found eachother again we just knew!!! YAY us, I couldn’t be happier
Mrs. Toucan, Boston
Age and Occupation: 25, Full-time Research Assistant, Part-time Graduate Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Actuary
Engagement Date: February 18, 2007
Wedding Date: June 7, 2008
Blogging Since: November 07, 2007
Venue: St. Catherine of Genoa, Jin Asian Cuisine Restaurant
About Me: I’m a Gemini to the extreme. On one side, I’m a girly girl. I read countless bridal and fashion magazines, and have an obsession with keeping up with the latest Hollywood gossip. On the other side, I’m a sports fanatic. Despite being a full-time bride-to be, full-time research assistant, and part-time student, I’m also a full-time Red Sox fan from spring training to October, and a full-time Patriots fan from mini-camp to February. I devote almost as much time researching my for fantasy football team as researching for our wedding!
It’s really sappy… On our first date. I can actually remember thinking to myself, “If he asked me to run off to Vegas tonight, I’d totally do it.”
I’m NOT that kind of person - I had never fallen in love easily, nor been a believer in that heavy of a connection. I really felt like I’d known him forever. Cheesy, huh?