Weddingbee

No, it’s perfectly fine for you not to want to accept help. My mom kept volunteering people to do things “they can do the guest book for you” or “they can do the programs.” Um, no thanks. I want my design concept to be carried out how I want it carried out. Perhaps something like tying ribbons or sticking stamps, I might accept help. But I plan on doing most, if not all, of the invitations by myself, because I’m a lot like you!!

I was just struggling with you expressed yesterday. I also grew up fiercely independent- so much so that I now live 3 states away from all my family. My FMIL is not a crafty person, sweet as she may be. I know my bridesmaids would help when asked, but much like you, I ‘d rather go at it alone. I don’t think you should worry about it unless it is causing problems with your attitude, interfering with your other responsibilities or offending your family and friends. Rock on with your plans until you feel you absolutely can’t do it on your own anymore.

First off, your wedding is going to be awesome! All the details are fantastic.

I did most of the labor myself as well. I did get some last minute help from the “army” the week before the wedding though. Some bows were not tied to my expectations, but it was fun working together and I only gave them repetitive tasks that did not require thinking

I also left the decoration of the ceremony and reception up to my DOC and two trusted friends. I had ideas in my head that I described, but I wasn’t sure how they would turn out. It all turned about 1 million times better than I imagined

I would say, give some things up towards the end, which for you is… NOW! It will help you relax and enjoy the moment.

i just wanted to tell you how sweet your little monopoly houses are. I wouldn’t mind landed on one of those and paying up.

I’m a control freak I did most everything myself with a little help from my momma. It’s just me.

It looks like you are doing a marvelous job with all your details! I can’t wait to see the pictures and hear how all your family & friends react!!

I haven’t been the best at asking for help either. Only recently that I start to realize that it’s nice when someone help you. I’ve been in a freak-out stress zone the last few weeks and it’s comforting to know that I have friends and family who are there for me and wanting to help with anything. So with all the things coming up that needs to be made and put together, having help will definitely make everything go so much faster and funner!

I tried asking for help - I asked my mother to make me a sign asking guests to use the front door of the church (as opposed to the side door). I told her “Please make it white, with black lettering, saying please use the front door, and put it on a stake so we can put it in the lawn”. The sign she made defies description - black cardboard, multicoloured letters saying “Welcome to Erin and Jason’s wedding, please enter by the front doors” glued on, a picture of us glued in the middle, one of those white crepe-paper fold out bells glued on, globs of glue all over the place, strips of scotch tape providing further reinforcement to the letters (I thought those were temporary, but they were not), and no stake. She informed me they would just “tape it to the door”. I went back and forth for months over the “She worked really hard on this, I don’t want to hurt her feelings” vs. the “I cannot put that monstrosity up at my pretty pretty wedding”. I finally got my friend to make a sign (to my actual specifications this time) and then “confessed” in a panic to my mom that she’d remembered me talking about wanting a sign, she’d made this one, I didn’t know what to do, I didn’t want to hurt her feelings. My mom was very understanding and said of course I had to use my friend’s sign. What she didn’t mention was that they’d just use BOTH signs, which I didn’t realize until I got this photo back from the photographer.
Everybody is always amazed that the sign is actually more horrible than I described it, but it makes for a good story.