Mrs. Cream Puff, San Francisco Bay Area
Age and Occupation: 25, Illustrator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 31, Merchandise Planner
Engagement Date: May 27, 2007
Wedding Date: August, 2008
Blogging Since: February 7, 2008
Venue: Ceremony at Crissy Field and Reception at the Green Room
About Me: I never dreamed about my wedding as a little girl because I was too busy playing in the mud or pretending to be Martha Stewart–but now that it's here, I'm having a fabulous time DIYing everything in sight! We’re planning a very fun multicultural wedding (I'm Jewish and Mr. Cream Puff is Chinese), filled with as many personal details as I can muster.
Stress Stinks! Nothing Works!
February 28th, 2008 @ 4:16 pm by Mrs. Cream Puff
Last night, I had a dream that I gave birth to a baby with an abnormally large head. The baby was t
alking like an adult (I recall telling the baby, “you’re very eloquent!”) and was very dirty. Mr. Cream Puff was talking to someone near me, and I recall thinking to myself, “Oh my god, this is not normal. It’s not normal for a baby to be talking, or that it has such a large head, or that it’s so dirty.” I didn’t know which problem to address first. I started to get really worried about it and kept thinking I should ask Mr. Cream Puff for help, but instead I just sat there, silently freaking out and talking to the baby.
That giant-headed, eloquent baby is SOOO my wedding.
Everybody says that wedding planning can take over your life, and that you start only thinking about the day and forget about the marriage. What I didn’t expect to happen was that I wouldn’t even be able to think about the day–instead I would only be thinking about the ever-expanding list of To Do’s.
Why is it that wedding planning seems to take on a life of its own, morphing into a multi-headed monster? For the past few days, I’ve felt like I needed to corral the ridiculous thing, but it’s running all over the place and I can’t catch it. I am an extremely organized person. I have lists for everything. If anyone can plan an entire wedding by herself, I can. But alas, it is a LOT more work than I thought. A lot of it is my fault–adding a lot of extra DIY projects and such (although, quite frankly the DIY projects are the only thing I feel like I have a handle on!). But a lot of it is the nature of the wedding planning beast. While the planning is fun, it also has its insane side. Perhaps bridezilla isn’t always about everything having to be perfect, but sometimes it’s just because brides go insane with the stress of it all.
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14 Responses to “Stress Stinks! Nothing Works!”
I’m facing the 3 month mark (100 days TODAY) and a few months ago, I was feeling the same way you were. Completely stressed and overwhelmed. Now I am just letting go of things, looking forward to the day I get to be married and see all of the hard work fall into place.
I think it should pass. Just take small steps to getting things done. Things that MUST be done NOW and save the other stuff for another day. I had to tell myself that there was plenty of time to get things done. Good luck!
you gave birth to a stewie!
i think as long as you keep on top of your lists and what not and prioritize what you handle and when, you’ll be fine.
I found myself in a similar place. Surrounded by never ending lists. I got to the point where I would neet to sleep with a notebook so when I awoke in the middle of the night I could write down everything that I had forgotten to add to my list.
I would suggest doing something you enjoy, whether its a massage, facial or just hanging out with Y doing some of your favorite things…
I want you to know that I had a dream about a talking baby last night too. It was so odd. For some reason I was breast feeding this weird, bald baby that could talk. It seemed normal at the time. You aren’t alone with weird dreams - though I’m not sure if mine actually relates to my wedding or not.
heheh.. maybe you were dreaming of stewie? (from family guy). heh. he fits your description to a T! well, i had a panic attack about the finances of the wedding (sticker shock) but since then i’ve been okay. but i have yet to embark on a single craft project…hrmmm…
I’m SOOO in the same freak-out stage right now and I’m 3 months away, like Michelle. I start adding everything up in my budget sheet and finding out there’s more to pay for already over what we plan on spending. But thank God for friends that I can talk to because I’ve been such a baby lately! Ugghh… I just hope the next 3 months won’t get worse but better. Good luck with yours!
i’m at the 4.5 month stage now, but had a big freak out last week. Part of it was work stress, but most of it was due to wedding stress. I had a good cry and now everything’s fine. I think I just had too much bottled up inside for too long. And I also had a dream about a baby! Crazy. must be something about this 5 month stage. I hope it passes soon!
I’m six weeks tomorrow - and I was feeling like you when I was at the three month mark. Now - I’m beyond that. I’m in the “I-know-I-can’t-control-everything-so-I-won’t-even-try” stage…
i too am at the 5 mth mark for my august wedding, i’m not so much losing my mind… it’s already gone, i can get a frickin thing done! mentally im shot. I was wedding planning crazy right after the engagement & did all the big stuff… then thought WOW I have nothing to do right away. WRONG, all the little details and decisions are starting to surface & I have to make far more choices on a way more frequent basis than i was doing with the big ticket items, now I’m just on overload and i think my mental capacity is kaput!
good luck we’ll get through this… i hope! =)
I have been freaking out for the entire 7 months of our engagement so far. Planning a wedding is just waaay over my head. But Im just taking things day by day and trying to keep things as simple as possible! If I freak out about it, the idea tends to get cut out of the wedding, lol. Doesnt always work, but sometimes!
FYI: Ive read before that dreaming about babies= new beginnings or rebirth…if you had the baby its about you…if you dream about someone else having a baby its about them. Just thought you might find that interesting!!
[…] so much a warning, actually. More like advice. After my last post about wedding-related stress, I figured I’d share the few tips I DO have for reducing […]
Thanks for the encouragement, ladies! And Lindsey, I really like the idea of new beginnings. Here’s hoping that means the beginning of a less stressful wedding planning phase!!
Hi! I am at the 6 week mark and at this point its a little more exciting because “the big day” is not so far away.. there is a lot to do but it will be worth it!
