Wedding Blog

Our first wedding gift rolled in a couple weeks ago!  Four months early, wowwie!  I think I’ll always remember these Salt and Pepper mills as “our first gift.”  Were making memories here, people!

Cole and Mason Tower Mills, Williams Sonoma

I hadn’t even started to think about Thank You cards… I was going to take care of that after the wedding. But with the shower coming up, I realize that more than one set of Thank You cards may be in order. I’ve never been one to notice exactly when we’ve received Thank You’s from weddings/showers I’ve attended, but now that the tables are turned, I want to make sure I make an adequate attempt at “doing the right thing…” even though I’m not exactly sure what that means.

Here’s what Emily Post suggests (from Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette)

All thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift. Ideally, a response should be written on the day you receive a wedding gift.

Who needs a note?

• Anyone who gives you an engagement, shower or wedding gift, even if you have thanked them in person. Individual notes should be written to people who contributed to a group gift.
• Anyone who gives a gift of money: cash, checks, contributions to savings accounts and donations to charities. Mentioning the amount is optional, but it does let the person know the correct amount was received. You should mention what you plan to do with the money.
• Your attendants. A warm personal note attached to your gifts to your attendants will let them know how much you appreciate their efforts and support on your behalf.
• Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you. Ideally these notes should be written within two days of the event. Each host or hostess should be thanked individually with a note and a thank you gift.
• People who house or entertain your wedding guests. A note and a small gift should be sent to anyone who houses or entertains out-of-town wedding guests.
• People who do kindnesses for you. The neighbor who accepts delivery of your gifts when you are at work; the cousin who supervises the parking at the reception – anyone who assists you before, during or after your wedding.
• Suppliers and vendors. You don’t have to write everyone you hire for services, but anyone who exceeds your expectations will appreciate a courteous note of thanks.
• Your parents or whoever is hosting your wedding.

WHEW! Apparently I’m behind in Thank You’s already! Time to bust out the Gocco!

Do you plan to send out one grand Thank You after the wedding, or will you thank your guests for their gifts as they roll in? Between your shower, your bachelorette party, your wedding, and all the gifts you receive in between, will you send more than one thank you for each kind gesture?

***As a fun little side note, this is my 100th Weddingbee Post! Thanks for reading