Mrs. Cherry Blossom, San Francisco
Age and Occupation: 27, Administrative Asst.
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, District Sales Manager
Engagement Date: December 23, 2006
Wedding Date: May 3, 2008
Venue: Zen Garden in the East Bay w/ reception in a floor-to-ceiling window Atrium with views of the Zen Garden
About Me: After 5 years of dating, we're finally ready to get hitched! I am a lovah of all things wedding, creative, crafty, and definitely DIY bc I love to add a personal touch to everything I gift or make. In my free time, I like to bake, spend time with our family, friends, and my doggies, read my guilty pleasure celebrity gossip and catch up on TV shows.
While In Vegas
February 29th, 2008 @ 5:30 pm by Mrs. Cherry Blossom
The boys will be doing a whole lot of this. No seriously.
Mr. CB and 15 other boys are currently at the airport, on their way to Vegas baby! As much as I think it’s hilarious to picture them doing the above. It ain’t happening. It’s going to be more along the lines of this:
What you going to do? I can’t say I’m super cool about it but I know it’s part of it and inevitable. I’m not the type that will ask him not to go nor do I think it’s something I feel I need to stop him from doing. It’s his bachelor party, have fun … and just don’t grope. I’ve seen some nasty shiet happening at strip clubs, so personal experience wise, I just told him not to get “carried away” but otherwise enjoy and I’ll just talk to him when he gets back.
Because I appreciate everything that everyone does for us, I gave his BIL a bill to buy drinks for the boys. Yes, a bill won’t buy them all shots at the bars/clubs, but they will be hitting up the stores there to get a nice big bottle of grey goose on the chica - me a la surprise to Mr. CB. I contemplated getting him a lap dance on me too but I figure he’ll have more than enough of his share.
I did ask him, so what do you guys do when a few of you guys are getting lap dances and the rest are just sitting there? Ain’t it weird to see one of your friends with a silly grin on their face, a girl on their lap, and y’all just looking over? Whatevers. It’s their thing. hahaha.
Did you gals get the dudes anything as a surprise on their bachelor party to pump up their spirits?
25 Responses to “While In Vegas”
That actually never occured to me– am I thoughtless fiancee?
Now that you mention it, I’m going to slip his best friend some money for an extra bottle and maybe a lap dance if he’s good 
If my fiance is good that is, not the best friend.
lol…you know, i never thought of that until now. what DO boys do while they’re waiting?!
lol. i’m too far out, but i would do something like this.
i dont 100% approve, but i dont feel threatened. not sure if my FI will be having the traditional bach party or not.
My sister is on her way to Vegas tonight for her girlfriend’s bachelorette. I’ll tell her to keep an ear open for the guy bragging about how cool his fiance is for buying a round.
I’m buying my FH a lapdance! Maybe a bottle of scotch as well.
I’ve known way to many strippers and exotic dancers to know that the majority of women in the industry are working to pay bills, or take care of kids - just like my job but I keep my clothes on…so I’m not worried at all…
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I’m not down on the stripper thing for many reasons… one of which because, as someone said above, the women are plying their trade (so to speak) to “pay bills or take care of kids.” The gender relations and implications bother me.
I do, however, think it’s super cool that you treated the boys to a bottle. Go you.
I think the whole first paragraph of your blog entry is totally pathetic. Also, I think you are pretending to be cooler with it than you are. How about you learn to put your foot down and get some backbone? It’s 2008, you don’t have to give in to the status quo like a 50s housewife.
cheryl needs to calm down.
damn cheryl take a chill pill. haven’t you ever heard, the more you forbid them, the more they’ll want to do it. it’s called TRUST, and that’s what a lot of the ladies here have. if the blog really bothers you, simply use the “scroll” button on your mouse and move along.
Cheryl does make an important point: the tone of the first paragraph is very uncomfortable and defeatist (”I know it’s part of it and inevitable”).
It also perpetuates the “your finance paying money to ogle other women is part of getting married” myth.
Different strokes for different folks. My significant other asked me today if I’d feel uncomfortable with him going to a bachelor party tomorrow night. I was honest and said yes. I admit I am insecure and just wouldn’t like the thought of him oogling other women.(we had trust issues in the past) I also am old fashion I guess and aren’t really into guys that are into those activities. And he knows that. He’s not even close to these guys so it was his way of “initiation”. He felt that if he didn’t go then they would call him a “pu**y” etc etc. And say “Oh just because his gf didn’t let him go, he isn’t going. Lets not invite him anywhere again.” I asked him to decide. He either works on this relationship. Or the relationship with these guys…that honestly, do not respect their own gf’s/wives. I also said if he wants to see a show. he can get one tomorrow night…for free ;). lets just say..we worked it out.
I sorta have to agree with questioning the “inevitable” statement. There’s a weird connotation behind that statement, but wouldn’t say it’s “pathetic”. Be comfortable or don’t be comfortable, be upset or throw in a few 1’s for the group, but I don’t really see how boys going to a strip club for a bachelor party is actually “inevitable” in the sense that it sounds like you’ve been dreading it for months. It’s not the only thing to do in the great wide world.
Don’t you watch a TV and say to your honey “holy cow that actor [fill in the blank] is HOT HOT HOT!”?? It’s not because you don’t think your honey is hot, or because you’d actually want to do naughty things with the men on the screen… we have reactions to the opposite sex. But that doesn’t mean that it’s threatening your relationship. That doesn’t mean they wouldn’t RATHER see you walking around the house in something skimpy. but clearly they can’t bring the whole party to your house to watch you strip - that wouldn’t be right. So they go to the strip club for this bachelor party and maybe one or 2 a year as the other guys have their parties… It might be a different argument if it was his favorite place to go every Tuesday and Thursday. That’s excessive.
More nerve wracking would be if the party just went to a dance club… There’s no touching in strip clubs… at dance clubs there are girls just wanting to flirt, dance, open to touching and smooching. Do I trust fiance? yes. Do I trust those dance club girls? not really.
my 2 cents
Apparently in CB’s situation it WAS inevitable. Be it a tradition/ritual amongst friends or whatever it may be. Props to CB for making the best of the situation and showing her FI that she has 100% trust in him!
Thanks for all the honest opinions ladies! It is unfortunate that a poor choice of a few words can completely changed the impression of what I was trying to say and even in one word can be broken down into so many different views.
I feel that trying to defend the words now won’t matter because the damage has been done. But if you want to know …
In all honesty if you want the truth. Do I care? No. Am I uncomfortable with it? No. Why? Because I completely trust him. This isn’t his first bachelor party that he’s attended with strippers and won’t be the last, only difference now is that he will be the focus.
The personal experience I mentioned is the fact that I once went to a strip club with friends for a bachelorette party at OG and came across a bachelor party, literally the 1.5 hours we were there, there were 2 strippers glued to this thighs, grinding right on his clothes, and his two hands were planted on their boobies and straight groping it. I know you can pay to touch but wow, that totally caught me off guard. That was the only no-no for me. It was a complete turn off to see that. I find nothing with strippers because I have gone with Mr. CB and have personally picked out a hot stripper for him and oogled at their flawless skin from head to toe.
Miss Cherry Blossom,
I feel you. My fiance is currently on a road trip Bachelor Party weekend down in Orlando,FL.
While the first part of his bachelor party is pretty unorthodox, a behind the scenes tour of NASA during the day today, tonight the typical bachelor party stuff will occur.
I trust him not to do anything so vulgar as engage in grouping and the like. Still, I am quite content to not see the pictures from this trip.
I let him borrow my Nintendo DS for the trip down and up so he could Wifi play with the other members of his Bachelor party. But as for official gifts or tokens, I didn’t even think about it.
I think I should preface what I’m about to say with that I’m not directing this at Miss CB or any of the previous commenters, but just making this statement for myself:
I think it’s okay for women (and men, because girls go to strip clubs too!) to be uncomfortable with their SOs going to strip clubs, not because they are insecure about their relationship, or because of peer pressure, or whatever, but because they think that it’s degrading and wrong. And I think it’s okay for those who feel that way to say it if they want to.
Miss Cherry Blossom, thanks for being so honest and open! That’s what weddingbee is all about
I love weddingbee and all the advice and wedding love I’ve found here, but I have to say that the negativity and meanness in some of these comment blew me out of the water! It’s always ok to disagree with someone but to attack them is uncalled for. Let’s all remember why we are on this site in the first place!
Holy Chill Pill Batman, did it ever occur to any of you that your Fiance might want to do things in life that you may not 100% approve of, but at the same time, you respect, nay, embrace his right to do things once in a while that are out of your comfort zone? Unless your husband makes a habit of visiting strip clubs ALL THE TIME i dont think its wrong of any woman to feel a little down that bachelor parties include strip clubs, but at the same time, embrace the fact that boys will do it anyway. By sending some drinks her FI’s way, she not only proves that she’s making the commitment to COMPROMISE once in a while in her relationship, but also doing something really nice for her FI and friends.
If my FI wanted to go to a strip club ONE TIME in his life, SO WHAT. Even if you dont agree with it, clearly they want to do it this one little time, so why stress yourself out? I think every relationship is a give and take.
I know for a fact that Miss CB is not PRETENDING to be cool with it, she’s clearly uncomfortable but turning lemons into lemonade. Shes not going to sit around and pity herself while the boys are out at their bachelor party, nor is she going to stamp her foot like a princess and say that they cant go do what they want to do.
I’m going to admit that I’m uncomfortable with the idea of strippers. Can I prevent my fiance from having them at his bachelor party? Maybe, maybe not. Plus like others have said, I think I would be more worried about the girls in the clubs and bars.
In any case, for those of you who disagree with CB, that’s totally cool cause everyone is entitled to their opinion. But I would urge you to voice your opinions in a respectful manner. CB’s post wasn’t aimed at anyone personally so its quite unfair for anyone to comment with a personal attack.
To answer the original question…I’m taking boudoir photos to give him as a gift on our wedding day…I’m going to pack one in a manila envelope (labled: CONFIDENTIAL…For FI’S EYES ONLY!!!) to give him a sneak peak of what’s to come. Knowing that he has a hot little FI waiting for him at home will hopefully deter him from accepting all those lapdances 
This is a very interesting topic. My FI and I have decided to give some parameters to the friends who are planning of our bachelor/bachelorette parties. Although I trust my FI 100%, and he trusts me, we just feel that our wedding is about our relationship, not about other naked people. I know that both of our parties would be as naughty as possible knowing our friends. We just want our S.O. to know that even on our “last night of freedom”, we still are thinking about the one we love and respecting them.
I’ve read some articles about marriages that have been ruined by bachelor parties that have gone out of hand. It is certainly fair to be wary of them. I think that as long as the bride and groom feel respected by the other, even if strippers are involved, then its okay.
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