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I’ve always thought of myself as Ms. since sometime in high school. Miss makes me think of a younger girl or teenager, but not an adult. I’ve been married a year now (today!) but I still think of myself as a Ms. vs. a Mrs.

I’m so torn on this! My story is complicated by the fact that I’ll actually become “Dr” about 2 months before I become “Mrs”… I still want the minister to announce us as Mr and Mrs, but that might be the only time I really use the title. Too bad, because I always joke to my fiance (after a 7 year relationship) that I worked harder for the “Mrs” than I did for the “Dr”!

This is probably a southern thing, but when I grew up in Alabama, we all called our childhood friends’ mothers “Miss Firstname” - aka “Miss Joanne”, “Miss Mary Lynn”, even though all of the moms were married. And this wasn’t the old south - I’m only 25. This is how we were introduced to them and I have a feeling the “miss”, instead of “mrs” or “ms”, was probably used to make them feel younger (I remember even calling an 85 yr old woman “Miss Louise”!). So, even though it goes against all rationale (and I wouldn’t use it in a business setting), you can just claim you’re southern and keep calling yourself a “miss”:)

I’m always “Ms” when it has anything to do with work. When it’s something personal, I was always a “Miss” until I was married.

I don’t use Ms. because I’m trying to conceal my marital status, I’m a Ms. because I’m married yet kept my own name.

I am definitely a Ms., and I fit your above description well. I could care less about becoming a Mrs. in comparison to becoming a Dr. But then again, I am not sappy or sentimental or traditional, I don’t want to change my last name, and I’d probably just go by Ms. anyways as opposed to Mrs. My fiance will be Dr. exactly one week before the wedding, but I’ll still have a couple years left, so I’m afraid people will start calling me Mrs. and just continue to do so even after I am Dr!

To add to my comment above, I did change my last name, but I still prefer Ms.

I still consider myself a Miss, and I’ll be turning 30 next year. For some reason, the only thing that comes to mind when I hear Ms is woman who are divorced. I just never identified with Ms. It’s going to be very weird to be called Mrs now. I’ve got a car, a career and a mortgage, but hearing “Mrs” makes me feel old

That’s so funny–I totally identify with being a “Miss” as well! For some reason, I’ve always felt special when I’m addressed as Miss, and in the last several years have taken to calling most of my girlfriends Miss at one time or another. Now many of them are married–and it’s so hard for me to drop the “Miss”!

I’m in favor of the idea/grammatical use of “Ms.” but … (I’m planning on keeping my last name, so becoming Mrs. My Last Name is a little funky) there definitely are funny little connotations that come from Miss vs. Ms vs. Mrs–great observation!

Like a lot of other people on here, I’ve always been a “Ms” and will continue to be a “Ms” for a darn long time, precisely because it is no one’s business what my marital status is, and it has always pissed me off that men have no tell tale title that gives away their marital status.

I won’t even be announced as a “Mrs” on our wedding day - I’m 99% likely to be keeping my own name (barring some awesome idea between us to come up with a completely new name), so when we’re announced we will be “For the first time as husband and wife (him) and (me)!”

I am a teacher so I think about it all the time. My 3rd graders seldomly call me Mrs but as soon as others hear, they immediately shout “She’s not married YET! Don’t call her Mrs!”

Several of my kids and former as well as future students have started to call me Mrs futurelastname already. They claim they are practicing. I keep telling them…”Hey slow down! I won’t be a Mrs for more than a year!”

They’re so cute:)

I was resolutely a Miss, too, though now I’m a Ms, except here, because I didn’t take my husband’s name, nor he mine. Kinda funny that at least part of the reason I didn’t change my name was that so I wouldn’t have to notify a dozen institutions of the name change, and then forgot about telling my bank I wasn’t a Miss anymore, and ended up with Miss on my new cheques. And the account is joint now and the cheques also incorrecly have only the first part of my husband’s two part given name on the cheques (the part that makes him indistinguishable from his sibs, if you know how Chinese names usually work.)