This weekend, Mr. Cupcake and I attended a Marriage Preparation Workshop at the church where we’ll be getting married. We didn’t really know what to expect, but we were pleasantly surprised by how much we enjoyed the day’s events.
After lunch with six other couples who are getting married at the church this year, our workshop began with Betsy, a professional marriage counselor/therapist. The day focused much less on religion than it did on marriage and the issues that newlyweds face. The four main topics were:
• communication
• spending habits and financial planning
• family of origin
• sexuality and intimacy
I found the communication topic to be most interesting. According to a handout that explained Dr. Gary Chapman’s “Five Love Languages,” the five ways we communicate in relationships are through:
Betsy had us rank our own love language priorities, as well as what we thought our significant other’s priorities would be. For myself, my priorities are:
For Mr. Cupcake, I thought his priorities would be:
When we compared our lists, I was totally surprised to find out that our “love language” priorities are actually exactly the same. It was refreshing to hear that spending quality time together is his favorite thing, too, over “Acts of Service” (how un-romantic is that?) which finished last for both of us. It looks like we’re made for each other, after all!
What are your “love language” priorities with your Mister? Do you think/know if his are the same, or very different? If different, how do you make it work?
i’ve actually pruchased Dr. Gary’s book and have went thru it….but my FI hasn’t yet bc we are still working on another book together.
at the end there is an assessment to help those who are not clear about what their love language is.
i took it once. twice. three times. and was startled that each time i ranked the exact same.
i appear to be tri-lingual with Quality time/Acts of Service/ and Physical Touch each scoring the same exact amount.
every.single.time.
not sure how easy or difficult this makes it for my FH to love me, but we are working thru it. i have learned to be more vocal with my needs and better understand his. which is Quality time.
btw: Great book if you want to get more into those 5 love languages.
glad to hear your premarital counseling went great!