Weddingbee

Your post totally hit home! I love my mom dearly and I know she criticizes me because she doesn’t know any better but sometimes it just hurts…

I still haven’t decided if I’m going to take her to my first fitting. The thing is she used to be a seamstress and her knowledge would come in handy.

Great post. I am agonising over this at the moment. I’ve only been dress shopping once, with my mum and my little sister. I promised my big sister she could come the second time. But now I don’t want her to! She is very opinionated and thinks she knows what suits me best but her sense of style is… erm… weird! Any advice, bees?

I totally hear you Miss Penguin. Though my mom (and the rest of my family) has let up a lot since I told her that constant reminders that people are fat or not in YOUR ideal may give them psychological problems or start stuff like anorexia and bulimia. But surprisingly, my mom has been super supportive about all my wedding items and especially my dress.

my mom, who is not a little lady herself, is my harshest critic. in fact, we’re fighting over this little detail right now. she’s very opionated and even picks on celebrities who fluctuate a pound or two.

i’ve been sick the past few years and have been unable to maintain my weight. so wedding dress shopping was a horror for me. i only went to one shop - david’s bridal. it was my first time wedding dress shopping. i took my mom. she cried the whole time i was trying on dresses, and not because i was getting married, but because i just didn’t look good in them.

i eventually had my dress made for me by a local seamstress. a HUGE disappoinment. i loved our wedding but hated my dress. our wedding was the one time i had an excuse to wear that big, white dress and i passed on the opportunity.

so don’t let your mom bother you, or talk you out of a dream dress. you’ll definitely regret it in the end. if she’s not your support, find a great girlfriend, or go solo. it’s your day - enjoy it!!

Oh yes! my Mum is driving me mad at the moment. When we went wedding dress shopping together she put me off my favourite dress by telling me how it showed off my ‘bony chest’ and I ended up with a dress that covers my chest altogether! She also hates weddings and thinks they’re a waste of money has made a point of telling me this about once a fortnight for the last year. Leaving them out of it is the best idea!

My mom is my worst critic also. She was with me during both my dress shopping trips and laughed hysterically whenever a dress could not quite glide down my lady lumps. It got old fast. When I decided on a custom gown she was there also

Aw, I totally know what you mean. My mom is always brutally honest w/ me as well.

Sadly, my mother is also very critical of me….though I am somewhat glad to see there are others? We actually got in a huge (me, hysterical) fight recently…..I vented on all my frustrations that have to do with the way she treats me….I mean, I have her body! Somehow she must think I would miraculously get the shape of a victoria’s secret model or something…..I mean, I know much of it is my fault and there is absolutely many things I could do about - but wha happened to “a mother’s love is unconditional”, or simply the fact that your mother should be the last person to ever insult you??? For some reason I still make her come with me though - secretly I do want the brutally honest opinion I think ; )

I know I’m a little late on this one, but I appreciate the post. Would like to hear if you decide at some point you talk to your parents about not wanting ‘constructive criticism’ in the stressful days right before the wedding.