Mrs. Gingerbread, Vancouver
Age and Occupation: 32, Psychologist
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Software Engineer
Engagement Date: Sometime in the fall of 2004
Wedding Date: July, 2008
Blogging Since: March 24, 2008
Venue: Rainforest wedding, beachfront restaurant reception
About Me: I recently moved to Canada from Southern California. Trying to plan a wedding in a new city, not to mention a new country, is tough, but the fact that we can get legally married here more than makes up for it! The wedding will be an opportunity for most of our family and friends to see our new city for the first time so it will be both a wedding and a reunion. Besides my future wife, I am also madly in love with a good bargain, Swedish pastries, Tivo, and my two dogs and calico cat (in no particular order).
Meet Miss Gingerbread… and Miss Gingerbread
March 24th, 2008 @ 4:30 pm by Mrs. Gingerbread
Hello, Weddingbee readers! I’m Miss Gingerbread and I am so excited to be a new Weddingbee blogger.
Wedding planning has been especially tricky since the Gingerbreads just moved to Vancouver, BC from Southern California 6 months ago. I’ll admit that I relied heavily on Google as I tried to find our venues and vendors. Coming from the land of eternal sunshine, we were really challenged to use our imaginations, as we often found ourselves staring out the windows of one restaurant or another trying to imagine what it would look like in the summer, minus the snow and the dark.
An additional challenge is that we are a same-sex couple. Again, we had to tap our imaginations as we read books and magazines that kept referencing the role of the groom.
Miss Gingerbread (me) and Miss Gingerbread (her). Hmm, this is going to be confusing.
On a somewhat related note, I’m scratching my head about what to call my future spouse when I refer to her in my posts here on Weddingbee. The bees that have come before me have all referred to theirs as Mr. Whatevertheirnicknameis. Calling her Miss Gingerbread will probably just get confusing as many of you will wonder why I am sometimes referring to myself in the third person. I suppose I could call her The Other Miss Gingerbread or T.O.M. Gingerbread, for short. Any other ideas?
I did a little research on Weddingbee and came across a post from a year ago that referenced same-sex marriage. At that time, 19% of Weddingbee readers were against same-sex marriage, but since I am a glass half full kind of girl, I’d like to focus on the fact that the majority of Weddingbee readers are for it. I’m looking forward to sharing my ideas and perspectives with you. Thanks for having me.
125 Responses to “Meet Miss Gingerbread… and Miss Gingerbread”
So glad you’re here! I hope the nay-sayers don’t give you too much grief. Maybe you can refer to your fiancee as DF Gingerbread?
yay! welcome! it will be nice to have even more variety in the hive 
i will be interested in hearing your perspective- i am a girl marrying a boy, but we have a few gay friends in our wedding party. as we are getting married in a state that prohibits gay marriage, i don’t want to alienate those friends, and i don’t want our marriage to be construed as an act of support of current exclusive marriage laws.
Lovely to meet you Miss Gingerbread (x2)!
Welcome, Miss Gingerbread! I look forward to reading your posts!
Welcome!
My sister is thinking about getting as married as she can in Idaho (being backwards here) I’ll be interested to watch how you guys manage
I’m happy to be reading!
Very excited to have the opportunity to learn about wedding planning in a somewhat-whole-different ballpark! Welcome to the hive!
How about Miss Gingerbread 2? One of my favorite shows is the L-Word and one of the couples Tina and Bette decide to have a baby. They refer to each other as Momma T and Momma B… but there is only one Gingerbread moniker! Oy! Regardless, I’m excited to hear about your plans!
Welcome Miss Gingerbread! Perhaps call her Gingerbread 2.0 since she is a developer? (Uh oh, I just showed my geeky dev side didn’t I?)
I for one, am thrilled to have a bit of diversity here in the hive and look forward to reading about your journeys together.
Welcome! (And I love your optimistic attitude!)
So glad you’re here! I can’t believe we haven’t had a same-sex bride before! Congratulations on finally getting down to the wedding planning!!
You could call her Miss Ginger…we already did ‘veggies’ and ginger was never an option, so I am sure no one would mind.
That or ‘queen of everything’…oh wait…that is MY title.
sorry.
PS - I truly hope that 19% figure has come down, if not disappeared…I, for one, am so glad you are blogging with us.
Welcome. I’m very excited to hear your plans. I too am a glass half full person and am glad to be a reader of yours.
welcome to the hive! can’t wait to hear more about your upcoming wedding!!!
I second Mrs Corn’s PS, welcome aboard
welcome to the hive Miss Gingerbread! I second the DF Gingerbread idea. I think it’s adorable.
Kinda of reminds me of when i text my fiance our silly “secret” message: LOML….love of my life!
glad to have the new gingerbreads aboard! welcome to the hive - i’m looking to hear more about your adventures. best of luck with the wedding planning!
I am glad to see a same sex couple on the boards! Another friend of mine had similar issues when planning her wedding; I’ll be sure to send her a link to your post:) I also like DF Gingerbread. V. cute!
How about “Mlle. Gingerbread” or “Srta. Gingerbread”, if you speak French or Spanish?
What about Miss Gingerbread and Ms Gingerbread?
Hmmm…what about DP Gingerbread (DP=Dear Partner)?
oh i like tanya2’s idea of Mlle Gingerbread-or Senorita. So cute! Or “the baker’ - ok, maybe “the baker” is too weird.
WELCOME!
I’m so glad to have you and hope you’ll be adding some new and interesting questions for us to give advice for. Don’t worry about the 19%, they can have their opinion, but there’s plenty of us who are supportive of yours.
Have as much fun as you can during the wedding planning process!
Welcome! I’m glad to see a same-sex couple here.
I’m so excited to see a same-sex couple on here. It’s not something most of the wedding mag/sites cover.
How about referring to her as your “W2B Gingerbread”(Wife 2 be) , or just “2B”? Welcome to the hive. I can’t wait to find out more about your wedding.
Welcome to weddingbee. So happy to have another Canadian bee. I am 200% for same sex marriages.
As for the name… I think Giingerbread (see the double I that could be stand for 2 ) 
Welcome to the hive! I’m looking forward to your posts. I’m intrigued by your “rainforest wedding.”
Oh, I kinda love Cupcake’s recommendation of Miss Gingersnap! And welcome to the hive - I can’t wait to read all about your wedding!
Strongly in the 81% here. And what about calling the other Miss Gingerbread Miss G2? Or Miss GB2?
Welcome welcome! And as a Canadian (and Vancouverite!) a second welcome! I hope you are enjoying this city .. despite the rain. I promise its very very gorgeous in the summer! 
How about “Fiance Gingerbread” (and later “Wife Gingerbread”)?
Happy to have you join the hive.
ooh, where was that picture taken? it reminds me of alaska.
how about FW (future wife) gingerbread?
also, you guys are freaking adorable. <3
Welcome!!
How about Future Gingerbread or Ms. Gingerbread
what about miss gingy? like from shrek? if you think that’s completely lame, it’s cool. i won’t be hurt. lol
I’m very excited to read about your planning and looking forward to how you might break the mold here! My cousin and his partner are getting married in September and I know they are looking forward to making the day their own, regardless of what Martha or Bride Mag has to say about it!
I haven’t been soo excited about a new bee in a long time (no offense other bees)! We are glad you are here! Welcome Welcome!
Welcome! I like Miss Gingersnap, or simply Miss Ginger, or Miss Snap…You could be Miss Bread and FI could be Miss Snap and after you get married you’d be Mrs and Mrs Gingersnapbread. Brainstorming is making me hungry! Can’t wait for your posts! Welcome!
welcome gingerbreads! i can’t wait to read through your wedding adventures!
being a canadian citizen, born and raised… i am so proud of our country’s respect for all couples.
i wish you the best of luck in the coming months!
It’s about time! Welcome to the hive!! I’m all about acronyms, how about DFGB?
I think Miss Ginger or Miss Gingersnap would both work. Senorita Gingerbread is also a cute idea.
I’m also so glad to have you in the hive. Your wedding sounds like it’s gonna be awesome from the description. I’m sure same-sex and traditional brides alike will get great ideas from your wedding. I can’t wait to hear more!
On a side note, I really hope that someday the US will follow Canada (along with the Netherlands, Belgium, and Spain) in allowing ALL people who love each other to marry. It’s just silly not to.
Welcome! How about Miss Shortbread (she looks a little shorter then you in the pic!)
I am so excited that you have joined weddingbee!! I’m glad that their is a same-sex couple representin’ I look forward to hear about all your plans.
I am also completely for equal rights for same-sex couples! I have two good friends in New Mexico (twin girls) who are both in relationships with committed partners and have adopted children. They are wonderful, loving couples and fantastic parents. I attended both commitment ceremonies, which were absolutely beautiful. I am really excited to hear all about the plans for your wedding!
Welcome to hive! I think DF Gingerbread sounds cute
I love the name Mrs. Gingerbread 2.0! Instead of your better half, you can call her your better version!
yay! welcome! it’s nice to see a same sex couple on here! can’t wait to see what you ladies have planned!
I’m really glad that Weddingbee is a place that people of many different backgrounds and belief systems can get together and share their ideas. Who would ever want to read a blog where the contributors were all planning the exact same wedding?
Gingerbreads, welcome to the hive!
I’m also in the 81% group. Looking forward to your posts. I’m sure there are other same sex couples that will be glad to have your posts to refer to for getting ideas for their own wedding! I don’t have any clever or cuter suggestions for what to call your fiance. I kind of like post #30 W2B Gingerbread and Miss Lovebugs suggestions of Miss G2 or GB2.
Just echoing everyone’s support and excitement about having a same-sex couple share their wedding planning trials and tribulations! We are excited to have you as the newest bee in the hive!
Big welcome to the GBs! I like Miss Gingersnap, Miss G2, FI/DF/DP Gingerbread, and Gingerbread 2.0. I’m sure you’ll pick a good moniker for her. Looking forward to reading your posts!
yay! welcome welcome. i’m excited to read your posts!
Welcome aboard! Perhaps it’s time for a new poll? I think something short and sweet will be easiest to use during your blogging - BH for better half, FW for future wife, or for the combo look - SheFi (hmm, I take that back…)
Wow, I am overwhelmed by all the warm welcomes! Thank you!!! I am loving all the suggestions of names for my wife-to-be. Keep ‘em coming!
So happy to have you aboard with us gals here at Weddingbee! It is always nice to see a new face in the hive, but it’s supercool to have our first same sex couple in the ranks.
I hope we make you and your missus feel welcome here.
I am very glad you are here - welcome to the hive. I am also supportive of same-sex marriage - so I hope that you feel welcomed by all of us here! I like the Future Wife (FW) Gingerbread or Gingersnap ideas for your partner. My FI calls me wife of the future sometimes or wifey which are pretty cute too
Welcome!!! i call the fiance future hubby all the time, or almost hubby.
Miss Gingersnap is cute!
Welcome! Another 81%er here! I toss my vote in for Ms. Gingersnap. It’s cute and sassy!
welcome to the hive!! i can’t wait to read more about your planning…i hope there are many more same sex couples to come! and i also vote for ms. gingersnap…it’s pretty darn adorable.
i think Miss Gingersnap is my favorite. but then…i’m partial to W2B since thats what FI calls me.
sooo happy you’re here! so happy to have a little different perspective. Wishing you well, and looking forward to your posts!
i believe you are already proving to be a quite popular bee, lol!
welcome =) i appreciate your help in expanding my definition of what marriage entails.
i think gingerbread 2.0 is quite nice. but then again, that’s about as far as i saw in the comments (i’m in a rush this evening).
Glad to you have the Gingerbreads here!!! What about Miss Gingerbread and Miz Gingerbread
Welcome! My BFF lives in Vancouver - I love hearing about it and I can’t wait to see what you ladies are planning. Especially about the rainforest!
OK, I think FW Gingerbread or DF Gingerbread or Gingerbread 2.0 are all cool.
Also, I think “wife of the future” sounds awesomely sci-fi somehow.
I also vote for Miss Gingersnap! And welcome…can’t wait to hear all about your plans!!!!
Welcome!!! I’m going to throw a new name out there - how about Miss Shortbread? It looks like your FI is shorter then you in your picture and its a play on the cookie theme (unless of course there will be a shortbread bee… then im out of ideas :P)
Welcome! I’m looking forward to hearing about your relationship and plans. What a great forum to show that weddings don’t have to be “*cookie cutter*” - all you need is love! (yes, I just sang that a la Moulin Rouge as I typed.) I always make supershort nicknames so “Gin” popped to mind. But all the ideas are clever. I’m sure I will enjoy your posts!
Congratulations! I think you’re a great addition to the hive!
Welcome to the hive!! If anybody gives you a hard time, let me know and I’ll take them down. But on a way more serious note, now I want gingerbread, damn you power of suggestion.
I think it’s awesome that you’re here
congrats and welcome!! i think miss gingersnap would be adorable, and that way you don’t have to pick who’s a miss and who’s a ms. or something else arbitrary like that.
Hooray!!!!
So excited you are a featured blogger. I look forward to hearing about your plans. Love Vancouver BC, if I didn’t live in San Francisco, Vancouver would be my next choice (well, between that and the French Quarter in NOLA).
woot! woot! (hands in the air ya’ll)
Welcome welcome! My vote if for Gingerbread 2.0 or GB2.0. Remember you’ll have to type it every time you post about her (that’s one of the reason’s I picked Onion — less to type)!
welcome miss gingerbread and other miss gingerbread so excited to have you here to share with us your wonderful wedding adventures!
welcome!! im so looking forward to reading your posts! its always interesting being the first doing anything- you’re paving the way for more same sex weddings on weddingbee!
Yay! So glad you’re here! I can’t believe the 19% figure, I hope those ignoramuses go the way of the dinosaurs.
hey! i’m so excited to read all the exciting adventures you’ll have planning your wedding. i’m sure it’ll be fantastic! what a wonderful addition to the hive! i’m glad to see a fresh, new perspective on here
welcome welcome welcome ms. gingerbread! i’m so excited you’re here!
with all the difficulty you’ve had finding ideas i thought i’d let you know that the snippetandink blog (http://snippetandink.blogspot.com) just showcased a same-sex couple’s wedding. The photos are beautiful…
i know it inspired me!
I’m excited to learn more about your rainforest theme!
LB, I just made my first inspiration board a few days ago and I snagged a couple of the pictures from that snippetandink wedding that you mentioned! That was a gorgeous wedding!!!
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Welcome to weddingbee. I vote for GB2B.
Hi there! I am an old married by now but I just want to say that I am so excited that you have joined weddingbee. I think it is important that this perspective be shared on sites like this. It angers me that same sex couples can’t legally marry in the states, so I am thrilled that you are going to be taking the vows which were so meaningful to me and my husband. I look forward to your posts.
GB2.0 all the way! I know the lady would love
i’m so jealous i have to share you with the rest o’ the blogosphere now to talk shop. don’t forget, i need my weekly updates!
i really don’t think it’s fair to be calling that 19% “ignoramuses”. everyone has their own opinion. this is a great chance to try and sway 19% (or less) of the hive population.
we can all play nice, right?
I agree with kaymarie — the 19% are people too, and I don’t think it’s very “diverse” to wish them to “go the way of the dinosaurs” (eggplant girl) or “disappear” (Mrs. Corn). In fact, I’m very disappointed that a WB blogger would publicly wish for almost a fifth of WB’s readership to go away. That, I think, is just as bigoted as if someone said that Miss Gingerbread should not blog here.
eggplant girl — it’s 19%. get over it. it’s not like that’s the opinion of the majority of the blog readers. to be perfectly honest, i’d have to say that i vote with that 19%, but i don’t consider weddingbee to be my outlet for my stand for male/female only marriages. isn’t this place supposed to be in support of relationships regardless of their composition? at least, that’s how i’ve always viewed weddingbee, as a great resource for ideas and a place to be excited for others as they prepare to celebrate their lives with the one they’ve chosen to love. “ignoramus”, frankly, just isn’t fair. especially when, again, we’re looking at 19% of the readership. small number, don’t you think?
…Just doing a little Happy! Happy! Joy! Joy! dance for Miss Gingerbread and the Future Missus. My FMIL has been with her partner for almost 20 years, and the FHubby and I have several gay friends and family members and are *very proud* supporters of the LGBT community. I am so happy to find such a diverse site that is tolerant of all views. Good Luck in your planning, Have Fun, and Be Well!
I’m excited to see that so many people are supportive of Miss Gingerbread and her upcoming marriage!
That said, I realize that gay marriage is a controversial issue. I personally support same sex marriage, but I understand that some people feel that it is a religious issue.
Regardless of what you feel about same sex marriage, I hope that if the subject comes up… we can all discuss the issues while treating each other with respect and courtesy.
Thanks,
Mrs. Bee
Welcome Miss Gingerbread!
I would like to also say that I think it is unfair to chastise those of us who do not agree with homosexuality. We all have our various religious beliefs and we are all entitled to our opinions. This does not mean that I am rude or disrespectful to anyone. Nor does it mean I tell someone how to live their life. If you are a Christian, as I am, then you should love everyone. So welcome Miss Gingerbread. I think you should call her Gingy…sorry I have a thing for Shrek.
hey there! I think it’s great you’ve joined the hive. Friends of mine were actually the first same sex couple to get married in Manitoba, and my Dad did the ceremony. Oh and I would like to point out that not all Christians disagree with homosexuality. This particular service was held in a United Church and one of those getting married was a minister! I just warn against seeing Christians as only have one belief.
Miss Gingersnap for sure!
Congrats!!!
I believe that you should be Miss Ginger and she should be Miss Bread so that when you marry you will be the Gingerbreads.
Welcome! I’m so excited to read about your wedding planning!
And to Grace: I’m appalled that you think it’s acceptable for 19% of readers not to approve of same-sex marriage. Would you feel the same way if 19% of readers didn’t approve of interracial marriages? Or interfaith marriages?
I’m *not* in that 19%; I’m glad to have you here, and I can’t wait to hear more about your wedding. Like E (#104) I am shocked that people think that 19% is okay. I don’t want those people to go away, I want them to be more accepting of the different kinds of love in the world.
Congrats to the Misses Gingerbread! It is so great to see you here. I vote for Miss Gingersnap as the alternate moniker.
welcome to the hive miss gingerbread!!!!!!!!!! so happy to have you here!
So excited to see this new perspective!
And welcome to Vancouver! We may have tons of rain, but it’s a beautiful place! And there are many great vendors in this area!
E and Go Amie, what about those on the hive that are “appalled” that 81% of those here agree with same-sex marriage?
i’m not taking a stance on this either way but i’m dissapointed that only the majority opinion seems to matter much in this instance. for all sorts of reasons (including religious but extending as far as personal experiences and cultural reasons) people disagree with unions like miss gingerbread’s impending marriage- as well as “inter-racial and inter-faith”.
miss gingerbread, i wish you luck here on the hive! oh, and i change my vote to gingy (i have a weakness for pixar movies!). i love seeing vancouver brides on here as i’m only a few hundred miles south (michigan). you have to love the below-freezing weather at the end of march!
E & Go Amie– on a blog that gets as huge of a readership as weddingbee, how could it be possible that we have a view (doesn’t matter what is is) that’s supported by 100% of the readers? my main point was that i see weddingbee as a celebration of LOVE and COMMITMENT and not necessarily as a place that’s appropriate to try to alienate the 19% who happen to support same sex marriages.
that being said, however, i certainly don’t see myself in a position to dictate who can and cannont celebrate their relationship with a lifelong commitment. i’m thrilled that miss gingerbread and her fiancee are now part of the hive — their presence only further expands the base of those who can find weddingbee as an excellent wedding resource. we’re celebrating love here. isn’t that what it comes down to?
I’ll second Mrs Onion’s point about wanting something short that won;t give you carpal tunnel from typing it over and over! You could be Miss GB and she could be Lady GB or any of the cute acronyms suggested above.
And, while I believe that everyone is entitled to their opinion, I sure hope the US pulls its head out of its “starfish” soon.
Marriage is a LEGAL contract and brings many rights unrelated to religious beliefs. No one is trying to tell churches that they have to perform marriages that their teachings frown upon, but the government should not be preventing committed couples from entering a marriage contract. Separation of church and state, people.
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Welcome Miss Gingerbread! Cute photo. I like Ms and Miss too, and am so glad you’re sharing your upcoming plans with us. Welcome to Canada too..I hope that regardless of any numbers or statistics, that you are welcomed and met with warmth and respect everywhere you (two) go.
I change my vote to the suggestion made by #103 ettiene: Miss Ginger and Miss Bread = Miss Gingerbread. I like Gingy too. I’m no help.
I vote for Miss GB and Lady GB. Sounds very cute.
grace & kaymarie - I *never* proposed alienating those who hold a different view than my own. I never suggested they leave. I noted my shock that there were so many at weddingbee, because I would not have expected the fraction to be so high.
I expressed my hope that eventually those who don’t believe that same-sex couples deserve equal protection under the law will eventually come around. I would say this if 9% of weddingbee readers were against it, or 19%, or 90%, or 99%. It is not about the majority, it is about my wanting to express my position that same-sex couples deserve the same legal rights and societal acceptance granted to opposite-sex couples.
If anyone disagrees with me, that is his or her right - but I don’t see how it was inappropriate of me to express my support for tolerance and acceptance.
This has turned into more that what I had wanted it to be - I came to this post to congratulate the two Miss Gingerbreads. I hope that those who disagree with me can agree to disagree, and not further hijack this thread.
Welcome!
I don’t have any name suggestions but I’m really digging the above mentioned suggestions.
P.S. Sorry for all the ~dramaz~, Miss Gingerbread!
I still vote for Gingy. I saw a stuffed Gingy in the store and it was so cute I wanted to squish it.
Welcome Miss Gingerbread! You could just call her “Cookie” so that together you are Gingerbread Cookie…I’m sure someone has already said that though! So glad to see a gay couple represented here!! Hope your enjoying Canada!
Kaymarie- Vancouver is in British Columbia which is much more than a “few hundred miles” away from Michigan!! Michigan is closer to Ontario.
Just a quick geography lesson!
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way late to comment– but welcome, Miss Gingerbread! (and, of course, Miss Gingerbread too!)
Welcome!! I’m so glad to see WeddingBee including same-sex couples as well. I look forward to reading about your wedding planning and all of the details!
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