Mrs. Butterscotch, Seattle
Age and Occupation: 29, Advertising Sales Assistant
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, City Worker
Engagement Date: September 24, 2006
Wedding Date: August 11, 2007
Blogging Since: June 19, 2007
Venue: church ceremony and private club reception
About Me: I am marrying my high school sweetheart 11 years after high school ended! I am a self professed shoe fanatic with a closet full of shoes and only two feet. Planning a wedding has been my fun project since he surprised me with a proposal in Paris. We are spending our last few months preparing for our big day by wrapping up all the small things, buying a house and best of all preparing to live together for the first time.
Two Friends + Same Date = WAR!!!
April 1st, 2008 @ 2:40 pm by Mrs. Butterscotch
It seems like Hollywood has figured out what a money maker the topic of weddings are for film. One of the highly talked about movies among brides was this year’s 27 Dresses. Soon we’ll have Patrick “McDreamy” Dempsey starring in Made of Honor coming out in May.
Mrs. McButterscotch *wink 
I just found out two of my favorite actress, Anne Hathaway and Kate Hudson, will be staring in a movie tentatively titled Bride Wars opening in 2009.
*Picture from Getty Images
Whoa, such a harsh title! So I did a little investigating to find out what the movie was about. What do you know, it’s actually a topic that I’ve seen discussed on the boards. Two best friends get engaged and they set their wedding date on the same day!!! Sounds like a good movie!
Well ok, our readers don’t have quite that same problem but I know plenty of us, myself included, have selected our wedding dates, colors, venues, etc. so that they do not coincide with friends’ weddings.
Have you done anything differently for your wedding because of your friends’ weddings?
15 Responses to “Two Friends + Same Date = WAR!!!”
hey! I took that photo too! It’s on my husband’s blackberry! haha.
A close friend of mine got engaged after I did. After ooohing and awing over her ring, I asked when they planned to get married. First she simply said summer, but when I pressed her she said August (a month after mine). I congratulated her on making a good choice and not choosing July Our weddings aren’t similar, but I like to joke that she’s not allowed to use certain things-my invites, my colors, etc. She’s doing the same to her sister who’s getting married the following month!
McButtah, always the comedian!
When are you going to broadcast again (preferably when Patrick is walking around Casa Butterscotch in his boxers!)???
We waited to get married until summer 2009 because so many of our friends are getting married this summer. It will be a 21 month engagement, but it is worth it to have “dibs” on a few things:)
I may be using the exact same bridesmaids dresses as my friend who got married in 06! Although slightly different cut, but essentially the same? Is that awful? I’m down to the wire and am hating everything out there. Otherwise my wedding will have a very different look than her’s did…… ahh!
My friends have definately influenced decisions I’ve made about my wedding. Especially, timing — one of my b’maids prohibited me from planning my wedding the same SEASON as hers, in spite of the fact that they’d be in different cities and have different guest lists. She was nicer about it than I’m making it sound, but it definately left a sour taste in my mouth.
I used to really, really want to have a black and white wedding…and then the color scheme was all vogue…and then one of my friends used them as her colors for her wedding last summer. So now it’s definitely out! lol
Aaagh, my BEST FRIEND from childhood has set the same date as me and it made me really sad and angry at first. I really wanted her to come to my wedding and experience a place very special to us. We haven’t seen each other in a long time, and I was looking forward to attending her wedding too. But no dice! She’s getting married in Michigan, and me in Montana. I think we’re going to have to just do a little ceremonial tribute and chalk it up to serendipity!
We were engaged, set the date, booked the vendors, sent out the save the dates. All was well. Then we find out that formerly close (no big falling out, just lost touch) friends of his got engaged, and picked the same date as us, which we had set 9 months earlier.
It really doesn’t phase me since I don’t particularly care for them to begin with, and we weren’t going to invite them, but there is some overlap with mutual friends invited to both weddings. Oh well, all the friends are coming to OUR wedding because we sent out the save-the-dates before they were even engaged!
mrs. buttah i totally want to watch that movie too! i actually saw anne hathaway in vegas a few years ago and she was even more stunning in real life.
i would change my wedding date if it overlapped with any of my friends wedding dates. instead of fretting about it or worse, arguing about it, i’d just change the date to save myself the grief. it’s just so not worth it.
haha, love the picture buttah! and yes, our wedding will be different from my friends as much as humanely possible, which has always been my m.o.
i’m facing the same issue. myself and a friend who is going to be engaged soon both want september 2009 weddings. unfortunately, because of labor day and 9/11, the first two weeks are out. her date is the last week, and i wanted the third week, but im afraid they might be too close. we may be in each other’s bridal party, and we definitely will be sharing some bridesmaids.
when i asked some friends about this, they told me i should change my date. i know their date has special meaning to them, but my date has special meaning to me too. who should compromise?
it personally wouldn’t bother me to have dates that close together as i think we’re both low maintenance weddings, but i’m more concerned for our bridal party… sigh.
wedding planning has been a definate growing pain for me… i’m excited, but at the same time, i’ve never had to worry about other’s feelings and compromise as much as i have in my life!
my co-worker’s first dance and father daughter dance were the same as what i originally wanted. to my FI dismay, i have nixed the first dance song. even though it had special meaning to us, it somehow lost much of that seeing her dance with her husband to it.
Plus she sung the song to her husband while they danced! i can’t compete with that!
better to just leave it alone. i realize how ridiculous this is……i am ok with that.
Our friends are getting married on the Friday before our Saturday date. GAH!
My friend just set her date 3 weeks after mine (i was engaged first and she got the same ring as me) we are going to have the same bridal party. I am upset since i have had mine for months and she could have hers anytime she is related to the owner of the venue and he told her she can have any day…..when i expressed my concern(which is planning purpose since we are both live in different states and will need to travel, me in TX and her in OK) she flipped out and started to call me names, selfish etc…. Am i really that bad of a person for bringing this up to her….
