Are You Excited?!?

With less then five months until the wedding, almost everyone I speak to about the wedding inevitably asks, “Are you so excited for the wedding?”

Well, to be honest, not yet. I mean, there are moments where I just can’t wait for it to get here, but, for the most part, I’m too worried about finding those table number holders, finishing the design of our invites (or, truthfully, starting them), getting the jiggles on my body to tighten up, finding that second dress, worrying over the little details that most people won’t even notice, etc.

And, to top it all off, when I think of the wedding, my first, true thought is, “Holy crap, how am I going to walk down that LONG aisle in front of all of those people?” Followed by, “Holy crap, I hope I have time for a glass of champagne (or two) before I have to dance in front of all of those people!”

Don’t get me wrong, with all of the hard work that has gone into planning, I’m so excited to see how everything turns out. Most importantly, I’m so excited for the wedding to be over, for Mr. H and I to be man and wife, and to finally be our own little family, same last names at all.

I just hate to disappoint people when I answer, “Well, not really yet. I’m ready for it to be over.” They give me this look of horror, like, how dare I say something like that about my wedding? I’m just being honest.

But try me after my bridal portraits next week, when I’ve been made-up, worn the dress and veil, and carried a bouquet around. Then, just then, the excitement might really hit me.

Were you all excited from day one? Did it come and go as planning commenced?


Mrs. Hydrangea

Wedding Date:
September 2008
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    Ally, Guest @ 4:19 pm

    I get those same looks too! I feel like a leper when I say that I’m not really excited for the wedding (which is at the end of October), because I still have so many things to do. I don’t want it to be over, but I do wish that I could be less stressed about everything. :o) I can commiserate!

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    Julieulie, Guest @ 4:21 pm

    Don’t worry, I’m getting married in 3 WEEKS and I’m still not excited yet. :) Every time I think “maybe when I go for my dress fitting I’ll get excited” or “maybe when I pick up my ketubah” or “maybe at the shower” or “maybe at the bachelorette party” but it just hasn’t happened yet. I’m okay with it though — it will probably hit me as I’m trying to fall asleep the night before, and then I will be SUPER excited!
    Either that, or my mother was right all along that I’m cruel, unloving, and have a lump of coal instead of a heart (I believe “coldhearted bitch” is the term she uses most often).

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    Trebuchet, Guest @ 4:32 pm

    We’re totally in the same boat. I’m looking forward to the marriage, but the wedding is just too much stress. I thought I was alone in this, thanks for posting this!!

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    Natalie, Guest @ 4:33 pm

    I think it is pretty normal for the stress to override the excitement during a lot of the planning. Just remember how lucky you are to have found the perfect person for you and to be planning a day where all of your friends and family will show how much they care about you by being there to party with you. A good way to answer the question is “I am most excited to be married!”

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    mhb, Guest @ 4:38 pm

    You know when I got excited? Like, REALLY excited? When I was in the shower at my parents’ suite in the hotel, on the morning of the wedding, shaving my legs. Honestly. I had been looking forward to the wedding, of course, and I had wanted to marry him for years, but in that one soapy moment it all hit me, all at once. I almost fell out of the shower. For the rest of the day I was just ecstatic.

    Actually, I remember Mrs. Onion had a great picture of the moment it hit her, too. I’m thinking that’s pretty normal: there’s that point when it no longer matters what’s up with centerpieces and musicians, it’s about to happen and it’s going to be great.

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    HC, Guest @ 4:39 pm

    It hit me the day before the wedding. We were decorating the reception space and I looked around and I just had to stop and walk over to my mom and say “it’s my wedding…..” we both struggled with the tears then. Don’t worry. You will have your moment. It might be when the music swells and you are heading down the aisle, but you will have it.

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    ShirleyH, Guest @ 4:41 pm

    I’m not excited yet and my wedding is next month (holy moly!). My mind is just a bunch of checklists!

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    jen, Guest @ 4:46 pm

    Just an idea for your first dance worries: Instead of doing the dance when we first got to the reception, we did it after dinner (as a way to segue into open dancing for all) so this means that several drinks were consumed before getting on the dance floor. 😉

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    endb, Guest @ 4:49 pm

    With 7 weeks to go, the things that I thought would really send me over the top with excitement — bach party, showers, sending out invites — haven’t really. Probably because we’ve been engaged for more than a year — and dating for 7 years — so all of these milestones stir up sentiments more along the lines of “finally!” rather than “Ohmygoodness it’s happening!”. I think/hope when the wedding weekend festivities kick off, then I’ll be excited.

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    jlsween 91 posts, Worker bee @ 4:59 pm

    I’m with you– the planning stress tends to overwhelm the excitement. I’m sure we’ll be excited the day of!

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    Catherine, Guest @ 5:29 pm

    I’m waiting to give someone this response: “No. See, Dad traded me to my FI for six pigs, three goats, a cow and two oxen.”

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    oceanstorm, Guest @ 7:49 pm

    I expect it to hit me as I get in the car with my dad to drive to the church. I’m not one to ever be excited about something until I’m just about to step into it. Even then, sometimes I spend a whole event going, “Hm, okay, I should be feeling differently now, I think.” LOL I think we all experience “excitement” differently – some people are quieter and more reserved than others or more prone to stress or whatever. When people start asking me (my wedding is 6 1/2 mths away) I’ll probably just lie. lol

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    blackbird7, Guest @ 12:55 pm

    I’m getting married in 2 weeks, and thought I was thrilled when I got engaged, after 8 1/2 months of planning I’m just stresses and sick of thinking about it. I’m not excited at all, and I wish so much that we had eloped to a tropical resort somewhere. I can’t stand the family whining about where to sit, asking my questions they could easily solve for themselves, and EVERYONE EVERYDAY asking me ‘aren’t you so excited!?’. Cuz I’m not. I’m glad to be married, but if I had a choice I would go back in time and skip the big wedding and get married alone on a beach. Sorry to be a downer-You’ll feel better after the wedding! The marriage is still exciting!

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    Katie, Guest @ 10:57 pm

    This makes me feel SO much better! I’m so sick of the wedding being all I ever think or talk about! I’m not an interesting person anymore! My apartment is filled with purple stuff, and everyone is asking me stupid questions like where they should park for the rehearsal dinner and what they should wear! So sick of being an event planner- I just want to be a wife!
    On top of all this I’m scared that I will hate my hair, make up, and dress and all of the photos!
    Who came up with this anyway? I just want to marry my love and get drunk with some friends and family! Thank you all for making me feel better!

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