Ms. Dahlia, Detroit/Cleveland
Age and Occupation: 24, PhD Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, IT System Administrator
Engagement Date: December 31, 2006
Wedding Date: May 2008
Blogging Since: September 19, 2007
Venue: United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland
About Me: I enjoy cooking, dancing and swimming. I am a geek and apply game theory to my everyday life. Winter is my favorite time of year, especially when spent curled up with good coffee and a book by Madeleine L'Engle.
Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me a Match
May 13th, 2008 @ 2:41 pm by Ms. Dahlia
Last night we were double checking the seating chart, making sure that everyone is seated appropriately (i.e. non-drinkers are not located next to the bar, crazy relatives are separated, that sort of thing.) Reflecting on it as we were lying in bed, we started thinking about which “singles” we could possibly pair up. (It actually reminded me of high school sleepovers.)
No, we’re not doing a singles table, as most people naturally fall into a particular group (high school friends, college friends, grad school friends) of people. But Mr. Dahlia’s got this friend from high school, and I’ve got this friend from college, and well, it seems like they would just be perfect for each other.
I know that this sort of meddling typically doesn’t work out very well, but it is so tempting.
Anyone else playing matchmaker at their wedding? (And if you met your special someone at a wedding, please share!)
17 Responses to “Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me a Match”
That’s how Mr. Cookie and I met — at the wedding of two mutal friends. The bride and groom totally played matchmaker and I am sure glad they did!
I’m tempted but since I don’t know most of his single guy friends, I’d have to grill FH to make sure I’m not sitting a dear friend with a swine. 
awww, go for it! sometimes it really does work out…we were introduced by a mutual friend who predicted we’d marry before we had ever even dated! He’s single and I would LOVE to see him find someone special at our wedding…hmmm…now I just gotta figure out who… 
I didn’t meet my FH at a wedding but I think that is and sly and wonderful idea If you know a couple that would be perfect for each other I say go ahead and seat them near each other, but also make sure they are sitting w/ someone else they know
DO IT!!! Why let someone miss out on an opportunity for love And if it doesnt work out…so what? I know MANY people that have met at weddings…it sets the mood for romance, of course!
We met at a wedding! Well, technically the weekend before at the Jack/Jill bachelor/ette party. My fiance was the Best Man and I the Maid of Honor. It was instant chemistry like I never knew existed outside of a romantic comedy and we spent the whole next week thinking about each other. By the time the reception wrapped up we were heading out for a bottle of wine and ended up sitting up talking until dawn. The rest, as they say, is history.
I say - go for it! There is no harm done in a little behind the scenes tempting of fate. Either the friends hit it off or they don’t…if nothing else they may just meet a great friend.
I say go for it! I met my future husband at his sisters wedding and we have been inseparable ever since! We really hit it off and stayed up talking in the lobby until 6 a.m.!
I introduced my best friend and a close friend from college and I now have two little god children to show for it. DO IT!
FYI, I did NOT tell them I was setting them up, but just arranged for them to meet naturally in a group setting and let nature take its course. I think this is the best way, so that no one feels nervous or pressured.
Well I didn’t meet my FI at a wedding, but my parents did.
Actually, the story is that my mom and dad were both in the wedding party. My dad was supposed to get set up with another bridesmaid and my mom was supposed to get set up with another groomsman. However, they both thought they were supposed to be set up with each other, ended up clicking, and eventually marrying!
My mom just emailed me asking to make my uncle’s wife’s little sister (whom I have never met) the maid of honor, and my brother the best man because she wanted to set them up. I told her absolutely not…. whereas I then brokeout in hysterical laughter.
Definitely do it! Like many of the previous posters, I met my fiance at our mutual friends’ wedding. (Actually, like Cyd, we met the weekend of the bachelorette/bachelor parties but we didn’t get together until the wedding!) We were the only single people at our table, and even though I’d been told he was shy and wouldn’t dance, I asked him to dance and we were on the floor all night!
Like Cyd, my husband and I met when he was the best man and I was the maid-of-honor! We didn’t do anything beyond some simple flirting at the wedding, but he did ask his brother for my number, and the rest is history. So, even if your friends don’t necessarily hit it off at your wedding, do be willing to give out numbers after the fact
Also, just as one more reason to try the setting-up, I’m standing up in my college roomie’s wedding in two weeks, and that wedding came to be by my meddling in her and my best guy friend’s love lives! It can definitely work out, I promise.
*chants* Do it, do it! Like Peng said, this is a opportunity for lurve. If it doesn’t work out, fine, but if it does? You will be responsible for the coming together of two awesome people!
My good friend met her serious boyfriend at a wedding and she was alerted in advance to the fact that there would be an available guy there sitting with her. It was still organic though because after all without chemistry it ain’t gonna happen.
I met my partner at my ex-roommate’s wedding. My ex-roommate has sworn many times it was not a set up, and the only reason why he ended up sitting next to me is because she kept on forgetting to put him at a table. At the very last minute she remembered and there happened to be a space next to me. Accident, she claimed.
Either way, it worked out. We clicked and we are still together.
Oooooo, I want to be a matchmaker so bad at our wedding!! I have two single friends coming without dates, and FI has three single guys coming without dates. I didn’t put them at the same table, but since they’re the only single people there, I’m sure they’ll gravitate toward each other. I’m really hoping for a match to be made! It would make for great day after gossip!
Plus I met FI at an engagement party, so it would have a little bit of sentimental value as well!
I have a male friend who I grew up with next door, but he moved when we were 8. We’ve kept in touch and he flew all the way out for my wedding! Naturally, he didn’t know anyone besides me and my mother, + he is single. So one of my bestest female friends, feeling down because she wasn’t going to have a date for my wedding, jokingly asked me to see if he might save a dance for her. Well, after running it by him, I decided to seat him with my single friend, and he obliged to the dance. I guess he was pretty brave to agree to all of this, but I figured he’d rather be at a table with other people his age anyhow (I had originally planned to seat him at my Mom’s table). Well, it worked out and the two got along quite well that night!
