Mrs. Flamingo, Montreal, Canada
Age and Occupation: 25, Graphic Designer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Nursing Student
Engagement Date: December 2004
Wedding Date: June 21, 2008
Venue: Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)
About Me: I am a passionate designer who loves anything pretty. I heart all paper products (eco-friendly of course). My passion revolves around anything considered glamour; vintage and modern. In my free time, I love reading Martha mags, designing jewelry and making a pit-stop at Starbucks for a chai latte. I'm also a chocoholic at heart and my family drools over my homemade truffles.
Our Dance, No Song
May 15th, 2008 @ 5:27 pm by Mrs. Flamingo
Our first dance song choice has been a source of debate for the longest time, but being almost a month away from the wedding, I think it’s time to make a decision. I wanted to use “our song” - I truly love it and it would have so much more meaning if we danced to it on our wedding day. It’s not a popular song and that’s what I love about it. I’m really into unique song choices and Lifehouse’s Take me away (acoustic version) is just that.
Everyone who has heard the song has loved it. The issue: Mr. Flamingo doesn’t seem to want to dance to it. He says that the song is too slow and too long. It’s true but still… it’s our song! I’ve tried to find other options but I don’t seem to LOVE anything. Any suggestions for unique love song?
Are you dancing to “your song”?
21 Responses to “Our Dance, No Song”
we don’t have an “our song” — your dj should be able to shorten “your” song. We’re shortening both of the parent songs b/c I think that can be dreadfully boring for guests to sit through. Maybe you could talk to your DJ about that and both have what you want?
Have you thought about only dancing to part of it by yourselves, and then inviting all the other married couples (or guests in general, or whatever) up to dance? That way it’s not everyone staring at you the whole time…Or you could edit the song down so that it isn’t so long…
Good luck! We are 3 weeks away and still haven’t decided on a song. I should get on that!
FH and I have both been Lifehouse fans forever (in fact, it’s one of the things that brought us together ;)), and we absolutely loveeee that version of Take Me Away! I think that if it’s a song that you love and really means a lot to you, you could probably make it work! It’s not too hard to edit the song down, especially if you have DJ already. And maybe you and Mr. Flamingo could also do a little choreography to give the dance more interest.
what about cutting the cake to your song? or maybe playing it during dinner and the DJ announces it’s your song - so everyone will look at you for a sec and you can share a kiss?
GL!
Nope, we’re not. “Our song” - Leaving on a jet plane - just doesn’t make sense in the context of a wedding. I also have a thing about looong dances at weddings (especially if the couple just moves around in a little circle for 4 minutes - I mean come on!), and when I love a song I can’t get myself to shorten it! We’ll probably do what jen suggested above and play our song at some other point and choose a different, 2 to 3ish minute song that we’ve always loved for our first dance.
We are dancing to “our song,” which is What Are You Doing New Years’ Eve. Luckily it’s not long, and we have a band, so they can make it faster or slower as we like. It is pretty odd for a July wedding, but what the heck.
Also, I wonder what kind of dancing you were thinking of doing? It’s a nice tempo for a ballroom two-step; you wouldn’t really want it any faster (was just trying it out in my office - we had dance lessons last night).
We’ll be dancing to “our” song: Ben Folds’ “The Luckiest.” We considered singing it as a duet at the reception, but we both cry our eyes out every time we hear it, so it might be better just to dance to it 
Yup, we’re dancing to “our” song-Far Away by Nickelback. Your DJ could shorten the song. I don’t think there’s any reason you couldn’t dance to your song.
Our song is #41 by Dave Matthews Band. So not very dancable, but we’ll have th DJ fade in and out of it so its only two minutes, not 6!
we’re considering John Legend’s “Stay With You”. Its always touched my heart and one of our best memories was a John Legend concert.
but its long…..so i’m considering shortening it…..i hope our bootleg dj can do that for us.
You should go with something that makes you happy and feels right to both of you as a couple. I love the suggestion of having the DJ shorten the song. You *definitely* don’t want it to be too long, as we learned from personal experience!
(Our iPod system went horribly wrong, and our only music was thanks to the heroic efforts of our photog assistant and her iPhone. She was wonderful for allowing us a first dance, but the song was … not our choice. And looooong. We were afraid we’d never get to stop dancing!!)
“Our” song is the song we first danced to 4 years ago and it’s absolutely TERRIBLE: ‘I Put Your Picture Away’ by Kid Rock and Sheryl Crow. It’s a breakup song for crying out loud. It always makes us crack up but I don’t think it’s appropriate for our first dance. Unfortunately, the FI thinks it would be hilarious and is pushing for it. Sigh…
As for yours, it’s sweet–you should totally shorten it. Why not have a medley of 2 shortened songs? Your hubby can pick the other one and your DJ can mix them together (or do it beforehand and burn it on a cd). I think that would be pretty cool.
Nope! I’m walking down the aisle to our song
I was going to agree with Becky above… I’ve seen that done at a wedding a few times and it works… It also helps with those xtra long songs =)….
~Ash
My favorite is “To Love Somebody” and my favorite version is this one by Ray Montagne/Damien Rice. I think I’m going to actually walk down the aisle to our friend playing/singing it. The lyrics are beautiful, I just love it. This song has been covered by a lot of different people, so there are many versions to choose from.
@getmarried for less - that’s our song too! I don’t think it’s waay too long - it helps that it’s a bit uptempo. the studio sessions version is 8 sec. shorter and has more feeling, if that makes sense to you.
i LOVE this song. our song is relient k “must have done something right”.. i wonder how that goofy song could be included in a wedding i think it’d be a wonderful first dance song, it’s just slow enough for slow close dancing!
our song is definitely not danceable. it’s iron & wine’s version of “such great heights”. sure, we could dance to the postal service version… but i really don’t think that version gives the song enough sweet factor. so we’re not dancing to it.
on a side… lifehouse is fantastic and this song is just so sweet.
Our song is a recent development… Jason Mraz’s “Im Yours.” We considered playing/singing it to each other at some point but a) that feels a little on the cheesy side and b) I think it would be sweet to have it as our first dance song. But it’s waaaay too fast. I don’t know what to do about that.
We don’t really have a song. The song we chose to dance to was less than 3 minutes, but still our DJ invited the bridal party out about halfway and then the rest of the guests a little later. It was a great way to get people on the dance floor for a few minutes before dinner and got the party started.
