Mrs. Corn, Newport, RI
Age and Occupation in '07: 31, HR for public accounting firm
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Consultant for public accounting firm
Engagement Date: October 7, 2006
Wedding Date: September, 2007
Blogging Since: June 1, 2007
Venue: North Lawn of Fort Adams State Park
About Me: I am a lazy scrapbooker who loves the instant gratification of making cards and I am very easily distracted by all things shiny. In honor of my childhood nights spent hibachi BBQing on the beach with my family, we are hosting a traditional New England Clambake for our reception.
Looking Back, Continued…
May 23rd, 2008 @ 3:48 pm by Mrs. Corn
This installment of my ‘Looking Back’ series* focuses on one of the details about my big day that I wish I had done differently: I should have taken a moment to focus.
So this one is a small thing, but I hope it’s meaningful that I have made it my goal to share it with every bride I ever encounter…
When you think about it; your wedding day is just. one. day. The hours and the minutes of your wedding day are divided up the same as any other day of your life. The ceremony, for most people, is 30 - 60 minutes of one day of your whole life. And the time it takes to walk down the aisle is mere seconds.
And you don’t ever get to do it again.
Cherish. that. moment.
Stop at the top of the aisle, and count in your head for 5 seconds.
1 Hippopotamus
2 Hippopotamus
3 Hippopotamus
4 Hippopotamus
5 Hippopotamus
While you are standing there, look at the people who are gathered there to support you. Register their faces in your mind. Because unless you have two photographers, no one will will be able to capture that moment except you and your escort.
I would also add to this, to ask whoever is with you in those moments before you walk, to remind you to take your 5 seconds. If possible, maybe even have them shake you up a bit so you have a fighting chance of being able to focus on that moment.
You will not be sorry you did. 
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*Previously in this series…
I’m so glad I did this:
renting a full length mirror
setting my DIY deadline for a week out from the wedding
making arrangements for my disabled father so he could participate
I wish I could fix this:
being too proud to start a few minutes late
not testing all of the directions before sending them out
12 Responses to “Looking Back, Continued…”
I needed to hear this badly. This series could NOT have come at a better time for me! Thanks Cornholio!
I really love this series you’re doing. This is exactly the type of thing I *wouldn’t* do, so thank you so much for the reminder
Thank you, that is excellent advice.
Mrs. Corn, this series is so meaningful. In the last few weeks before the wedding, the things you’ve shared are the only type of advice that really means anything at this point (I mean everything has been decided and I’m done talking about centerpieces and bustles and timelines!). Keep it coming! Thank you so much.
thank you for sharing this series. i plan to book mark your post so that in 5 post when i am undoubtedly spazzing out just a bit, i can take in the true advice that actually matters….
Excellent advice. I did this right after the doors swung open and I was (mostly) able to soak in the moment. It also gives the photog and videog a nice moment to catch some good shots. In addition to this pause, we also asked our preacher to give us a stuctured moment during the ceremony in which we could turn around and look at everyone. So neat to see all the smiling faces looking back at you.
I love love this advice… I just hope I follow it! Thanks!
Great advice. Thank you
WONDERFUL advice. I wish I had done that.
I love reading this series you are posting here- thanks for thinking of all of us future brides!
