I think somehow someone has hit a switch somewhere and turned everything into bizarro world because I’ve been feeling almost as though, the closer the wedding gets, the calmer we get and the more everyone else freaks out.
Picture courtesy of www.badastronomy.com. What kind of geek would I be if I didn’t make a Douglas Adams reference?
Case #1: Last week, Mr. Hum’s father was having some soil delivered to spruce up his flower beds before our big day (seriously, this man is going above and beyond in terms of preparation!). Anyway, the people delivering the soil pulled the truck up along the side of the house and, for whatever reason, the weight of the truck was too heavy and it sunk deep into the lawn so far it had to be pulled out by another truck. After it was removed, there were a couple of gouges out of the ground where the tires had been and Mr. Hum’s stepmum freaked out, stressing that we would be upset that the lawn wasn’t perfect. Mr. Hum and I just laughed it off and assured her that it was not a big deal.
Picture courtesy of www.petchhouse.blogspot.com. These are not our tire tracks but similar.
Case #2: I told some girlfriends of mine I hadn’t booked my hair appointment yet and they looked at me like I was insane and urged me to call the salon right away because there was no way I would be able to get a spot on a Saturday in June. I casually gave the salon I was interested in going to a shout and they fit me and my Matron of Honour in no problem.
Picture courtesy of www.pro.corbis.com. What ever happened to scrunchies, anyway? Do they still make them?
Case #3: My friend John, who I have known since my Benjamin Moore paint wench days and who agreed to do our music, e-mailed me panicked because he was afraid that he could somehow do something bad to our stereo stepup and “ruin our day”. I had to assure him that everything would be okay and that if, on the off-chance something did go wrong with our equipment, it would be totally okay and that I would just hum myself down the aisle.
A picture from my paint wench days. I am second from the left and John is the second from the right.
If I’m not mistaken, we are 19 and 17 respectively in this picture and now I’m getting married and he is headed off to teacher’s college in the Fall. Time goes so fast!
As someone who is regularly a bit of a stresspot, it’s a little strange to be the logical one right now, but it is actually kind of sweet that people are so concerned that everything is right and goes well on our big day.
Have you had anyone involved in your wedding freak out over something you didn’t really think was important or a big deal? Who was it and what was it about?
My family all stayed over in the hotel where we were getting ready the night before my sister’s wedding. My mom had the orchids we were going to use in my sister’s hair, and placed them in the mini fridge in the room — only to find, in the morning, they were totally wilted and non-usable! She discovered the reason when she realized a fruit salad also in the fridge was frozen! My mom freaked about this, and STILL feels bad about it — it’s been over 6 months! — but my sister took it all in stride, and used a few blooms from the surprise bouquet her now-husband had delivered to the room.
thank you…
i’m sitting here with tears brimming my eyes bc my 1st cousin didn’t order her bm dress and the order has already been places. i’ve taken this as a personal problem with me (she has a problem with me. doesnt want to be in the wedding anymore)…but i shouldn’t.
if she’s going to order a dress, then she’ll order a dress. and if its off a bit, i really dont care. it will not affect my wedding in no way whatsoever.
My wedding was a week and a half ago and with the exception of crying the day before the rehearsal because I’d realized I’d forgeotten to pick out what song I wanted to walk down the aisle to (really…who forgets to do that!) I was super calm. Actually the few days before everyone was really laid back and it was great. Whatever happens, happens so just roll with it. You’ll be so happy you won’t even realize. (At our wedding 2 groomsmen were missing their suit pants, our recessional music didn’t play correctly, and we thought a bee stung one of my bridesmaids in the mouth (it was a fly that buzzed in her mouth)…I didn’t notice any of it (except the fly/bee one) until people told me after the wedding….I was in wedding lala land 
It’s so true, everyone starts freaking out right before the wedding. I was calm up until my mother came into to town an stressed me out beyond belief. Thank god for the MOH!
People keep wanting us to stress out, too! I sent my aunt an email saying, I think the reason people stress out before a wedding is they want everything to be PERFECT. I’m not perfect and neither is FH. So, we’re aiming a little lower. We just want a nice day with people we love and people who love us.
didn’t calm her down a bit. But… you’re right. Keep your head in the clouds and enjoy the experience. You’ve planned, you’ve done what you could, there’s no need to be miserable or a nervous wreck.
i got this way before my wedding too. we went to vegas for our wedding and i spent the 2 months or so before the wedding stressing over every tiny detail, writing out down to the minute schedules, etc.
the week before, i decided “eh, you know what, i’m just gonna go w/the flow”, and was super calm the entire rest of the time (except for the plane ride, but those make me anxious anyway). it was so much nicer that way. 
lol. I love Douglas Adams.
I’m actually the one starting to freak out, whereas everyone else is annoyingly calm. It had been the other way around for the past year, but now that it’s less than two months away and we STILL don’t have music or a caterer, and NO ONE ELSE CARES…I’m the freak-out one. lol. I used to be so laid-back!! Bah.
Okay…you quoted one of my absolute favourite sci-fi books. You rock.
I’m in the same boat! I was stressed and worried a few weeks ago..but I’m finding as the date gets closer (17 days!) I’m just super excited and really zen about the small details. My BM kinda freaked when she wasn’t getting micromanaged feedback about her choice of jewellery to wear, but seriously as long as it’s nice….whatever! I’m finding it much easier to just go with the flow. I figure as long as my guy is there waiting for me at the end of the aisle…then everything will be perfect for me.
from one geek to another I say… “what were you doing in the car park?!!” “parking cars, what else?”
Oh Mr. Adams, you left us too soon. I wish he had worked a wedding into a book, how funny would that have been?
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Mrs. Hummingbird, Toronto
Age and Occupation: 25, Publishing Coordinator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Videogame Designer/Cartoonist
Engagement Date: May 4, 2007
Wedding Date: June 28, 2008
Blogging Since: September 18, 2007
Venue: A garden wedding followed by a tented reception on Mr. Hummingbird's father's property.
About Me: I’m a pop culture loving, vintage obsessed foodie living in Canada’s biggest city with my fantastic fiancé and our lovable fluffy cat Bettie. I’m stoked to marry my best friend and to throw what I hope will be
the most fun and colourful party of our lives.
a) you are my nerd hero for the Douglas Adams reference.
b) my sister and brother-in-law were total stress nuts at our rehearsal and on our wedding day. In retrospect, I know it’s because they love us and wanted the day to be PERRRRFECT, but it was a bit annoying at the time.
c) stay chill - you’re going to have such a fun wedding!