Mrs. Cream Puff, San Francisco Bay Area
Age and Occupation: 25, Illustrator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 31, Merchandise Planner
Engagement Date: May 27, 2007
Wedding Date: August, 2008
Blogging Since: February 7, 2008
Venue: Ceremony at Crissy Field and Reception at the Green Room
About Me: I never dreamed about my wedding as a little girl because I was too busy playing in the mud or pretending to be Martha Stewart–but now that it's here, I'm having a fabulous time DIYing everything in sight! We’re planning a very fun multicultural wedding (I'm Jewish and Mr. Cream Puff is Chinese), filled with as many personal details as I can muster.
The Shower Invite!
June 4th, 2008 @ 12:47 pm by Mrs. Cream Puff
I am so super excited!! The other day I got home from Oregon to find this ADORABLE pink invitation waiting for me! How freakin’ cute are these? I am totally afraid of my shower, but have been feeling much better since the host (my friend Amanda) has made me feel very loved by throwing it for me. I’m so excited.
And I really love cupcakes, so who wouldn’t be excited by an invitation that looks like this?!
Also, I heard a rumor that there would be ice cream. I really like ice cream.
And candy.
And cookies.
And cupcakes.
Sadly, Amanda has informed me that a lot of people have been RSVPing that they can’t come. They’ve already planned trips, they can’t afford to come to San Francisco from wherever they live, etc. I know that I’m not the only person out there who will have less than stellar attendance at her shower. It’s kind of sad, huh? I remember my cousin Deborah’s shower was packed with all of our family members. Only one of my cousins can make it to my shower. I’m wondering if we should have chosen a date months ago…?
23 Responses to “The Shower Invite!”
I’m in the same boat Cupcake. All my girlfriends and family live around the country and won’t be able to come until the wedding. My shower will be really small — max. 10 ladies.
I think if people want an excuse not to come, they’ll find any excuse no matter how accomodating you may be.
I am a wedding bee addict, and rarely\ post — but I wanted to say thanks for writing that! I think our shower will be less than well attended because people have made other plans and so many of my friends are scattered across the country, and I was really feeling bad about it — glad to know others are in the same boat.
Don’t worry about it Miss. Cream Puff…no matter what date you pick, there will always be someone who can’t make it. I had my shower a month ago and there were a hand full of ladies that couldn’t make it…I was quite surprised too, but try not to take it personally. You’ll have a fanatistic time - the invite says it all!
I had a big attendence but the sad thing is… DH’s family show up… none of the cousins showed up at all. None has even said sorry for not attending. Oh yah and his brother. But we made the best of it. You will too. These things have their disappointment of absence.s.. I didn’t hold back to say to some people I was upset to some even events even though they had valid reasons. It felt good to talk to them about it though and it helps with the letting go of that anger. You’ll enjoy yourself. I know you will.
I’m also likely to have 10 women max at my shower — three of my closest friends live thousands of miles away, and since the shower is planned for only about 7 weeks before the wedding, I definitely don’t expect them to fly out to San Francisco twice in two months! And the wedding is far more important. I’ve decided to think of it that way — plus keeping it small means I get that much more quality time with the people who are there, rather than feeling spread too thin and “on display” myself. 
I am not having a shower because of my long distance from my close friends and family. I was asked by a couple of people to if they could host, but I turned them down. Logistically it was the best idea and I am not sad about it at all. I told them both that all that I truly wanted was for them to come to my wedding.” …. Mostly all of my guests will be traveling. I have a small guest list. I invited 100 and only 60 are coming. It is a lot to ask - most declines would have to travel from the opposite coast. As Mrs Lovebugs says - Quality vs. Quantity.
very cute! my shower will probably be small as well even though my sis has already started planning, I am glad I am not alone.
Cute invites.
Sorry to hear about the low attendance. I’ve mostly been to large showers (30 - 40 ppl plus) but I really enjoyed going to the few where there were only a handful of people. It’s more intimate, it allowed you to get more one-on-one time with the guest of honor, guests didn’t lose interest while the bride or mom-to-be opened gifts and the food was usually better.
I’m sure you’ll have a great time.
Think of the pros of an intimate shower that you can’t have at a bigger shower: better game prizes, more on-on-on time with guests, i’m sure you’ll get some nice notes from those who can’t attend!
It’s hard for people out of town to travel in for it, especially if they will be back for the wedding a month and a half later. Our moms felt bad about it but didn’t go to our shower. We had three out of towners come to our bachelorette/bachelor/shower weekend. One guy went to the bachelor but not the wedding (he couldn’t do both) - that’s a definite guy thing to do!
Our bachelorette and bachelor parties were the same night (for couples with kids only one person went) so we each had about 6 friends (One of my local bridesmaids was out of town but everyone else local I’d want to have be there made it). It actually was the perfect number. Some friends knew each other well, some were new and the number let us all talk together as a big group. The co-ed shower was the next day with all the people from the night before (plus a few extra significant others plus kids). It was a really nice sized group! I can’t imagine having 30-40 people or whatever someone mentioned.
Great invite… the party will be a blast no matter what! Fun groups start at numbers as low at under 10, so it will be fun no matter what.
My shower is this Saturday, and we’re having milkshakes and cupcakes. YEY!!
My shower is this weekend. I invited like 35 people..Only 13 or 14 can actually come and that includes the 5 hostesses. But I tell myself that all the important people will be there. All my BM’s, my mom (who is flying down from PA), and my grandmothers. I feel kinda sad that more people can’t come and feel bad that my friends have planned so hard.
But I think it will be a good time.
Adorable invite! My shower will likely be very small too. My boy has all brothers, and my mother’s sisters and all my female cousins live in Utah, and I’m in Virginia. You’re not alone!
Yeah, I almost didn’t have a shower because I knew it would be super small b/c of travel considerations. My sis was intent on throwing one anyway (so sweet!) so I’ll have a mini-shower. Luckily my two best friends can make it, in addition to my sister. So even if it’s just us, it will be fun!
Hope you had a good time in Oregon! 
yeah my shower was in april and I had invited 30 ppl, 10 rsvped yes but 4 ppl canceled the day before. If I had known that, I would’ve invited more. The shower still went well and we had a blast so I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I also had a work shower that one of my coworker threw for me which was nice.
i’ll speak up too…i dont think my shower will be very well attended. so many family and friends live far away……at best, there will be a handful. a few local aunts, my grandma, and probably my local bridesmaids…….not going to lie, the thought is saddening…..
instead of a bachelorette party, i really hope that i can have more of a slumber party…i think that would be more fitting for my handful of friends who can make it.
Aww Puff! I totally feel you!! My shower only had 9 in attendance (including me and hosting bridesmaids). You are not alone in your sentiments, but you will have a lovely time regardless!!
Chin up - as others have noted, fun times can be had! Picking dates is always difficult - ours changed 4 times (!) due to schedule conflicts and that was just immediate family and our fabulous MOH, who is hosting. We settled on a date, but are not sure who can make it. However it shakes out, we’ll make the most of it.
Mine too! One of my friends is having a shower for me where we live - wedding and entire family is in a different state. I’m only inviting about 5-6 couples from where I live now, and that means only 5-6 girls will be invited. It’s a little sad because I feel like I should have more friends here, but many of my friends are people I just can’t see inviting to the wedding, which I’m trying to keep small despite our huge families. I think it will be fun though, and no threat of toilet paper wedding dresses or anything like that
Thanks, you guys. I’m actually not worried about it at all. Less people should be better for the present-anxiety thing. Here’s hoping! Good luck at all of your showers!!
S@Miss Cream Puff: so cute! Where did she get these made? Designed herself? you have some thoughtful friends!
