Wedding Blog
Sometimes it’s hard not to get lost in the chaos of planning a wedding. Somewhere between picking out ribbons for the invitations and accessories for the tuxes, it has become easy to mull over whether or not we want the pineapple or apple-colored toaster. Despite the fact that I feel very passionately about my love for the apple-colored toaster, I would take pineapple in a second if it made Mr. Candy Corn make his happy the-Eagles-just-scored-a-touchdown-and-won-the-game face (for those of you who aren’t familiar with the Eagles, this is quite rare).
What I’m trying to say (underneath all of this babbling) is that I don’t want the entire point of this wedding to get lost under linens and things. No one else would accept me for eating an entire block of cheese for dinner and no one else would accept him for dutch ovening* them one month into their relationship (see definition below, for those of you who have significant others who are nice enough not to torture you with their bodily functions).
*Dutch Oven:The act of trapping a person under bed covers after releasing vile ass fumes
Does anyone else ever feel like they get wrapped up in the little details too much, when the only thing that really matters is that you have each other?
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I certainly do - a perfect example was last night. I was designing the match books. This is one of the few requests that my fiance asked for, so I placed it on the list. I finally made the time and wanted his choice on the designs. I asked him which one do you want. His response was “The only thing I want at the wedding is you”.
Too hilarious and well…gross. ;o) No, but I totally get what you are saying and I can’t believe the timing. I often find myself debating about colors and decor when all I really care about happens to look good anywhere…my FH! ;o)As long as he is sharing the journey who cares what color our linens are!
@sarahbe:
awww that just made me a little weepy at work 
@gnp:
heheh so true
Yep.
Although, my pet peeve is when FI says the only thing that he cares about is that we’re getting married, because I’m not the only one with expectations about the wedding (full dinner/bar and live band = his idea). He has the ability to say it when I’m most frustrated, so I always come back with “Then why don’t we just go down to the courthouse today?” which reminds him that we both want to plan a special day for not only ourselves but our family and friends. While I also know that (as Dounut’s post shows beautifully) I too only care that we’ll be married, it takes some balance to plan a day that everyone will enjoy as well. My very smart (and married) sister said: “The marriage is for you; the wedding is for everyone else.”
I feel you. Sometimes, actually a lot, because I am sooooo busy with work I get lost in my to-do list. And because this is the only time in my life that I will plan my own wedding, I want to savor every moment, but I fully admit that I get caught-up in the details.
One really chaotic and crazy wedding planning day, Mr. Cookie turned to me and said, “All I want to do is spend the rest of my life with you, to me that is what the wedding is all about.” He took my breath away with that statement, and it was just another example why I am marrying him.
We have a work and wedding free night every week that is just us time. It really helps us to maintain our relationship in the chaos of life, and I always look forward to a stress free night with Mr. Cookie.
You and Jack Handey, baby, you blow my mind. 
But it is totally true. I think sometimes with the momentum of a wedding, it is easy to get swept up in things. Thankfully, we all have moments when our significant other can bring us back down to earth, sometimes by farting.
My FI and I had this same discussion last night. He was looking at everything and told me that he was amazed at how gorgeous and coordinated everything was, and that I had done such a wonderful job with over a year left to go. Then he told me, “When it is all over, and the last monogrammed napkin is used, I will still have you, and that it what matters to me.” He said that our day will be lovely, and the best part of the whole day will be knowing that he gets to spend the rest of his life with me. That made me feel so blessed and really put everything into perspective for me!
I had this exact comment about a month ago– just before my fiance and I actually trudged off to pre cana. Three months out, I had so many details in my head and on the day planner, that the wedding was really just an event. Oddly enough, pre cana for us was a big reminder of the day. We are not religious, so this came as a surprise. That said, talking about your future dreams, hopes, ideas for the marriage no matter what context are a great fun idea for keeping it in perspective.
that was my primary goal before getting engaged and now that i am, i try very hard to to keep the relationship the primary focus. it helps that i dont have much money so there are that many details i can go gaga over…and we’re living far apart right now, so i miss him so much all i can think about is how it will be when we are together, forever, for life.
I just want to throw out that the Dutch Oven must have some deep, primordial meaning to men - it is the sign he has found his mate for life.
It’s when you do it back to him that you know he’s right. :-p
i was totally dutch ovened a month into the relationship too. it’s like that “third rock from the sun” episode where mary farts in front of dick for the first time. it was a momentous occasion that showed them it was simply meant to be.
anyway, i’m too early into the wedding planning to get REALLY swept away with details… but i’m sure both of us will get lost in the planning as well like most people. but we know we’re both equally looking forward to the most important detail about that day… we’re getting MARRIED!!!!
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Mrs. Candy Corn, Philadelphia
Age and Occupation: 24, Senior Editor/Writer & Freelance Illustrator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Inventory Manager for a Music Publisher
Engagement Date: September 1, 2004
Wedding Date: October, 2008
Blogging Since: May 6, 2008
Venue: Pennsylvania Museum of Archaelogy and Anthropology
About Me: I enjoy people watching (especially in New Jersey malls), obsessive collecting, drooling over contemporary art, browsing flea markets for vintage finds and eating an absurd amount of cheese. In my Philadelphia abode, I create mixed media artwork and one-of-a-kind home accessories in the company of my farmer-tanned husband, our Westiepoo (Betty White), our three rabbits (Cadbury, Willie Nelson and Applesauce) and our two frisky chinchillas (Ethel Funk and Maude).
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