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Sorry to have gone missing for a bit there. I suffered from a complete hard drive failure, had to have a new one sent and have all of my files extracted by the fantastically smart, technology geeks I have as friends…which brings me to my #1 detail about wedding planning that I recommend (aside from relaxing and remembering what the real purpose of the whole thing is): Back. Up. Everything!!!
Moving on…
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This installment of my ‘Looking Back’ series* focuses on one of the details about our big day that I wish we had done a little differently: I should have gone with my gut and not tossed the flowers.
I know there are lots of good arguments for both sides of this issue but for me, it came down to tradition: every wedding I have ever been to had a flower toss.
NOT every wedding I have ever been to has had a garter search-and-toss, so I nixed that idea early-on in the planning.
However, regardless of my gut feeling about the thing, I was bound and determined to have our wedding day have as many wedding-y moments as I could cram into it, so I went ahead with it anyway.
Truth be told, it really broke up the whole feeling of the reception. It was awkward, poorly attended (as I really only know a few single gals so none of them wanted to be singled out), and I ended up throwing the bouquet over everyone’s head thus making it an actual waste of time and perfectly good flowers.
Again, I understand this is a personal thing, but for me, I would have much preferred if I had loosened up my requirements on ‘what-makes-a-wedding-a-wedding’ and gone with the flow. If you are even thinking of leaving it out, I suggest going with your gut.
What about you guys? Any flower tossers out there?
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*Previously in this series…
I’m so glad I did this:
renting a full length mirror
setting my DIY deadline for a week out from the wedding
making arrangements for my disabled father so he could participate
having an ’open-door policy’ at the site where I got ready
going a little overboard with the theme
I wish I could fix this:
being too proud to start a few minutes late
not testing all of the directions before sending them out
forgetting to pause before rushing down the aisle
handling the cake cutting logistics
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