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Next month will mark one year since our engagement, and I am tired people. I am tired. Just a few weeks ago I was writing about all the little decisions driving me bananas and suddenly, I don’t care anymore. I think I’ve lost the will to plan.
It must be some sort of phenomenon that work gets exponentially busier as your wedding gets closer. I am swamped, I am exhausted, and therefore all the little things just don’t matter as much anymore. It’s not that I just don’t care, it’s more that the importance I placed on all of it is starting to fade a little. I am just ready to get on with this thing. I am ready to be married.
What if the flowers aren’t the same shade of green as the ties? As long as everyone dresses themselves and shows up, we’ll be fine. Those linens you picked out, what if we don’t have them anymore? Find me a close alternative and call it a day. We have to move the rehearsal dinner to another room, is that alright? As long as there is still food and booze, we’ll be fine. What if I put potato chips in your hair and charge you for two bobby pins worth of work? Then I’ll just do my hair myself, thank you 
At the end of the day, as long as everyone makes it there safely and I am able to say “I do” I am a happy girl. Are any of you experiencing this? Is it easier for you to just let things go as the wedding gets closer? Or do I just need a really long nap?
Sorry you’re feeling burnt out Miss Sundae. You said it best, as long as everyone gets to your wedding safely and you say “I do” to the man of your dreams, that’s all that will matter. Wedding planning can be a bit stressful especially because the bride is usually the one planning out the details. Take some time out for yourself to unwind. Perhaps a massage, silly girls night out, yoga anything non-wedding related will hopefully restore some peace of mind. Everything will be great and you will look amazing!
I am glad to know I’m not alone! I feel the same way and there are still so many details to confirm. I feel like every time I make one decision five more pop up to take its place.
Hang in there.
I’m definitely feeling the same way. We’re 3 weeks away from our wedding and instead of feeling last minute panic, mostly I’m like “the big stuff is in place, and everything else is insignificant.” It’s so liberating!
I’m right there with you! The closer it gets, I don’t want to do anymore work, I just want to be married and celebrate. It’s almost here though, just remember that! We are THISCLOSE to our wedding days!
That is EXACTLY how I have been feeling for a while now, don’t feel bad! I am about 3 weeks away from my wedding and I am just over it…I can’t think about all the little details anymore, I am unwilling to take on new projects. I am just ready to be done with it and be married. I am still excited, because I know that day will be the best one of my life, even if some of the details don’t work out, because I will get to marry my man that day. I’ve adopted this relaxed attitude and I refuse to let it go, because I do not need to be any more stressed out than I naturally am. I totally feel you, girl!
We’re at T-113 days, and while I’m dutifully rounding corners on cardstock and embossing swirlies onto shiny envelopes, my heart isn’t in it. And it’s not that I’m worried about the marriage! Sure, a large part of my reticence is because I feel like I’ve been let down my my Church - it’s like I’ve got my wonderful fiance, but without (the Catholic presence of) God, something is still missing. The worst part is, now that I don’t want to plan any more, there are more responsibilities on my list.
I feel EXACTLY the same way. At first I felt guilty and nervous that it was the sign of something bad.. But I’ve realized that I never really LOVED the planning to start with (though I tried to convince myself that I did in fact love every little detail) and now I’m just getting more comfortable with what the day is REALLY about: Getting to marry my best friend. I can suddenly see the beauty of eloping and small simple weddings. Hang in there!
Although I have not yet lost the will to plan, I just want to take a nap! Like you, my priorities at work have taken over my life, and I am just plain tired. Hang in there! The wedding will be here before you know it!
I know what you mean. I just don’t feel like it anymore! We’ve been engaged for almost a year and half and the wedding is still a month away. I keep finding myself rolling my eyes when people try to talk to me about the wedding or ask about the plans for “the big day”!
i can definitely empathize with that! at least congrats on the wedding almost being there and have fun!! and here’s a tiny bit of advice for those not yet engaged or have been shortly… i would suggest an engagement of 6-9 months. Weddings are so exciting and a lot to plan, but it really isn’t that hard to do in less than a year (unless you DIY on everything it’d be a little tougher I suppose!) 
My fiance and I will have been engaged for just over 6 months when we get married, and for me going longer would be tough. I got so excited about planning and getting married that waiting any longer would be tooo long and just wear me out! we’re both in college, too, and it really isn’t that hard to balance with schoolwork. trust me. Anyway, I certainly understand reasons for having a longer engagement, but I encourage couples to consider shorter as it is easier emotionally and a bit more exciting! any other opinions on that?
yes, we’ll be engaged about 7 mos…after reading the average engagement was 16 mos, and seeing most ladies on here, I was starting to worry about the short time…I know myself though, and TOO MANY options would present themselves and take over my life if I had a long engagement…thanks for the encouragement, love, and hand in there Miss Sundae!
This happened to me right before the wedding and it was actually good because (1) it helped me from feeling burned out and (2) it kept me from obsessing about little details right up until the last minute. So sometimes it can be a good thing– especially when it puts the event in perspective and reminds you that people are there to celebrate you two and probably won’t notice if there are monogrammed napkins and/or the table linens should have been a brighter color.
Ha! So funny I was telling my parents the same thing last night. We’ve been engaged for 15 months now and all details I was obsessing about are starting to get really overwhelming/annoying.
I think I agree with Mrs. Jasmine - its probably a blessing in disguise to just relax and go with the flow. you are so close, hang in there 
Yeah, I’ve lost the will to plan too. I’m kind of bored of planning, I just want the wedding now!
I think for some of us there is just a maximum of wedding stuff we can do and then we reach our fill.
Ohhh boy!!! I’m not the only one!!!! I guess its normal to feel this way. Thats exactly how I feel except, I don’t want anything anymore. Well then, lets just think of it as a big party and hang in there! Good luck and Congrats!
Haha, so true! We recently made up our to-do list for all the details for our wedding in 6 weeks. We took one look at it and started taking things off. We don’t want to spend all our free time planning the wedding! There are just all kinds of little things that just don’t matter enough to make the cut when you’re looking at a realistic schedule.
I am right there with you on this one. I have hit various stages of ‘ready for it just happen already’ though out the engagement but as I am now just over a month out I really really am ready for the wedding to just happen… so I can get on to married life! As much as I love the details- I am tired of thinking about them and fretting if everything will pull together.
Amen! I know how it is, after a almost 2 years of planning and 10 months to go. But, a nap is always recommended, regardless. 
I totally got the exact same way at my one year mark. After that point it just didn’t matter any more if the bridesmaids gowns were slightly different shades of brown or if the table linens weren’t *exactly* what we ordered.
Talk with your FI and pick a day of the week to be declared Wedding Free (we did Wedding Free Wednesdays) and then stick to it. Watch TV, read a book, go to an art gallery or just cuddle up on the couch and don’t talk or think about the wedding all day. It was a HUGE stress reliever for me and I found it a lot easier to get stuff done the rest of the week when I had WFW to look forward to.
I feel exactly the same way! And our wedding is also in September… I think it’s because all the excitement & newness has worn off, and the remaining planning just seems like details & work.
But I keep telling myself the same thing you do. That and no guest is going to pour over the details like I do, so don’t sweat the small things
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Mrs. Sundae, Chicago/Lake Geneva, WI Age and Occupation: 28, Knowledge Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Investment Advisor Engagement Date: July 20, 2007 Wedding Date: September 2008 Blogging Since: February 5, 2008 Venue: The Abbey Resort About Me: It’s hard to believe that by the time Mr. Sundae and I get married we will have been together for almost ten years. When we first met in college we split dollar pitchers and now we share the mortgage payments. Despite our love for the city we are looking forward to tying the knot in Lake Geneva, Wisconsin.
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